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The Ecstasy of Surrender: 12 Surprising Ways Letting Go Can Empower Your Life

September 2nd, 2014
Surrendering to a simpler life can be frightening or stressful — even inconceivable.  Consider an average day. Multitasking and over-performing are more a requisite than an ideal, as is maintaining competitive advantages just so you can pay your rent. Competition is everywhere we look, in fact, making it seem almost reckless, at least counter-intuitive, to stop ...

How to Tell if Your Decisions are from Your Evolved or Primitive Brain

How to Tell If Your Decisions are from Your Evolved or Primitive BrainDecisions can be motivated by thoughtful consideration from our higher mind (frontal lobe/ executive functions), or fear-based survival instincts (amygdala, impulses) from a more primitive mind. When decisions are informed ...

You Can Worry and Be Happy

anxious_worrySome time ago, there was a popular song by Bobby McFerrin that urged us “Don’t worry. Be happy.” The lyrics suggest that worrying and being happy are contradictory feelings. They’re not.

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Book Review: Living Independently on the Autism Spectrum

BOOK REVIEW.
Lynne Soraya grew up in a world that did not always make sense. She did learn to make her way through, but it was difficult. As an adult, she was diagnosed with Asperger’s Syndrome — then life began to make much more sense. Soraya’s book, Living Independently on the Autism Spectrum: What You Need to Know to ...

7 Steps to Changing a Bad Habit

7 Steps to Changing a Bad HabitWe all have them -- bad habits that we wish we didn’t have but feel pessimistic about changing. Maybe you know you really have to spend less time on Facebook or playing online games. Or perhaps you’ve tried a dozen ...

Healing from Neglect: When Those We Love Don’t Love Us

BOOK REVIEW.
It is an emotion that has inspired the rise and fall of empires and that influences the very foundation of our development. But how you approach love is dependent on your past and present associations with it. The belief that love is a many-splendored thing falls away when we step back and evaluated the collateral ...

Therapists Spill: The Biggest Lessons I’ve Learned from My Clients

Therapists Spill: The Biggest Lessons I’ve Learned from My ClientsClients no doubt learn a thing or two from their therapists. They may learn to cope with painful emotions. They may learn to set boundaries. They may learn to accept themselves or to build healthier, more fulfilling ...

Rethink How You Think: How to Create Lasting Change Today

BOOK REVIEW.
For a science-informed book on self-improvement, Rethink How You Think can be both illuminating and confounding. The primary reason is its splicing of science and religion: two camps perennially at odds. However, this is not the kind of book that has been somewhat in vogue the past few years, a pop-science look at religiosity versus ...

Book Review: Emotional Life

BOOK REVIEW.
“I don’t want to be at the mercy of my emotions, I want to use them, to enjoy them, and to dominate them.” That quote from Oscar Wilde is how psychologist Doreen Davy kicks off Emotional Life: Managing Your Feelings to Make the Most of Your Precious Time on Earth. Whether an experience is good or bad ...

Feeling Loved: Finding Happiness in an Overstressed World

BOOK REVIEW.
We have been writing about love for millennia. From the earliest surviving love poem dating from around 2030 BCE to the work of philosophers like Lao Tzu to the sonnets of Shakespeare, countless tomes have been written about seeking love, finding love, feeling love, and all the possible variations on the theme. In the modern ...

Winter Blues Survival Guide: A Workbook For Overcoming SAD

BOOK REVIEW.
Do the first signs of fall make you feel like hibernating until spring? During the winter months, do you feel irritable and depressed? If this sounds familiar, you may be one of the twenty percent of American adults suffering from seasonal affective disorder (SAD). SAD is a pattern of depression that comes and goes as the ...

The Gift of Adversity: The Unexpected Benefits of Life’s Difficulties, Setbacks & Imperfections

BOOK REVIEW.
With a title like The Gift of Adversity, Norman Rosenthal’s new book seemed like it would be a boring recount of life’s hard situations — something trite with a “get through it” message woven in. Instead, I was surprised to find it a rather interesting read. Rosenthal is a great storyteller, and that’s key. A clinical ...

