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Happy Is the New Healthy: 31 Ways to Relax, Let Go & Enjoy Life Now

March 22nd, 2015
Be forewarned: Dave Romanelli’s “happy” energy comes through loud and clear from the moment you lay eyes on this book. The bright yellow cover immediately captures your attention with a graphic sparkling sunburst, bold capitalized and italicized letters, and an exclamation point at the end of the subtitle. You will not need an energy drink while ...

Mental Health Recovery Boosters: How To Sustain Your Mental Wellness

BOOK REVIEW.
Whether you need to recharge yourself every once in a while during a bumpy patch or have a chronic mental health condition, Mental Health Recovery Boosters has just the right dose of inspiration and encouragement for just about any situation. And if, somehow, you have not yet experienced a challenging, emotionally draining situation, “just keep on living,” as my grandmother used to ...

Book Review: A Parent’s Guide to High-Functioning Autism Spectrum Disorder

BOOK REVIEW.
You know an excellent book when it generously delivers on both the title and the subtitle’s promises. A Parent’s Guide to High-Functioning Autism Spectrum Disorder: How to Meet the Challenges and Help Your Child Thrive, by Sally Ozonoff, Geraldine Dawson, and James McPartland, is one that truly follows through. The book is outstanding when it comes ...

The Alchemy of Self Healing: A Revolutionary 30 Day Plan to Change How You Relate to Your Body and Health

The dichotomy between the mind and the body, we keep learning, is a false one: We actually carry emotions in our physical selves, and can tell how someone is feeling by how they move or sit or stand. I was drawn to The Alchemy of Self Healing largely because the subtitle seemed to embrace this idea ...

Book Review: Beyond the Utopian Ideal

BOOK REVIEW.
If you are in the mood for looking at your life and asking some serious questions, Gary Douglas promises to help. Unfortunately, he doesn’t actually deliver on those promises. Douglas runs workshops called Access Consciousness — what some news outlets have suggested may actually be a cult. This book of his was created on the back of ...

Uncovering Happiness: Overcoming Depression with Mindfulness & Self-Compassion

BOOK REVIEW.
Through concentrated and intentional repetition, you can change your brain. The technical word for this concept, as coined by Jeffrey Schwarz at UCLA, is self-directed neuroplasticity, and recent studies bolster the theory. The ability to rewire our brain holds enormous potential for positive therapeutic change — especially for those who suffer from depression. In Elisha ...

Emergence: Seven Steps for Radical Life Change

BOOK REVIEW.
In my constant journey of self improvement I am always looking for new resources. But with the overwhelming number of self-help books available it can be challenging to know which methodology will really work or which author’s ideas for change will inspire. Open to new ways of approaching my personal development, I found my interest piqued by Derek Rydall’s Emergence: ...

Ride of Your Life: A Coast-to-Coast Guide to Finding Inner Peace

BOOK REVIEW.
Cheese-less-ness: That rare quality to look for when you come across a memoir-based self-help book. Not something sodden with exclamation points, or empty metaphors, or cringe-inducing levels of wistfulness, but a book that’s both interesting and useful. To my relief, Ran Zilca's Ride of Your Life is one of the few I’ve seen that’s engaging and ...

The 10 Best Anxiety Busters: Simple Strategies to Take Control of Your Worry

BOOK REVIEW.
Most of the people in my counseling practice come for help with anxiety. According to the Anxiety and Depression Association of America, anxiety is the most common behavioral health problem in the country, affecting about forty million adults and costing more than $42 billion a year. The association writes that people with anxiety disorders are three ...

Better than Perfect: 7 Strategies to Crush Your Inner Critic

BOOK REVIEW.
Do you beat yourself up for not meeting your own high standards? Perhaps you try to avoid failing — even in small ways — at all costs. You brush off praise, while actually craving it. You constantly judge yourself. If so, you may well be a perfectionist. That’s not entirely a bad thing, Elizabeth Lombardo concedes in her new book, ...

