Sexuality Library

  • Where Did the Love Go? Growing Up and Growing Apart
    When I first met Joel he was 15, embattled with his parents, failing in school, and deeply, desperately in love. Bright, sensitive, and troubled by what he saw as an older generation that simply didn’t ...
  • Talking To Your Teens about Acquaintance Rape
    “How could this happen?” The mother on the other end of the phone is distraught. “My son came home a wreck. He said his girlfriend wouldn’t quit coming on to him no matter what he ...
  • Teens and Internet Pornography
    What should parents do when they discover that their young teen or preteen has been looking at pornography sites online? And what does it mean? Based on a survey of online victimization conducted by the ...
  • Friends with Benefits: Can Women Handle It?
    After the holidays, Valentine’s Day is next on the horizon.  You’re single, lonely, sexually frustrated, and generally blue. The whole world seems to be celebrating love’s special day with chocolate and roses and you’re looking ...
  • FAQs for Partners of Sex Addicts
    So you think your significant other is a sex addict? This list of frequently asked questions (FAQ) and their answers may help shed light on the topic for you. What is sex addiction? Sex addiction is an ...
  • Breaking Up? Blame the Chick Flicks!
    My 20-year-old daughter tells me she thinks the reason so many young relationships fail is because of the “chick flicks.” You know: Those movies where the focus is entirely on the heady romance between a ...
  • White Privilege, Heterosexual Privilege, and Liberal Guilt
    First there was white privilege. White privilege isn’t something I thought about until I was confronted with a bulletin board full of it. I was at a Unitarian church I had sporadically attended and had ...
  • Match.com — Again
    I gave in. I signed up for Match.com again. Awesome new men were not appearing in my life without any effort on my part, so I decided to try online dating again. Online dating ...
  • My World of HPV
    The Human Papillomavirus (HPV) is everywhere. It is the planet’s most common sexually transmitted infection. You don’t need to have intercourse to get it and it can be transmitted by skin rubbing on ...
  • The Rules of Love
    Can a vicar's guidance on marriage from 1947 still help us today? We know that the desire to forge a relationship that lasts and provides happiness is still with us as much as ever, but ...
  • About Oxytocin
    Oxytocin (Greek, "quick birth") is a mammalian hormone that also acts as a neurotransmitter in the brain. In humans, oxytocin is thought to be released during hugging, touching, and orgasm in both sexes. In the brain, ...
  • Which Antidepressants Cause the Least Sexual Side Effects?
    Sexual side effects and one's libido are an important issue when it comes to antidepressant medications and depression itself. All too often, this issue is ignored when antidepressants are prescribed by a family physician or ...
  • My Battle with Childhood Sexual Abuse
    My first memory of emotional abuse was when I was three years old. Mum left me with the next door neighbour who was the local flasher. He didn't think anything of showing himself to ...
  • Dating Later in Life
    "At first, I felt like I was being unfaithful to my late husband," says Paula, a 65-year-old widow who recently began dating again. Sam, a 70-year-old retiree, wants to date, "But my grown kids don't ...
  • Frequently Asked Questions about Sexuality
    Q. What Is My Sexual Orientation? Sexual orientation is an enduring emotional, romantic, sexual, or affectional attraction toward others. It is easily distinguished from other components of sexuality including biological sex, gender identity (the psychological sense ...
  • An Overview of Sex Therapy
    These days, many couples find it hard to fit sex into their busy schedules. And it's perfectly normal for people to go through periods when they're just not in the mood for lovemaking. But if you ...
  • Coping with Acquaintance Rape
    Rape by an acquaintance is often even more traumatizing than rape by a stranger. First of all, it represents a violation of trust. Secondly, victims may not get the social support they need and deserve. While ...
  • The Top 10 Myths Behind Masturbation
    Masturbation still gets a bad rap in society, probably because it is a private behavior rarely shared or discussed in public with even the closest of friends. But masturbation is a normal part of sexuality ...
  • No Orgasms During Intercourse
    I am a 26-year-old female who masturbates regularly. I have great orgasms quite easily by simply rubbing my clitoris. When I am having intercourse, however, I almost never have an orgasm. Could this be because ...
  • Should I Tell My Husband I Masturbate?
    Whether or not to tell your husband about your masturbation is really up to you. I applaud you for being in touch with your own sexual pleasure and attending to yourself as needed. Many people ...
  • Do Kellogg’s Corn Flakes Help Control Masturbation?
    In the early part of this century, John Harvey Kellogg gained a reputation both as a nutritionist and a sexual adviser. The foods that Kellogg created (including the now-famous corn flakes) were designed to promote ...
  • Can Masturbation Help Me Learn to Orgasm?
    I am an 18-year-old college student who is sexually active, and has just become interested in masturbating. I feel that if I am going to be having sex, I should become more familiar with ...
  • Is Using a Shower Massager Okay to Masturbate?
    Using a shower massager is one of the tried-and-true ways of reaching orgasm for many women. In fact, one study showed this method to be the third most common way that women discovered orgasm (just ...
  • Is It Normal for a Toddler to Touch Themselves?
    First of all, toddlers touching themselves is absolutely normal, whether they are naked or not. In fact, research has shown that babies begin such touching while still in the womb. It would actually be odd ...
  • How Much Masturbation is Too Much?
    Oh, the classic masturbation question -- how much is too much? Do people who are in a relationship masturbate? Oops, Delilah's getting carried away here and asking the questions instead of answering them... More to the ...