Archive for December, 2013

  • 5 Tips on How to Keep New Year’s Resolutions
    Why bother to make resolutions and then feel disappointed or guilty for breaking them? Do you get excited ...
  • Therapists Spill: How Therapy is Different from Talking to a Friend
    A common reason people give for not seeking therapy is that, well, it’s basically like talking ...
  • A New Year’s Resolution for Generosity
    Isn’t it wonderful? Every January 1, we get to have a fresh start. Ring out the old. Ring in the new. We can change something significant about our lives. New Year’s resolutions are a statement of hope. We make them, not to scold ourselves, but to hold out the possibility that we can change something. So we swear we’ll finally lose that 10 (or more) pounds, that we’ll quit bad habits we enjoy, or we’ll hit the gym more often. Never mind that studies show that almost 90 percent of such resolutions are broken within two weeks of New Year’s. Our intentions were good. Oh well. I think we break those self-promises almost as soon as they’re made because they are too ambitious. We ask ourselves to take on something that has been a long-term issue and then feel too discouraged or overwhelmed by the idea to really take it on. Then we feel even worse about ourselves because once again, we didn’t do it. So we have another piece of chocolate or another cigarette and promise that maybe we’ll go the gym tomorrow.
  • Postpartum Depression & Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder
    Pregnancy and childbirth bring feelings of joy, excitement and anticipation. They also can complicate existing mental health issues and can create ...
  • Our Superheroes, Ourselves
    What does Lex Luthor have to do with gossip? According to two of the psychologists in Our Superheroes, Ourselves, our penchant to dish about people and our delight in hating supervillains are very much connected. ...
  • Attachment-Focused EMDR: Healing Relational Trauma
    “Tapping resources” has a second meaning in EMDR therapy. In Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing, you literally tap them in — maybe on your knees, maybe on your shoulders. The movement is sometimes called “installing ...
  • Understanding & Coping with the Christmas Blues
    The stress of the holidays triggers sadness and depression for many people. This time of year is especially difficult because ...
  • The Human Spark: The Science of Human Development
    Few writers have made me feel this lucky for being a book reviewer, but Jerome Kagan has done it with The Human Spark. In his survey of human development that includes conception and first years, mental ...
  • Therapists Spill: My Biggest Mistake & What I Learned
    When we make mistakes many of us get stuck. We beat ourselves up. We blame ourselves for not ...
  • Fire Your Shrink & Read This Book Instead
    Stop whining, repeating harmful behaviors, making excuses. Pick one that fits and get busy. That’s what our author would tell us. When I began David M. Klein’s Fire Your Shrink and Read This Book Instead, my reaction ...
  • Fathers Reconnecting with Abandoned Kids
    Jesse came to therapy with an important project in mind. Mine was not the first office he’d been to. He’d already been ...
  • Thoughts Without a Thinker: Psychotherapy from a Buddhist Perspective
    My introduction to the blending of Western psychology and Buddhism was Psychotherapy East and West, by Alan Watts, many decades ago. My own work as a therapist has included an underlying Eastern philosophy. Yet somehow I ...
  • The Gap: The Science of What Separates Us from Other Animals
    We humans have always been fascinated with other animals. We keep them as pets, treat them as family, even buy them Halloween costumes. We make comments to our cats as we watch TV. However, as ...
  • Making Happy Changes in Your Holidays
    The holiday season has started and I’m often reminded of an elderly friend of mine. Whenever someone said “Have a happy ...
  • Obsessed: America’s Food Addiction — and My Own
    Have you ever heard a skinny, super successful, professional woman spouting the horrors of obesity? We all have, and the widespread reaction from anyone who has ever struggled with their weight is along the lines ...
  • Helping Your Anxious Child Become More Assertive
    The other day, I heard a grandfather talk about a phone call he received from his daughter. She told him ...
  • Want to Derail Your Relationship? Listen to this Common Advice
    When you're tying the knot, friends and family may share a few nuggets of advice for living happily ever ...
  • Affirm Your True, Authentic Self
    Every time you affirm your true, authentic self, every cell in your body cheers “Yes!” Every time you negate yourself or allow ...
  • The Secret of What Makes a Winner
    “Quitters never win and winners never quit.” That was a playground cheer when I was growing up. It turns out ...

 

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