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Back from the Brink: True Stories & Practical Help for Overcoming Depression & Bipolar Disorder

May 15th, 2014
“We are lonesome animals. We spend all of our life trying to be less lonesome. One of our ancient methods is to tell a story begging the listener to say — and to feel — ‘Yes, that is the way it is, or at least that is the way I feel it. You’re not as ...

Retelling the Stories of Our Lives: Everyday Narrative Therapy to Draw Inspiration

BOOK REVIEW.
This book began as a project between author David Denborough and the creator of narrative therapy, the late Michael White. Denborough worked alongside White for 15 years, then carried the book to fruition following White’s death in 2008. He has written an excellent work that provides guidance in how to both tell and change your ...

Why and How to Teach Grandma to Access the Internet

Why and How to Teach Grandma to Access the InternetThe Internet offers promising new ways to end isolation and loneliness among the senior citizens we love. This is no small thing. Relationships, after all, are at the core of mental and even physical health. The 2004 Australian ...

Understanding & Coping with the Christmas Blues

Understanding & Coping with the Christmas BluesThe stress of the holidays triggers sadness and depression for many people. This time of year is especially difficult because there’s an expectation of feeling merry and generous. People compare their emotions to what they assume others are experiencing or ...

The Abundant Problems of Scarcity

BOOK REVIEW.
What do you not have enough of? Money? Time? Friends? The lack may cause you greater problems than the obvious tight budget, frazzled days, or loneliness. Harvard economics professor Sendhil Mullainathan and Princeton psychology professor Eldar Shafir outline a compelling theory about that in their new book Scarcity: Why Having Too Little Means So ...

The Empty Nest: Opportunity or Crisis?

The Empty Nest: Opportunity or Crisis?Feelings of loss and anxiety about change when the last child leaves home are normal. But it often has been pathologized in popular culture as a disorder, disease or condition that needs treatment. Usually it’s not and it doesn’t. In fact, ...

Behind the Mask: Adolescents in Hiding

BOOK REVIEW.
Adolescents often struggle with intense emotional situations, yet find themselves unsure of how to process it all. In Behind the Mask: Adolescents in Hiding, Dennis Rozema explains that the way a teenager deals with pain either facilitates emotional wellness or creates a mask for them to hide behind. This mask helps protect them and helps them ...

Is Parenting Drowning Your Marriage? 6 Tips to Help Reconnect with Your Partner

Is Parenting Drowning Your Marriage? 6 Tips to Help Reconnect with Your PartnerIt’s a too-familiar story. James and Cindy have come in for couples counseling because they worry they have grown apart. With three children under the age of 12, they want to ...

Words of Love: Quotations from the Heart

BOOK REVIEW.
“Do not seek perfection in a changing world. Instead, perfect your love.” This quote, from Buddha, is one of many warm, useful sayings in Words of Love: Quotations from the Heart. From religious texts to scientists to novelists and pop icons, author Allen Klein draws on a host of sources to form this quintessential collection of wisdom on ...

Are You Trapped & Unhappy in Your Relationship?

Are You Trapped & Unhappy in Your Relationship?Do you feel trapped in a relationship you can’t leave? Of course, feeling trapped is a state of mind. No one needs consent to leave a relationship. Millions of people ...

New Baby Blues or Postpartum Depression?

New Baby Blues or Postpartum Depression?“I don’t know what’s wrong with me. I’m supposed to feel a surge of maternal instinct, right? I’m supposed to love my baby. Why am I so overwhelmed and uninterested?” I’m just getting to know Michelle. She had her first baby ...

Getting Unhooked from Pain & Choosing Happiness

Getting Unhooked from Pain and Choosing Happiness Even teens who are popular and appear to be doing well may feel secretly isolated emotionally, harboring distress that seeks expression through self-destructive behavior. Neurobiology of Breaking Habits Self-destructive behavior patterns, such as addictions, are ...

6 Tips to Avoid Valentine’s Day Traps

6 Tips to Avoid Valentines Day TrapsValentine’s Day is fraught with landmines and expectations, often unrealized. Whether you’re in or out of a relationship, the grass isn’t always greener. Below are often-occurring situations, and six tips to having a great ...

Midlife Crises Affecting Men and Families

Midlife Crises Affecting Men and FamiliesStudies show a dip in happiness at midlife across the world, which fortunately is temporary and followed by an upward trend in life satisfaction (The Joy, 2010). Midlife is a time when we are no longer ...

The Introvert’s Way: Living a Quiet Life in a Noisy World

BOOK REVIEW.
Introverts certainly are having a moment -- Susan Cain’s Quiet landed on the New York Times Bestseller List as soon as it came out in January 2012 -- and it’s about time.  The Introvert’s Way by Psych Central's own Sophia Dembling continues this trend.  Unlike Quiet, it not only provides scientific and cultural background ...

When Fantasy Crosses the Line

When Fantasy Crosses the LineFantasizing about another person may seem like a harmless indulgence, but it actually draws us closer to temptation and can increase the risk of being unfaithful. In the same way that dwelling on worries and possible catastrophes ...

Surviving Your Breakup

Surviving Your BreakupAs a society, we place great emphasis on finding “the one.” We pressure ourselves to find the perfect lifemate for ourselves. Often, this process can be nerve-racking in itself. However, what happens when a relationship ends? We can all think of instances where ...

Red Flags of Love Fraud: 10 Signs You’re Dating a Sociopath

BOOK REVIEW.
Donna Andersen started LoveFraud.com after her former husband drained her of $227,000, cheated on her, fathered a child outside their marriage, and remarried 10 days after their divorce was finalized. The website, which was created to warn others about the dangers of love frauders, was the impetus for Andersen’s book, Red Flags of Love Fraud. The ...

What is Emotional Abandonment?

What is Emotional Abandonment?Many people don’t realize that they’re feeling emotionally abandoned or that they did as a child. They may be unhappy, but can’t put their finger on what it is. People tend to think of abandonment as something physical, ...

How to Spot Emotional Unavailability

How to Spot Emotional UnavailabilityIf you’ve ever been in a relationship with someone emotionally unavailable, you know the pain of not being able to get close to the one you love. They’re evasive, make excuses, or are just inept when it ...

How to be a Friend Indeed to a Friend in Need

How to be a Friend Indeed to a Friend in NeedFriendship is easy when friends are on the same schedule, have the same level of flexibility, or have an agreement that one friend takes more ...

Adolescent Tragedies and My Teenager

Adolescent Tragedies and My TeenagerOnce again I am writing about a terrible tragedy. Fifteen dead children. Fifteen lives ended prematurely and violently. An entire community that will not recover for generations. An entire nation searching for answers that ...

Problems of Codependents

Problems of CodependentsEveryone laughs when I tell them that I wrote Codependency for Dummies. But codependency is no laughing matter. It causes serious pain and affects the majority of Americans -- and not just women or loved ones of addicts, as many ...