Holiday Coping Library

  • Happy New Year, for Auld Lang Syne.
    New Year's Eve, in much of the English speaking world, is a time of celebration. People ring in the New Year with parties, fancy dress, streamers, noise makers, and champagne. Rowdy crowds gather late at ...
  • Holiday Travel with Young Kids
    It's the time of year when many families take to the road, going home for the holidays. It's the time of year when my inbox is full of letters seeking advice for how to stay ...
  • Simplifying the Holidays
    Do you want to manage the holidays with less stress? Simplify! Magazine covers trumpet feature titles like: “More love, less stress.” “Ten Ways to Make Decorating Easy.” “Keep it Beautiful. Make it ...
  • Special Occasions and Special Needs Kids
    Here come the holidays. For many parents with special needs kids, here comes more stress. No matter how many times you have tried to explain the special needs of your special child, the extended family, ...
  • Rx for Mental Health: Send Holiday Cards!
    It’s easy to get cynical about holiday cards. There certainly is a lot of pressure to send them for all the wrong reasons: Because the person sent one to us. Because it is a way ...
  • The Pain of Losing Your Faith
    Our faith -- whether a religious conviction, a commitment to human rights, or another set of deeply-held beliefs -- informs many of our life choices. So what happens when we lose these guiding principles? Although ...
  • Holiday Traditions
    "But we always have mixed nuts at Thanksgiving!" "But we always have turkey for Christmas dinner!" "But we always have the youngest child open the first Hanukkah present (this protested by the youngest)!" "But we always go to ...
  • Celebrating Safely with Alcohol
    For many families, drinking alcohol is a way to celebrate something. The good cheer of the holiday season is liberally laced with wine. We use champagne and liquor to show our happiness at weddings and ...
  • Halloween Safety Tips for Parents
    If a visitor from outer space were observing our town during the last few days of October, I’m sure it would be ...
  • More Coping with Holiday Stress Tips
    The holidays can be fun, but they also can be a source of great stress — and no wonder. The holidays are often depicted as a magical time when people reconcile and dreams come true. How ...
  • 10 Things You Can Do Differently Today
    Every year at about this time, magazines, newspapers and websites (including ours!) publish their usual articles on how to keep your New Year's resolutions. We all seem to forget that many people -- perhaps even ...
  • It’s All In How You Look At It: Transforming Holiday Angst into Gratitude
    “Here it is again: The holidays. I have to shop. I hate to shop. I have to cook. I hate to cook. The relatives are coming – never did like Aunt Gertrude. Another office party ...
  • Getting to the Heart of Holiday Gifting
    The annual December hype around buying and exchanging gifts doesn't usually include an in-depth discussion of the tact and ritual of gift giving. Stores just want to get us inside their doors and buying. Advertisers ...
  • Holiday Baking: A Recipe for Family Fun or Frustration?
    When I was a girl, my mother would spend the weeks before Christmas making dozens upon dozens of different kinds of Christmas cookies. There were drop cookies, refrigerator cookies, decorated cutouts and bars. There were ...
  • The Christmas Limit
    A couple of years ago, I celebrated the holidays for the first time with my husband’s parents. They bought me a beautiful (not to mention expensive!) silver necklace wrapped in a gorgeous gift box. Imagine ...
  • Toys for the Holidays: Buying Gifts for Other People’s Children
    Holiday time. For many of us, shopping in the toy aisle is our chance to reenter the world of childhood. The old joke about the father who buys a train set "for the children" and ...
  • New Year’s Resolutions: Role-Modeling the ‘How’ of Making Change
    There's something in the human condition that likes new beginnings. Diets always start after the holidays. Birthdays are a great time to quit smoking. Every week gives us a Monday to start some new project. ...
  • The Turkey Trail: Which ‘Home’ for the Holidays?
    When we were in our early 20s, a friend of mine called it "the turkey trail:" Thanksgiving dinner at 2:00 at her mother's house, another full holiday meal at his mother's at 6:00. Each mother ...
  • 10 Things to Do If You’re Alone for the Holidays
    For a wide variety of reasons, many of us find ourselves alone for the holidays. With the emphasis on families and being with others, the holidays can be an especially lonely and trying time, even ...
  • Coping with Being Alone for the Holidays
    The holiday season is a time of tradition, and traditions have a funny way of becoming expectations — like getting lots of stocking stuffers and spending days on end with family and friends. But what ...
  • Alone During the Holidays? Join the Crowd
    You know the scene. It looks so warm and cozy and loving. The large, smiling family is gathered around an exquisitely laid-out table, brimming with beautifully prepared food. All of this is playing out against ...
  • Seven Steps to Keeping Your New Year’s Resolutions
    How much money would you bet that you're going to keep your New Year's resolutions this year? Just think of what it will do to your self-esteem if you could pull it off! These tips ...
  • Making the Most of a Holiday Apart from Your Kids
    Spending a holiday without your kids doesn't have to be an exercise in misery. Margorie Engel, Ph.D., president of the Stepfamily Association of America, offers these suggestions for making the most of a holiday apart ...
  • Preparing Kids for Holiday Visits
    If kids will be traveling between households for the holidays, then the "sending" home and the "receiving" home need to work together to ensure a smooth transition. Margorie Engel, Ph.D., president of the Stepfamily Association ...
  • Nine Ways to Beat the Bah Humbugs
    Not everyone delights in all the festivities and joy of the holiday season. People from all walks of life and in all sorts of situations feel depressed, sad or out of it during the holidays. ...