Self-Help Library

  • Putting the Fear of Sleeplessness to Rest
    Fear can be a powerful disincentive to change. It was one of several factors that kept me from undergoing cognitive-behavioral ...
  • The Thing You Think You Cannot Do: 30 Truths About Fear & Courage
    What is it that you can’t do because you’re afraid? It may be something that other people seem to do all the time, such as approach a stranger to start a conversation. Maybe it’s bigger: ...
  • The Effortless Sleep Method
    I've recently read a book which claims to cure insomnia. One of the main points it makes is that there's no such thing as insomnia. Some may be tempted to hurl it at the wall ...
  • Building a Routine When You Have Bipolar Disorder
    Having a routine helps people with bipolar disorder maintain stability. “Unexpected stressors can lead to episodes for me so ...
  • Rethink Those Failed New Year’s Resolutions
    It’s not even the middle of January and those New Year’s resolutions are already history. You’ve fallen off the diet, started smoking again or given up on the exercise routine. You feel bad about yourself for not being able to put your good intentions into action for even two weeks. Two weeks! You scold yourself for having no willpower or for failing yet once again. You sigh and give up, perhaps rationalizing away the project. You can always claim no time, too much stress, or peer pressure, right? Wrong. You know you’re rationalizing but oh well. You can take some comfort in knowing that you are not alone. Almost 90 percent of New Year’s resolutions dissolve within a month. The enthusiasm about a new year and a new beginning quickly fades. Life takes over. All the reasons you developed whatever bad habit you wanted to fix are still there. But all is not lost. You can still make that important change, whatever it was. You may just have to rethink how to go about it.
  • 5 Tips on How to Keep New Year’s Resolutions
    Why bother to make resolutions and then feel disappointed or guilty for breaking them? Do you get excited ...
  • A New Year’s Resolution for Generosity
    Isn’t it wonderful? Every January 1, we get to have a fresh start. Ring out the old. Ring in the new. We can change something significant about our lives. New Year’s resolutions are a statement of hope. We make them, not to scold ourselves, but to hold out the possibility that we can change something. So we swear we’ll finally lose that 10 (or more) pounds, that we’ll quit bad habits we enjoy, or we’ll hit the gym more often. Never mind that studies show that almost 90 percent of such resolutions are broken within two weeks of New Year’s. Our intentions were good. Oh well. I think we break those self-promises almost as soon as they’re made because they are too ambitious. We ask ourselves to take on something that has been a long-term issue and then feel too discouraged or overwhelmed by the idea to really take it on. Then we feel even worse about ourselves because once again, we didn’t do it. So we have another piece of chocolate or another cigarette and promise that maybe we’ll go the gym tomorrow.
  • Therapists Spill: My Biggest Mistake & What I Learned
    When we make mistakes many of us get stuck. We beat ourselves up. We blame ourselves for not ...
  • Fire Your Shrink & Read This Book Instead
    Stop whining, repeating harmful behaviors, making excuses. Pick one that fits and get busy. That’s what our author would tell us. When I began David M. Klein’s Fire Your Shrink and Read This Book Instead, my reaction ...
  • Fathers Reconnecting with Abandoned Kids
    Jesse came to therapy with an important project in mind. Mine was not the first office he’d been to. He’d already been ...
  • Want to Derail Your Relationship? Listen to this Common Advice
    When you're tying the knot, friends and family may share a few nuggets of advice for living happily ever ...
  • The Secret of What Makes a Winner
    “Quitters never win and winners never quit.” That was a playground cheer when I was growing up. It turns out ...
  • The Ugly Butterflies: Managing Anxiety Better
    If you have an anxiety disorder, you know the anguish, shame, and turmoil that it can create. For those of you ...
  • 6 Reliable Strategies for Making Smarter Decisions
    We must make a variety of decisions on a daily basis. Many are less important, such as what to ...
  • Tips on Tolerating Uncertainty
    You’ve probably heard some version of the phrase: The only thing certain in life is uncertainty. The fact that life is filled ...
  • Are You Happy Now? 10 Ways to Live a Happy Life
    What a wonderful book this is! The topic is a universal concern, in varying degrees, for all of us. It is written in an easy-to-read style that is almost conversational. It provides common sense advice. ...
  • The Unlimited Potential of Online Mental Health Tools
    New technology is becoming vital for providing easy-to-access mental health care, says a top mental health expert from London, ...
  • The Abundant Problems of Scarcity
    What do you not have enough of? Money? Time? Friends? The lack may cause you greater problems than the obvious tight budget, frazzled days, or loneliness. Harvard economics professor Sendhil Mullainathan and Princeton psychology professor ...
  • OCD & Perfectionism
    Patty was feeling frustrated and depressed. No matter what she tried, she felt she was stuck. As a young child, she remembers she would ...
  • Therapists Spill: How I Set & Sustain Boundaries
    Boundaries are essential for healthy relationships. For therapists, boundaries aren’t just vital for their relationships with family, friends and ...
  • Overcoming Perfectionism: Finding the Key to Balance & Self-Acceptance (Revised, Updated Edition)
    When you’re a perfectionist, it could always be a little bit better. Every task you work on, that is. And so, the planning and revision go on and on, and the final product never quite ...
  • Emotional Vampires at Work: Dealing with Bosses & Coworkers Who Drain You Dry
    Is it him, or is it me? When up against a coworker who makes even minor interactions feel Sisyphean, it’s easy to blame ourselves. Maybe I haven’t adapted to this new workflow fast enough, we ...
  • ADHD According to Zoë: The Real Deal on Relationships, Finding Your Focus & Finding Your Keys
    Women with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) will benefit heart, mind, and soul from reading Zoë Kessler’s new book ADHD According to Zoë: The Real Deal on Relationships, Finding Your Focus, and Finding Your Keys. ...
  • Therapists Spill: How To Strengthen Your Resilience
    Resilience is “one of the most important elements of our lives,” said clinical psychologist John Duffy, Ph.D. Some ...
  • Giving Myself Permission: Putting Fear & Doubt in Their Place
    A woman posted a sign in her kitchen that read simply, “You deserve it.” Every day she’d look at the sign and remind herself: I can make decisions; I can pursue my dreams; I can ...

 

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