Parenting Library

  • Selfishness in Couples: Narcissism, Lack of Interpersonal Skills, or Something Else?
    Disclaimer: The characters from these vignettes are fictitious. They were derived from a ...
  • Happy Mother’s Day to Moms with Kids with Special Needs
    A recent TV ad says it all. It follows a mom ...
  • Advocating for Your Child within the School System
    “I’ve had it.” The parent on the phone is incensed. “The teacher just won’t listen to me. My ...
  • Are You Trapped & Unhappy in Your Relationship?
    Do you feel trapped in a relationship you can’t ...
  • OCD and Isolation
    One of the most heartbreaking aspects of my son Dan’s descent into severe obsessive-compulsive disorder was his progressive ...
  • April is Autism Awareness Month
    Naming a time for awareness brings an issue into focus. It gives us a reason to do something extra (such as ...
  • OCD and the Need for Reassurance
    One of the most common manifestations of obsessive-compulsive disorder is ...
  • When Your Parents Disapprove of Your Partner
    It’s a problem that is probably as old as time. Adult children don’t always choose the mate ...
  • Executive Function & Child Development
    Working with children with ADHD, Tourette's Syndrome, or other challenges isn't easy. Various issues can make it hard for these kids to get through everyday tasks. In their book, Executive Function & Child Development, Marcie Yeager and ...
  • Helping Parents Understand OCD
    I tend to write about obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) from a parent’s viewpoint because, well, I’m a parent whose son has OCD. ...
  • New Baby Blues or Postpartum Depression?
    “I don’t know what’s wrong with me. I’m supposed to feel a surge of maternal instinct, right? I’m supposed to ...
  • Getting Unhooked from Pain & Choosing Happiness
    Even teens who are popular and appear to be doing well may feel ...
  • Hopping Roller Coasters: A Tale of Forgiveness and Healing
      So many times we think we know where we’re headed; then we’re taking an unexpected turn. ~ Hopping Roller Coasters Rachel Pappas’s memoir, Hopping Roller Coasters, details the unpredictable story of a mother and daughter ...
  • Hopping Roller Coasters
    Stories about mothers and their daughters tend to be sweet. Admittedly, there is usually some sort of tension. Still, whether that is teenage angst or the daughter trying to gain more independence and freedom from ...
  • Is Liking Your Therapist Enough?
    When my son Dan’s self-diagnosis of obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) was confirmed by his longtime pediatrician, the doctor suggested ...
  • OCD: The Enemy or Simply an Unwanted Guest?
    I’ve previously written how personifying obsessive-compulsive disorder can help sufferers accept, understand, and ...
  • Power Plays Between Brothers & Families
    This story shows how the troubled relationship between two brothers was a therapeutic opportunity to change maladaptive family patterns. Drew, 19, and Steve, 20, were close brothers raised in a volatile family. When Drew started getting into trouble in college, their mom arranged for the brothers to live together in an apartment, hoping that Steve could watch out for Drew. This solution backfired; the boys acted out family-related power plays. Physical confrontation escalated along with family-related conflict and hostility. At this point, the mom sought help. Mom and Dad’s Perspective Kate was an immigrant from Italy who, more than anything, wanted a better life for her children. She worked tirelessly to earn money for their education. Consistent with the old-school style of authoritarian parenting with which she was raised, Kate demanded devotion and obedience. She was very involved with her sons and, though caring, she was also high-strung, anxious and unrelenting when they didn’t perform - yelling, threatening and lecturing – reminding them of her very real sacrifice and suffering on their behalf. Drew perpetually disappointed and upset Kate. He failed to live up to her expectations and often lied to appease her. She worried about his ability to be independent, responsible, and protect himself. Steve, on the other hand, was seen as the ideal son: high-achieving, responsible, and aggressive. She constantly compared the two of them.
  • Good Therapy for OCD
    With the help of the Internet, my son Dan correctly diagnosed himself with obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) at the age of 17. After his ...
  • Siblings Don’t Have to be Rivals
    Siblings are the people we practice on, the people who teach us about fairness and cooperation and kindness and caring, quite ...
  • In Defense of Courtship
    “A froggy went a-courtin’ he did ride. . .” ~ From a 16th-century English folk song Courtship. It’s such an old-fashioned word that some might ...
  • Secretly Debilitated by OCD: Should You Hide It?
    My son Dan suffered from obsessive-compulsive disorder so severe he couldn’t even eat. He’d get stuck sitting in one ...
  • Suffer the Children: The Case Against Labeling and Medicating
    When a child has an emotional or behavioral problem, their school often recommends that they see a psychiatrist. This psychiatrist typically labels the child with a disorder, then advises the parents that the child should ...
  • Backyard Tents and Child Development
    The advertisement is meant to give us a warm feeling all over. Dad and child are snuggled up ...
  • Teens: Coping with Being Unwanted, Unloved and Unhappy
    Sticks and stones will break my bones but names will never hurt me. ~ Childhood rhyme Whoever made up that ...
  • Artificial Maturity: Helping Kids Meet the Challenge of Becoming Authentic Adults
    Dr. Tim Elmore is the founder of Growing Leaders, an organization that teaches middle school, high school, and college students how to become “authentic leaders.” He has presented internationally, written more than 25 books, and ...