Holiday Coping Library

  • Toys for the Holidays: Buying Gifts for Other People’s Children
    Holiday time. For many of us, shopping in the toy aisle is our chance to reenter the world of childhood. The old joke about the father who buys a train set "for the children" and ...
  • New Year’s Resolutions: Role-Modeling the ‘How’ of Making Change
    There's something in the human condition that likes new beginnings. Diets always start after the holidays. Birthdays are a great time to quit smoking. Every week gives us a Monday to start some new project. ...
  • The Turkey Trail: Which ‘Home’ for the Holidays?
    When we were in our early 20s, a friend of mine called it "the turkey trail:" Thanksgiving dinner at 2:00 at her mother's house, another full holiday meal at his mother's at 6:00. Each mother ...
  • 10 Things to Do If You’re Alone for the Holidays
    For a wide variety of reasons, many of us find ourselves alone for the holidays. With the emphasis on families and being with others, the holidays can be an especially lonely and trying time, even ...
  • Coping with Being Alone for the Holidays
    The holiday season is a time of tradition, and traditions have a funny way of becoming expectations — like getting lots of stocking stuffers and spending days on end with family and friends. But what ...
  • Alone During the Holidays? Join the Crowd
    You know the scene. It looks so warm and cozy and loving. The large, smiling family is gathered around an exquisitely laid-out table, brimming with beautifully prepared food. All of this is playing out against ...
  • Seven Steps to Keeping Your New Year’s Resolutions
    How much money would you bet that you're going to keep your New Year's resolutions this year? Just think of what it will do to your self-esteem if you could pull it off! These tips ...
  • Making the Most of a Holiday Apart from Your Kids
    Spending a holiday without your kids doesn't have to be an exercise in misery. Margorie Engel, Ph.D., president of the Stepfamily Association of America, offers these suggestions for making the most of a holiday apart ...
  • Preparing Kids for Holiday Visits
    If kids will be traveling between households for the holidays, then the "sending" home and the "receiving" home need to work together to ensure a smooth transition. Margorie Engel, Ph.D., president of the Stepfamily Association ...
  • Nine Ways to Beat the Bah Humbugs
    Not everyone delights in all the festivities and joy of the holiday season. People from all walks of life and in all sorts of situations feel depressed, sad or out of it during the holidays. ...
  • Holiday Drinking: Keep It Safe
    Every holiday season, people have to deal with the increased pressures and stress that the holidays place upon most of us. Whether we're traveling to be with family or doing our last-minute gift buying, most ...
  • Managing Children’s Expectations: A Key To Happy Holidays
    Ten-year-old Sara keeps her holiday wish list in a notebook, adding new items as she watches Saturday morning cartoons. The list is six pages long by October, including several items costing $100 or more. Devon, who ...
  • Beating the Holiday Blues
    Joy to the world! 'Tis the season to be jolly! Festive music fills the air; holiday cheer abounds. Everyone is happy at holiday time — right? Wrong. Truth be told, many people feel lonely, sad, ...
  • Not in the Holiday Mood? It Might Be the Blues
    It's that time of year again. Multicolored lights twinkle across houses and front yards. Parents and squirming children form long lines to sit on a Santa look-alike's lap. Red and green decorations adorn every store window. ...
  • Wrung-Out by Ringing-In the Holidays: Dealing with Post-Holiday Blues
    "The Holidays," generally defined as the period from Thanksgiving through New Years, can be an emotional roller coaster. We're expected to be (and would like to be) filled with joy, cheer and love for all ...
  • Talking Turkey: Managing Unhappy Relatives at Holiday Time
    Almost all families seem to have at least one member who has made a career of being unhappy. In their distress, these people accuse, complain, sigh, and make it difficult for others to enjoy the ...
  • Shedding Light on Winter Depression
    Thirty days hath September, April, June and November, All the rest have thirty-one Except for February— Which has 258! We extend our apologies to ...
  • Enjoying the Winter Holiday Season
    No matter what your faith or cultural background, as the holiday season approaches, you may notice, as many people do, that instead of feeling a sense of warm anticipation, you feel a sense of dread. ...
  • Don’t Stress Holiday Travel
    If you're planning a trip during the festive season, you're not alone. Everyone else seems to be traveling, too. The holiday season accounts for nearly 10 percent of all miles traveled by Americans during the ...
  • Seasonal Stepfamily Stress: Tips to Help All Your Family Members Enjoy the Holidays
    In an ideal world, holidays would bring all families closer together and heal all wounds. Parents, stepparents, ex-spouses, children and grandparents would embrace each other in perfect harmony, and family discord would disappear, at least ...
  • Holiday Stress: A Resourceful Survivor’s Guide
    Here's your chance to enjoy a serene Christmas—or Ramadan or Kwanzaa or Hanukkah The holidays are supposed to be joyous occasions marked by meaningful traditions, family connections, spiritual rejuvenation and just plain fun. Instead, for many ...
  • The Ghosts of Holidays Past
    An adult daughter searches for the joy in the season, despite memories of distressing family scenes. I love the holidays. I really do. Give me cold weather outdoors, a crackling fire indoors, tantalizing smells from the ...
  • The Valentine’s Day Fray
    I find human behavior fascinating. For example, I have a friend who, for 355 days of the year, is happily single. Oh, sure, she dates from time to time, but is very content living on ...
  • More articles about holiday coping
    Additional articles about holiday coping and New Year's resolutions are available.
  • 10 Sure Ways to Keep Your New Year’s Resolutions
    Another year is ending and many of us are gathering up our willpower for a brand new set of New Year's resolutions. But have we learned from past experience? A large number, if not the ...