Clinicians on the Couch: 10 Questions with Therapist Elizabeth Sullivan

Elizabeth SullivanEvery month we interview a different clinician about his or her life and work. They take us inside a place we rarely get to see: a therapist's office. They share everything from what’s surprised them about working with clients to the hardest part about ...

Well-Meaning Advice that Doesn’t Work

Well-Meaning Advice that Doesn’t WorkAs friends or family, we want to help our loved ones when they’re struggling with a mental illness or painful feelings. Our natural tendency might be to offer advice or a reassuring comment. It’s hard to see a loved one in distress, ...

No-Drama Discipline: The Whole-Brain Way to Calm the Chaos & Nurture Your Child’s Developing Mind

BOOK REVIEW.
Parents, grandparents, caregivers, teachers, and anyone else in frequent contact with kids can all stand to learn more about how to stay calm. No-Drama Discipline offers example-backed tools to help us discipline children in a supportive and lasting way. This is not the first book that Daniel Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson have written together. Their earlier book was the ...

The Mood Repair Toolkit: Proven Strategies to Prevent the Blues from Turning into Depression

BOOK REVIEW.
As a therapist who specializes in treating depressed adolescents, I find that parents often challenge me. They cannot understand why their teen is helplessly depressed, or why their child isn’t motivated to engage in activities that their peers find enjoyable. “She has nothing to be depressed about — she has a great family and good grades, and is smart and ...

Deeper Dating: How to Drop the Games of Seduction & Discover the Power of Intimacy

BOOK REVIEW.
The advice that you have to love yourself in order to find love is a little shopworn — so oft repeated that it’s hard to feel its wisdom. But in Deeper Dating: How to Drop the Games of Seduction and Discover the Power of Intimacy, psychotherapist Ken Page takes that wisdom and drills into it, helping us ...

Clinicians on the Couch: 10 Questions with Therapist Diana Pitaru

Diana PitaruIn our monthly interview series we turn the tables and ask therapists questions about their professional and personal lives. We ask them to reveal everything from the triumphs and trials of conducting therapy to whether they’d pick the same path if they had to ...

Book Review: How to Deal with Adversity

BOOK REVIEW.
Although the title sounds very self-help,  a serious text in which Christopher Hamilton — philosopher, author, and senior lecturer in philosophy of religion at London’s King’s College — uses his scholarship to push the reader. His is not a simple recitation of how to act when faced with difficulties — not a “do this, then do this” type of read. Those books ...

Confrontations vs. Conversations

marriage_communication5A reader asks: "I think my wife is cheating on me. She comes home from her office hours later than usual. She checks her phone constantly. Should I confront her?" Another writes: "My husband is just home from Afghanistan. He has huge anger issues. In the last ...

What is Toxic Shame?

What is Toxic Shame?When shame becomes toxic, it can ruin our lives. Everyone experiences shame at one time another. It’s an emotion with physical symptoms like any other that come and go, but when it’s severe, it can be extremely painful. Strong feelings of shame stimulate the ...

Writing for Health

Writing for HealthI hate to admit it but it’s true: I’m terrible at keeping a journal. I probably have half a dozen notebooks lying around, each one with no more than 20 entries before I got caught up in other things, made excuses, didn’t have the ...

How I Conquered Binge Eating Disorder

How I Conquered Binge Eating DisorderI developed binge eating disorder when I was 26 years old, after spending countless hours and mental energy on dieting, eating perfectly, and obsessing about my body and weight. Of course, I didn’t actually realize I had BED right away. Instead, ...

Parents Who Have OCD

Parents Who Have OCDBecause my son Dan has obsessive-compulsive disorder, my articles often focus on a parent’s perspective. But what if you are the child, and your parent is the one struggling with the disorder? Of course, the issues children and their families face will differ depending ...

Clinicians on the Couch: 10 Questions with Therapist Helen Nieves

Helen Nieves, LMHC Every month we turn the tables, and ask clinicians to share a slew of tidbits about themselves and their work. They reveal everything from the trials and triumphs of conducting therapy to how they personally cope with stress. They also share their insights ...