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Therapists Spill: What I Learned from My Toughest Client

September 5th, 2014
We often learn our most important lessons from our toughest trials. These are the lessons that’ll likely stay with us years after we’ve learned them. When it comes to lessons, therapy tends to be a two-way street: Clients learn ...

Therapists Spill: Their Favorite Books on Therapy

Therapists Spill: My Favorite Books on TherapyBecause it’s done behind closed doors, therapy can seem like a mystery. How do therapists actually conduct therapy? How do they treat disorders such as depression and anxiety? What if you could be a fly on the wall during a ...

Therapists Spill: The Biggest Lessons I’ve Learned from My Clients

Therapists Spill: The Biggest Lessons I’ve Learned from My ClientsClients no doubt learn a thing or two from their therapists. They may learn to cope with painful emotions. They may learn to set boundaries. They may learn to accept themselves or to build healthier, more fulfilling ...

Therapists Spill: When You Have a Bad Therapy Experience

Therapists Spill: When You Have a Bad Therapy Experience It takes courage to seek therapy. Therapy is a vulnerable act, as you entrust a stranger with your innermost thoughts and feelings. So it can be especially disappointing and distressing when you have a bad experience. It ...

Book Review: Lifting the Veil

BOOK REVIEW.
When I began reading Lifting the Veil, it seemed clear that the main theme was dissociative identity disorder — previously and popularly known as multiple personality disorder. The book appears to be a first-hand account of one therapist’s experience in treating a complicated patient. It is an interesting disorder to treat and to write about as ...

Therapists Spill: 10 Tips for Making the Most of Therapy

Therapists Spill: 10 Tips for Making the Most of TherapyTherapy can seem like a mystery. What do you talk about? Can you really be honest? How do you know if you're getting better? Before you even walk through the door, you also may have certain preconceived notions, ...

Therapists Spill: 9 Myths About Therapy that Sabotage the Process

Therapists Spill: 9 Myths About Therapy that Sabotage the ProcessWhat many of us know about therapy often comes from television and films, which typically provide an inaccurate picture -- or really a caricature of the process. So naturally many myths and misconceptions abound. The problem ...

Therapists Spill: The Keys to Creating Positive Change

Therapists Spill: The Keys to Creating Positive ChangeCreating positive changes in your life is tough. It can be scary. “We fear the unknown, fear failure, even fear success,” said Christina G. Hibbert, PsyD, a clinical psychologist and expert in postpartum mental health. Clinical psychologist Ryan Howes, Ph.D, also ...

Therapists Spill: The Books I Turn to on a Difficult Day

Therapists Spill: The Books I Turn to on a Difficult DaySometimes, just reading a few words of wisdom or support can help to soothe us and give us clarity. Reading certain books can move us into a kinder space. It can inspire and empower us. Or it ...

Therapists Spill: How Therapy is Different from Talking to a Friend

Therapists Spill: How Therapy is Different from Talking to a FriendA common reason people give for not seeking therapy is that, well, it’s basically like talking to a friend – except you don’t have to pay your friend to listen to you. However, seeing a therapist ...

Therapists Spill: My Biggest Mistake & What I Learned

Therapists Spill: My Biggest Mistake & What I LearnedWhen we make mistakes many of us get stuck. We beat ourselves up. We blame ourselves for not knowing any better or for knowing better but not acting that way. We play back the events in our minds (as ...

Therapists Spill: What You Didn’t Know About Therapy

Therapists Spill: What You Didn't Know About TherapyTherapy is highly misunderstood. That’s due to several key reasons. For starters, therapy is conducted behind closed doors, which makes it harder to fully and accurately capture. Clients don’t commonly discuss their sessions with others. Sadly, the stigma of seeking ...

Therapists Spill: How I Set & Sustain Boundaries

Therapists Spill: How I Set And Sustain BoundariesBoundaries are essential for healthy relationships. For therapists, boundaries aren’t just vital for their relationships with family, friends and colleagues; they’re also critical for their relationships with clients. Therapists must set boundaries both outside the office and inside their sessions. ...

Therapists Spill: Why I Do What I Do

Therapists Spill: Why I Do What I DoThis month in our regular series, where therapists share a sneak peek of their personal and professional lives, we wanted to know what motivates clinicians to do what they do. Why did they pick this field? Why do they conduct ...

Therapists Spill: How To Strengthen Your Resilience

Therapists Spill: How To Strengthen Your ResilienceResilience is “one of the most important elements of our lives,” said clinical psychologist John Duffy, Ph.D. Some people are naturally more resilient than others. But anyone can learn to strengthen their ability to bounce back from rough ...

Therapists Spill: What Brings Me Joy

Therapists Spill: What Brings Me Joy Some of us may experience joy on most days. Others may only experience joy during big celebrations like birthdays and weddings. Still others of us may worry that we’ve lost our sense of joy. For this month’s “Therapists Spill” series, we ...

Therapists Spill: How I Manage Murky Moods

Therapists Spill: How I Manage Murky MoodsEveryone gets into a bad mood. Everyone has a bad day. Or two. And everyone has a hard time figuring out how to cope with it from time to time. Even therapists. “In the past when I was in a bad mood, ...

Therapists Spill: 14 Ways to Get Through Tough Times

Clinical psychologist Christina G. Hibbert, Psy.D, knows a lot about tough times. Her youngest sister died from cancer at 8 years old. In 2007, another sister and her sister’s husband died within two months of each other. At the time, Hibbert was just ...

Therapists Spill: Delivering Difficult Feedback to Clients

Therapists Spill: Delivering Difficult Feedback to ClientsTherapy isn’t just tough for clients. It’s also tough for therapists, especially when they have to deliver difficult feedback to their clients. For instance, clinicians might need to challenge their clients' denial or self-destructive habits. They might need to tell ...

Therapists Spill: What I Wish Readers Knew About Therapy & Life

Therapists Spill: What I Wish Readers Knew About Therapy & Life Even though today there’s a lot of information about how therapy works, a slew of misconceptions and misunderstandings still persist, along with a palpable stigma in seeking therapy. Many people also hold ...

Therapists Spill: My Thoughts On Change And How I Help Clients Get There

Therapists Spill: My Thoughts On Change And How I Help Clients Get ThereChange is pivotal in therapy. In fact, it’s the reason people seek professional help in the first place, according to Deborah Serani, Psy.D, a clinicial psychologist and author of the ...

Therapists Spill: 9 Ways to Get Things Done

Therapists Spill: 9 Ways to Get Things DoneTherapists often wear many hats. And that’s just in their private practices. Many also teach, write, supervise students and give media interviews. They have families and many interests outside of psychology. “With 6 kids, ages 16 to ...

Therapists Spill: How to End Therapy

Therapists Spill: How to End TherapyThere are many reasons clients decide to end therapy. According to clinical psychologist Deborah Serani, Psy.D, “Sometimes they’ve reached their goals. Sometimes they need a break. Sometimes the connection with their therapist isn’t there.” ...