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Attachment Panic, or Why You Can’t ‘Just Chill Out’

August 21st, 2014
All over the world, in many different languages, at this very moment (accounting for time differences), there are couples having a conversation that goes kind of like this: Woman: Why didn't you call me when you were going to ...

Safe with Me

BOOK REVIEW.
Amy Hatvany’s latest ‘can’t put down’ read and thought-provoking novel, Safe With Me, explores various themes - the role of technology in adolescents’ lives, grief management and dishonesty - but one that she truly delves into is the complexity surrounding domestic abuse. When Hannah, a single mother and successful salon stylist, tragically loses her 12-year-old daughter, ...

Mother’s Day is Family Day

Mother's Day is Family DayIt’s May and Mother’s Day is around the corner. However we may feel about the holiday, the greeting card and floral industries make it impossible to ignore. Mothers are supposed to be treated with breakfast in bed, a bouquet of roses, time ...

Book Review: Best Kept Secret

BOOK REVIEW.
“Cadence didn’t sit down one night and decide that downing two bottles of wine was a brilliant idea.” - Amy Hatvany Amy Hatvany’s Best Kept Secret is a gripping novel that explores the intricacies of a painful truth - the truth of addiction. “Cadence could be you, your neighbor, your friend,” author Kaira ...

Teen Daughters Need Moms Instead of Friends

Instinctual Detection of Deceit better than Conscious Efforts“I’ve tried so hard to be her friend. Why is she doing this to me?” Ginger, the mom I’m talking to, is upset and mystified. Fourteen-year-old Jessy has been acting up. She talks back to her mom. She doesn’t do all ...

I Love You — Now Change

I Love You -- Now ChangeThis is not the article you might have thought it was. This is not the one about the fact that people don’t change and why you’d better learn to just accept everything about your partner. No. This is about healthy requests ...

How to Manage a Critical Mom

How to Manage a Critical MomCasey’s mother is coming to visit next weekend. She doesn’t feel she can say no. After all, her mom and dad often have been very helpful. They paid for the two kids’ camps last summer. They are generous at birthdays. But ...

Parental Guilt Over Kids’ Perceived Failures, Part 2

Parental Anxiety Over Kids' Perceived Failures, Part 2Children’s struggles or failures -- real, perceived or anticipated -- can activate strong reactions of disappointment, shame and guilt in parents. Typically, this is most relevant in families with high-achieving parents whose children are inherently less driven and have ...

Phantom Pregnancy (Pseudocyesis): The Mind-Body Connection

Phantom Pregnancy (Pseudocyesis): The Mind-Body ConnectionPregnancy is an exciting time for expectant mothers. It’s a high point in women’s lives and one that will bring great changes. It brings many physical and emotional symptoms. A woman may feel complete and fulfilled when she knows that she ...

Parental Anxiety Over Kids’ Perceived Failures, Part 1

v Sometimes when kids don’t succeed fully, it reverberates with parents’ own dread of failure, leading to personalized reactions, or overreactions, and a cascade of negative cycles between parents and children. Certain families with children who are not high achievers, or who have impediments, are more vulnerable. ...

Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder

Complex Post-Traumatic Stress DisorderMichelle was terrorized for much of her childhood. Her father was an inconsistent presence and her mother expressed outright disdain for her. Often when Michelle went to her mother for comfort, she was accused of exaggerating or being a "crybaby" and sent away. Starting at age 4 until she was out of the house at 16, Michelle was molested by several family members -- including her brother, her uncle and a couple of cousins. As she grew up, different men in the neighborhood also sexually assaulted her. At 19, she began dating Carl, who initially was very affectionate. However, he then began to be suspicious of different friends of hers and concerned about how she spent her time. This escalated into more and more controlling behavior and occasionally he was physically violent.

Postpartum Depression & Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder

Postpartum Depression & Post-Traumatic Stress DisorderPregnancy and childbirth bring feelings of joy, excitement and anticipation. They also can complicate existing mental health issues and can create new mental health problems during the pregnancy, at the time of the birth and afterward. Mother and baby both can ...

Making Happy Changes in Your Holidays

Making Happy Changes in Your HolidaysThe holiday season has started and I’m often reminded of an elderly friend of mine. Whenever someone said “Have a happy holiday!” she always replied, “No, make it one.” She was right, of course. Happy holidays don’t just happen. Holidays are ...

Treatment of PTSD May not Be a Solo Affair

Treatment of PTSD May not Be a Solo AffairIt appears that use of the term post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) has risen sharply over the past few years. As talk of PTSD is spreading like wildfire, interest in treatment and research are on the rise as well. ...

Suicide Risk for Children of Northern Ireland’s ‘Troubles’

Suicide Risk for Children of Northern Ireland's 'Troubles'Recent findings are shedding light on the link between growing up in a conflict zone and risk of suicide. Over the past few decades, Northern Ireland has overtaken England, Scotland and Wales in suicide rates. To investigate the causes, Professor ...

Book Review: Beautiful Day

BOOK REVIEW.
I call it the wedding book, but really it’s a book about marriage. I hit every point on the possible spectrum of marriages, from the best marriages to the worst marriages, from the worst divorce to the best divorce. -- Elin Hilderbrand Anyone who knows me knows I pine for Elin Hilderbrand’s novels, which are set ...

ADHD According to Zoë: The Real Deal on Relationships, Finding Your Focus & Finding Your Keys

BOOK REVIEW.
Women with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) will benefit heart, mind, and soul from reading Zoë Kessler’s new book ADHD According to Zoë: The Real Deal on Relationships, Finding Your Focus, and Finding Your Keys. Kessler, a freelance writer and author of Adoption Reunions, was diagnosed with ADHD well into adulthood. In this book, she shares, ...

The Empty Nest: Opportunity or Crisis?

The Empty Nest: Opportunity or Crisis?Feelings of loss and anxiety about change when the last child leaves home are normal. But it often has been pathologized in popular culture as a disorder, disease or condition that needs treatment. Usually it’s not and it doesn’t. In fact, ...

Three Things You Need to Know about Rockets

BOOK REVIEW.
  What was I looking for? I didn’t know, but I knew the taste of it. It was a feeling I wasn’t having in Los Angeles and wasn’t having that time in my work. -- Jessica A. Fox Jessica A. Fox’s Three Things You Need To Know About Rockets is dubbed as the “romantic memoir ...

Committed: A Skeptic Makes Peace with Marriage

BOOK REVIEW.
I saw it (marriage) as oppressive and outdated. And stupid and useless. And possibly very, very destructive. And I came away thinking it’s complex and long-lived. It must be here for a purpose, because it keeps being here. It’s always evolving. — Elizabeth Gilbert Committed is Elizabeth Gilbert’s honest and compelling sequel to ...

Some Quick Parenting Lessons for the Duchess of Cambridge

Some Quick Parenting Lessons for the Duchess of CambridgeI imagine that even Kate Middleton (the Duchess of Cambridge in England's monarchy) will experience her son, Prince George, throwing temper tantrums when he doesn't get his way or is asked to do something he doesn't want to do. ...

Are You Ready to Be a Parent?

Are You Ready to Be a Parent?From the moment you know you are pregnant or are part of a pregnant partnership, you are a parent. Even if the pregnancy ends in miscarriage, abortion, or giving the child up for adoption, the memory and effect of having started ...

When You Don’t Approve of Your Adult Child’s Relationship

When You Don't Approve of Your Adult Child's Relationship"What does she see in that guy?" The woman talking with me is more than a little upset. In fact, she is beside herself with worry and disapproval. “He’s not at all like any of her other boyfriends. He barely ...