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What to Do When ‘I’m Sorry’ Doesn’t Work

October 10th, 2014
We all mess up at times with our spouses, kids, and others important to us. Misunderstandings and empathic failures cannot be avoided in close relationships, but aren’t necessarily detrimental. In fact, the ongoing climate of relationships is typically affected ...

Therapists Spill: When Being a Therapist Was Especially Hard

Therapists Spill: When Being a Therapist Was Especially HardWhen we’re going through something difficult or stressful at home, it often spills into our workplace. This can get especially tricky when your work is being a therapist, an already-demanding job emotionally and mentally. In this month’s “Therapists Spill” ...

Can Babies Be Made into Bullies?

how-a-bully-is-made Molly Skyar, in open conversation with her mother, Dr. Susan Rutherford, a clinical psychologist and expert in human behavior, view parenting decisions through a psychologist's perspective. MOLLY: If your baby didn’t develop a secure attachment to a parent, how might you see that child acting in preschool and ...

The Stop-Drop-Roll Method of Managing Infidelity

bandaid-for-marriage-in-crisisOften, the most seemingly unrelated day-to-day events give us opportunities to learn from our mistakes and help keep us from repeating them. Our local fire station recently conducted their annual fire safety lesson for my son’s third-grade class, complete with the shiny red pumper truck and fun ...

Clinicians on the Couch: 10 Questions with Psychologist Jonice Webb

jonice webb pic Every month we talk with a different clinician about the ins and outs of being a therapist. They reveal the trials, triumphs and surprises of conducting therapy. They also share what they wish their clients knew along with their advice for leading a meaningful life. ...

How to Change Your Attachment Style

How to Change Your Attachment StyleWe’re wired for attachment -- that's why babies cry when separated from their mothers. Depending especially upon our mother’s behavior, as well as later experiences and other factors, we develop a style of attaching that affects our behavior in close relationships. Fortunately, ...

Change How You Feel: Change How You Breathe

MeditationEmotions add flavor to life. Joy, love and contentment make living a pleasure. Anger and fear act as warning signals telling us when to protect ourselves. Most of all, emotions are the glue that binds us to family and friends. But those same emotions can be so ...

What’s the Best Treatment for Hair-Pulling Disorder?

What's the Best Treatment for Hair-Pulling Disorder?After school, Henry would sit down and watch TV, but one hour later, his mom would discover he had been pulling his eyelashes and eyebrows. It wasn’t that he didn’t want them, he just couldn’t stop plucking them. When his friends ...

Clinicians on the Couch: 10 Questions with Play Therapist Clair Mellenthin

Clair Mellenthin Every month we turn the tables and ask therapists to give us a glimpse into their professional and personal lives. They share everything from what it’s like to conduct therapy to how they cope with stress. They also reveal the biggest myths about therapy, what ...

How to Spot Manipulation

How to Spot ManipulationWe all want to get our needs met, but manipulators use underhanded methods. Manipulation is a way to covertly influence someone with indirect, deceptive, or abusive tactics. Manipulation may seem benign or even friendly or flattering, as if the person has your highest concern ...

The Third Wave of CBT

The Third Wave of CBTThe approaches of the first two generations of Behavioral Therapy (BT) share the assumption that certain cognitions, emotions and physiological states lead to dysfunctional behavior and, therefore, therapeutic intervention is aimed at eliminating, or at least reducing, these problematic internal events. Third wave therapies ...

Therapists Spill: What I Learned from My Toughest Client

Therapists Spill: What I Learned from My Toughest ClientWe often learn our most important lessons from our toughest trials. These are the lessons that’ll likely stay with us years after we’ve learned them. When it comes to lessons, therapy tends to be a two-way street: Clients learn ...

Therapists Spill: Their Favorite Books on Therapy

Therapists Spill: My Favorite Books on TherapyBecause it’s done behind closed doors, therapy can seem like a mystery. How do therapists actually conduct therapy? How do they treat disorders such as depression and anxiety? What if you could be a fly on the wall during a ...

Tips for the Mental Health Provider Working in a Hospital Setting

Tips for the Mental Health Provider Working in a Hospital SettingWorking as a mental health provider in a hospital setting can be a challenging and at times intimidating experience, especially for early career professionals and trainees. Medical professionals run the gambit from ...

The Origins of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy

Therapists Spill: 10 Tips for Making the Most of TherapyBrief Synopsis It is well known that Wilhelm Wundt is the father of experimental psychology, founding the first formal laboratory for psychological research at the University of Leipzig in 1879; in reality what was then thought as experimental psychology ...

What to Do When You’re Mad at Your Therapist

What to Do When You’re Mad at Your TherapistWhy does psychotherapy work? There are many reasons, but today we are going to focus on one in particular -- the therapeutic relationship. One of the biggest predictors of success in therapy is a good relationship between the ...

High Maintenance or Histrionic Personality Disorder?

Boundaries and Getting Your Needs MetA man walks into your house wearing a heavy gold chain around his neck and a Rolex watch. He tells you he is the mayor's closest friend. He has come to your house to introduce himself because he

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Therapists Spill: The Biggest Lessons I’ve Learned from My Clients

Therapists Spill: The Biggest Lessons I’ve Learned from My ClientsClients no doubt learn a thing or two from their therapists. They may learn to cope with painful emotions. They may learn to set boundaries. They may learn to accept themselves or to build healthier, more fulfilling ...

Therapists Spill: When You Have a Bad Therapy Experience

Therapists Spill: When You Have a Bad Therapy Experience It takes courage to seek therapy. Therapy is a vulnerable act, as you entrust a stranger with your innermost thoughts and feelings. So it can be especially disappointing and distressing when you have a bad experience. It ...

The Skill of Mindful Listening

The Skill of Mindful ListeningCommunication in the 21st century has some unique challenges, and some basic etiquette reminders may prove useful to facilitate effective communication. One may feel invalidated, ignored, or disrespected when attempting to talk with someone and competing for attention with their phone or ...

Clinicians on the Couch: 10 Questions with Therapist Casey Radle

Casey Radle HeadshotEvery month a different clinician gives readers a glimpse into how he or she works and lives. They share everything from what it’s like to conduct therapy to how they cope with stress. They also reveal the biggest myths about therapy, what they wish ...

Why a Workplace Bully Is Too Expensive to Keep

Why a Workplace Bully is too Expensive to KeepThe most powerful argument you can make to get rid of a workplace bully is to build a financial case for why the person is just too expensive to keep. Surprisingly, it is a strategy that is ...

The Effects of Criticism on Relationships

The Effects of Criticism on RelationshipsAgain and again in my work with couples I see the destructive effect criticism can have on a relationship. In this article I would like to explore what my three favorite relationship experts have to say about criticism and its effects ...