Being You, Changing the World

BOOK REVIEW.
So you’re having a bad time of it. Well, perhaps you should “demand of the Universe: Either my life completely changes or I am out of here.” If you are truly serious, then plan for your ousting. “I even set a date, 6 months in the future. I gave the Universe a deadline,” writes Dain Heer. ...

Teaching Children to Do Hard Things

Teaching Children to Do Hard ThingsA child and his grandfather are at the playground. There is a high teepee set up with ropes and it looks challenging for the 3-year-old boy. His grandfather invites him to climb it. As he takes the first step toward the top, ...

Emotional Wellness: The Other Half of Treating Cancer

BOOK REVIEW.
Your friend was diagnosed with cancer this morning. She is scared and you are scared. Distraught, you make a beeline to a bookstore, seeking guidance. As you browse through various books, you come across one that you think might help your friend because it provides practical, immediate tips to short-circuit fearful and anxious thoughts. Emotional ...

Back from the Brink: True Stories & Practical Help for Overcoming Depression & Bipolar Disorder

BOOK REVIEW.
“We are lonesome animals. We spend all of our life trying to be less lonesome. One of our ancient methods is to tell a story begging the listener to say — and to feel — ‘Yes, that is the way it is, or at least that is the way I feel it. You’re not as ...

Therapists Spill: The Keys to Creating Positive Change

Therapists Spill: The Keys to Creating Positive ChangeCreating positive changes in your life is tough. It can be scary. “We fear the unknown, fear failure, even fear success,” said Christina G. Hibbert, PsyD, a clinical psychologist and expert in postpartum mental health. Clinical psychologist Ryan Howes, Ph.D, also ...

Optimal Living 360: Smart Decision Making for a Balanced Life

BOOK REVIEW.
With an M.B.A. as well as an M.D., Sanjay Jain has written the type of book that you’d imagine coming from a physician who thinks in business terms. Optimal Living 360 is smart at times, if short on science and substance, and intends to help readers make sound decisions across a wide range of everyday areas, ...

Mindful Anger: A Pathway to Emotional Freedom

BOOK REVIEW.
Have you ever been so angry that you were enraged? So upset that you were ready to scream and throw things? Felt your heart about to pound out of your chest at the wrong done to you? Or how about just annoyed? Something, or someone, just irritated you so much that you felt your head ...

Lemons into Limoncello: From Loss to Personal Renaissance with the Zest of Italy

BOOK REVIEW.
What should we do when life hands us lemons? According to cognitive psychologist Raeleen Mautner, the answer isn’t to make lemonade, but limoncello, an Italian lemon liqueur that, with its added kick, reminds us to motivate ourselves to make our lives better after loss. But while Mautner’s book dives into the topic of resilience with the ...

Substance Abuse: The Power of Acceptance

The Power of AcceptanceAccepting reality enables us to live in reality. What does this mean? When life pleases us and flows in accordance with our needs and desires, we don’t think about acceptance. But when our will is frustrated or we’re hurt in some way, our displeasure ...

Trouble Is a Gift: A Story of Addiction, Recovery & Hope

BOOK REVIEW.
“But finally, there I was alone in this apartment, sitting in a chair, staring at the radiator waiting for the little guy to crawl out from behind it. Knowing the bottle was going to be empty in another minute. Wondering how I’m going to get money to buy a new one or if I should ...

Book Review: By All Means

BOOK REVIEW.
A few pages into this “Zen cautionary tale,” the dramatic stakes are set high and our attention is arrested when its main character, Edward, barely manages to extricate a piggy hand-puppet from the jaws of a neighborhood feline -- just as the interloping cat tries to slink out Edward’s side door. We soon learn that Edward ...