Self-Help Library

  • Optimal Living 360: Smart Decision Making for a Balanced Life
    With an M.B.A. as well as an M.D., Sanjay Jain has written the type of book that you’d imagine coming from a physician who thinks in business terms. Optimal Living 360 is smart at times, if ...
  • Mindful Anger: A Pathway to Emotional Freedom
    Have you ever been so angry that you were enraged? So upset that you were ready to scream and throw things? Felt your heart about to pound out of your chest at the wrong done ...
  • 10 Steps to Mastering Stress: A Lifestyle Approach
    Along with death and taxes, stress seems to be an unavoidable component of life. Right now, I am in the midst of orchestrating a cross-country move and purchasing my first home, and will soon be ...
  • Mastering the Art of Quitting: Why It Matters in Life, Love & Work
    One of my earliest childhood memories is of me at three years old sitting on my mother’s lap while she read from the The Little Engine That Could. Originally published in 1930, the story is meant ...
  • Lemons into Limoncello: From Loss to Personal Renaissance with the Zest of Italy
    What should we do when life hands us lemons? According to cognitive psychologist Raeleen Mautner, the answer isn’t to make lemonade, but limoncello, an Italian lemon liqueur that, with its added kick, reminds us to ...
  • 8 Keys to Eliminating Passive-Aggressiveness
    If you find yourself making promises you are never able to keep, or agreeing to do things you really have no desire to do, passive-aggressiveness may have slowly insinuated itself into your life without your ...
  • Therapists Spill: The Books I Turn to on a Difficult Day
    Sometimes, just reading a few words of wisdom or support can help to soothe us and ...
  • Clinicians on the Couch: 10 Questions with Psychotherapist Susan Lager
    In our monthly series, clinicians share slices from both their professional and personal lives. They reveal everything from what they love about being a therapist ...
  • Everything Is Workable: A Zen Approach to Conflict Resolution
    Ever been stuck in a conflict, unable to let go and unable to forgive others? Ever felt like conflict permeated everything? In Everything Is Workable: A Zen Approach to Conflict Resolution, Diane Musho Hamilton, a Zen ...
  • The Riddle in the Mirror: A Journey in Search of Healing
    Author Jayni Bloch was born in Johannesburg, South Africa, during the era of apartheid, and that painful period is the context for her story of psychological and spiritual growth. Having grown up myself in the segregated ...
  • The Bliss Experiment: 28 Days to Personal Transformation
    Would you like to change the world in 28 days? How about something more manageable, like becoming a more relaxed, gracious, and loving person? Sean Meshorer’s The Bliss Experiment: 28 Days to Personal Transformation is ...
  • My Struggles with OCD in Recovery
    "Are you being crazy again?" My wife, upon noticing my awkward and all-too-familiar hand gestures, has asked me this hundreds of times. ...
  • Treating Schizophrenia Successfully
    Schizophrenia is a complex and often chronic illness that requires long-term treatment. Medication is the bedrock of managing schizophrenia, said Peter Buckley, MD, ...
  • Book Review: Divinely Attuned
    Couples can face a myriad of issues through the course of their relationship. For some, being unable to communicate effectively creates walls between partners. In an effort to be understood, some may lose sight of ...
  • Clinicians on the Couch: 10 Questions with Psychotherapist Carmen Cool
    In our monthly interview series we feature a different clinician who gives readers a sneak peek into their professional and personal lives. They reveal everything ...
  • Your Best Life Yet: A Journey of Purpose & Passion
    “There I was, on a Broadway stage. Naked with the rest of the cast of Oh! Calcutta! The drugs and alcohol must not have been working because I was literally crawling out of my skin.” So begins ...
  • Keeping Good Boundaries & Getting Your Needs Met
    You may be familiar with the psychological term “boundaries,” but what does it mean and how does it apply ...
  • The Effortless Sleep Companion
    Having recently reviewed Sasha Stephens's incredible (in my opinion) book, The Effortless Sleep Method, I'd like to share my opinion of her follow-up, The Effortless Sleep Companion. Again, I'm very impressed. Stephens ...
  • Putting the Fear of Sleeplessness to Rest
    Fear can be a powerful disincentive to change. It was one of several factors that kept me from undergoing cognitive-behavioral ...
  • The Thing You Think You Cannot Do: 30 Truths About Fear & Courage
    What is it that you can’t do because you’re afraid? It may be something that other people seem to do all the time, such as approach a stranger to start a conversation. Maybe it’s bigger: ...
  • The Effortless Sleep Method
    I've recently read a book which claims to cure insomnia. One of the main points it makes is that there's no such thing as insomnia. Some may be tempted to hurl it at the wall ...
  • Building a Routine When You Have Bipolar Disorder
    Having a routine helps people with bipolar disorder maintain stability. “Unexpected stressors can lead to episodes for me so ...
  • Rethink Those Failed New Year’s Resolutions
    It’s not even the middle of January and those New Year’s resolutions are already history. You’ve fallen off the diet, started smoking again or given up on the exercise routine. You feel bad about yourself for not being able to put your good intentions into action for even two weeks. Two weeks! You scold yourself for having no willpower or for failing yet once again. You sigh and give up, perhaps rationalizing away the project. You can always claim no time, too much stress, or peer pressure, right? Wrong. You know you’re rationalizing but oh well. You can take some comfort in knowing that you are not alone. Almost 90 percent of New Year’s resolutions dissolve within a month. The enthusiasm about a new year and a new beginning quickly fades. Life takes over. All the reasons you developed whatever bad habit you wanted to fix are still there. But all is not lost. You can still make that important change, whatever it was. You may just have to rethink how to go about it.
  • 5 Tips on How to Keep New Year’s Resolutions
    Why bother to make resolutions and then feel disappointed or guilty for breaking them? Do you get excited ...
  • A New Year’s Resolution for Generosity
    Isn’t it wonderful? Every January 1, we get to have a fresh start. Ring out the old. Ring in the new. We can change something significant about our lives. New Year’s resolutions are a statement of hope. We make them, not to scold ourselves, but to hold out the possibility that we can change something. So we swear we’ll finally lose that 10 (or more) pounds, that we’ll quit bad habits we enjoy, or we’ll hit the gym more often. Never mind that studies show that almost 90 percent of such resolutions are broken within two weeks of New Year’s. Our intentions were good. Oh well. I think we break those self-promises almost as soon as they’re made because they are too ambitious. We ask ourselves to take on something that has been a long-term issue and then feel too discouraged or overwhelmed by the idea to really take it on. Then we feel even worse about ourselves because once again, we didn’t do it. So we have another piece of chocolate or another cigarette and promise that maybe we’ll go the gym tomorrow.

 

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