Holiday Coping Library

  • The Pain of Losing Your Faith
    Our faith -- whether a religious conviction, a commitment to human rights, or another set of deeply-held beliefs -- informs many of our life choices. So what happens when we lose these guiding principles? Although ...
  • Holiday Traditions
    "But we always have mixed nuts at Thanksgiving!" "But we always have turkey for Christmas dinner!" "But we always have the youngest child open the first Hanukkah present (this protested by the youngest)!" "But we always go to ...
  • Celebrating Safely with Alcohol
    For many families, drinking alcohol is a way to celebrate something. The good cheer of the holiday season is liberally laced with wine. We use champagne and liquor to show our happiness at weddings and ...
  • Halloween Safety Tips for Parents
    If a visitor from outer space were observing our town during the last few days of October, I’m sure it would be ...
  • More Coping with Holiday Stress Tips
    The holidays can be fun, but they also can be a source of great stress — and no wonder. The holidays are often depicted as a magical time when people reconcile and dreams come true. How ...
  • 10 Things You Can Do Differently Today
    Every year at about this time, magazines, newspapers and websites (including ours!) publish their usual articles on how to keep your New Year's resolutions. We all seem to forget that many people -- perhaps even ...
  • It’s All In How You Look At It: Transforming Holiday Angst into Gratitude
    “Here it is again: The holidays. I have to shop. I hate to shop. I have to cook. I hate to cook. The relatives are coming – never did like Aunt Gertrude. Another office party ...
  • Getting to the Heart of Holiday Gifting
    The annual December hype around buying and exchanging gifts doesn't usually include an in-depth discussion of the tact and ritual of gift giving. Stores just want to get us inside their doors and buying. Advertisers ...
  • Holiday Baking: A Recipe for Family Fun or Frustration?
    When I was a girl, my mother would spend the weeks before Christmas making dozens upon dozens of different kinds of Christmas cookies. There were drop cookies, refrigerator cookies, decorated cutouts and bars. There were ...
  • The Christmas Limit
    A couple of years ago, I celebrated the holidays for the first time with my husband’s parents. They bought me a beautiful (not to mention expensive!) silver necklace wrapped in a gorgeous gift box. Imagine ...
  • Toys for the Holidays: Buying Gifts for Other People’s Children
    Holiday time. For many of us, shopping in the toy aisle is our chance to reenter the world of childhood. The old joke about the father who buys a train set "for the children" and ...
  • New Year’s Resolutions: Role-Modeling the ‘How’ of Making Change
    There's something in the human condition that likes new beginnings. Diets always start after the holidays. Birthdays are a great time to quit smoking. Every week gives us a Monday to start some new project. ...
  • The Turkey Trail: Which ‘Home’ for the Holidays?
    When we were in our early 20s, a friend of mine called it "the turkey trail:" Thanksgiving dinner at 2:00 at her mother's house, another full holiday meal at his mother's at 6:00. Each mother ...
  • 10 Things to Do If You’re Alone for the Holidays
    For a wide variety of reasons, many of us find ourselves alone for the holidays. With the emphasis on families and being with others, the holidays can be an especially lonely and trying time, even ...
  • Coping with Being Alone for the Holidays
    The holiday season is a time of tradition, and traditions have a funny way of becoming expectations — like getting lots of stocking stuffers and spending days on end with family and friends. But what ...
  • Alone During the Holidays? Join the Crowd
    You know the scene. It looks so warm and cozy and loving. The large, smiling family is gathered around an exquisitely laid-out table, brimming with beautifully prepared food. All of this is playing out against ...
  • Seven Steps to Keeping Your New Year’s Resolutions
    How much money would you bet that you're going to keep your New Year's resolutions this year? Just think of what it will do to your self-esteem if you could pull it off! These tips ...
  • Making the Most of a Holiday Apart from Your Kids
    Spending a holiday without your kids doesn't have to be an exercise in misery. Margorie Engel, Ph.D., president of the Stepfamily Association of America, offers these suggestions for making the most of a holiday apart ...
  • Preparing Kids for Holiday Visits
    If kids will be traveling between households for the holidays, then the "sending" home and the "receiving" home need to work together to ensure a smooth transition. Margorie Engel, Ph.D., president of the Stepfamily Association ...
  • Nine Ways to Beat the Bah Humbugs
    Not everyone delights in all the festivities and joy of the holiday season. People from all walks of life and in all sorts of situations feel depressed, sad or out of it during the holidays. ...
  • Holiday Drinking: Keep It Safe
    Every holiday season, people have to deal with the increased pressures and stress that the holidays place upon most of us. Whether we're traveling to be with family or doing our last-minute gift buying, most ...
  • Managing Children’s Expectations: A Key To Happy Holidays
    Ten-year-old Sara keeps her holiday wish list in a notebook, adding new items as she watches Saturday morning cartoons. The list is six pages long by October, including several items costing $100 or more. Devon, who ...
  • Beating the Holiday Blues
    Joy to the world! 'Tis the season to be jolly! Festive music fills the air; holiday cheer abounds. Everyone is happy at holiday time — right? Wrong. Truth be told, many people feel lonely, sad, ...
  • Not in the Holiday Mood? It Might Be the Blues
    It's that time of year again. Multicolored lights twinkle across houses and front yards. Parents and squirming children form long lines to sit on a Santa look-alike's lap. Red and green decorations adorn every store window. ...
  • Wrung-Out by Ringing-In the Holidays: Dealing with Post-Holiday Blues
    "The Holidays," generally defined as the period from Thanksgiving through New Years, can be an emotional roller coaster. We're expected to be (and would like to be) filled with joy, cheer and love for all ...