Grief and Loss Library

  • Ricochet: The Truth About PTSD
    Some of you may have read the article "Ricochet: My shot made Joseph Dwyer famous. Did it also help lead to his death?" If you haven't, you might want to. It's about this young ...
  • Mother’s Day Thoughts by a Mommy of Angels
    I have been thinking. I have 6 Angels waiting for me in Heaven. I have miscarriages. The couple weeks surrounding Mother's Day contain several significant dates for me anyway. May 8th was the 7th anniversary ...
  • We Shouldn’t Need a Day of Our Own
    Everybody in the United States is terribly aware the second Sunday in May is Mother's Day -- the floral and greeting card industries won’t let you forget it. Mother's Day is big business. (Whether people ...
  • The Stress of Severe Weather
    It's coming up to that time of year in many places of the country — tornado season. The southern states have already experienced some storms; Oklahoma was struck by a deadly twister just before ...
  • Helping Kids Cope with Your Amicable Divorce
    When divorce is an obvious solution to a disastrous marriage, it’s easier for kids to understand. If either parent is abusive to partner and kids, an addict whose habit has thrown the family into poverty, ...
  • Coping with Sudden Unemployment
    With all that is happening in our economy lately, we all have to realize that we could fall victim to ‘downsizing’ or ‘organizational restructuring.’ Just as with any loss, you are likely to face many ...
  • Grief, Grandma’s Way
    By the time she got into her 90s, my grandmother was a wise woman indeed. She was wise about life. She was also wise about death. As the youngest of eight, she had outlived all ...
  • The Corporate Masquerade
    It seemed as if I had finally made it. I had a management job at a growing company. This included my own office, a very nice desk, travel, a corporate credit card, a ...
  • Historical Secrets to Happiness
    Has the latest fad, "positive psychology," increased our happiness? Not according to a British author and cultural historian. Positive psychology, defined as "the study of optimal human functioning," has gained enormous popularity in the past decade. ...
  • What is Existential Depression?
    When people talk about depression, sometimes they refer to different types based upon what they think may have caused their depression. One such possible cause is existential in nature, that is, a person ends ...
  • Surviving a Life Crisis
    That some good can be derived from every event is a better proposition than that everything happens for the best, which it assuredly does not. —James K. Feibleman No matter how hard we wish it otherwise, ...
  • Future Planning for Your Intellectually Disabled Adult Child
    If you are in your mid to late 50s or older and have an intellectually disabled adult child living at home, you are part of the first generation whose disabled kids may well outlive them. ...
  • The Pain of Losing Your Faith
    Our faith -- whether a religious conviction, a commitment to human rights, or another set of deeply-held beliefs -- informs many of our life choices. So what happens when we lose these guiding principles? Although ...
  • Grandparenting a Disabled Child
    Grandparenting is a delicious second chance for nurturing a child. Chances are you looked forward to using hard-won lessons from your experience as a parent to do it better this time. Chances are you looked ...
  • Coping with the Death of a Coworker
    Our co-workers are very much like an extended family. We spend most of our waking hours with them, forging special bonds of trust and friendship that are unlike our other relationships. So it’s not surprising that ...
  • Moving Beyond “Why Me?” in Cancer
    If you have recently been diagnosed with breast cancer or any other cancer, you may be experiencing a wide variety of emotions: fear, anger, sadness, guilt, helplessness, and anxiety. You may wonder, "Why me?" Often ...
  • Facing Regret in Life
    "Think of regret as like looking in the rear view mirror when you're driving. To drive forward well, we often use the rear view mirror; we do need to look backwards. That doesn't mean that ...
  • Reduce the Stress of a Divorce
    No matter how frustrated you may have become with your partner, the decision to divorce never is an easy one. Strong emotions often arise on both sides. But there are healthy ways to cope. Making the ...
  • Children and the Death of a Pet
    For many children, their first real experience with loss occurs when a pet dies. When a pet dies, children need consolation, love, support, and affection more than they need complicated medical or scientific explanations. ...
  • Children and Grief
    When a family member dies, children react differently from adults. Preschool children usually see death as temporary and reversible, a belief reinforced by cartoon characters who die and come to life again. Children between five ...
  • What is Forgiveness?
    Forgiveness is letting go of the need for revenge and releasing negative thoughts of bitterness and resentment. If you are a parent, you can provide a wonderful model for your children by forgiving. If they ...
  • Finding the Courage to Cry
    When my mother died, a friend came up to me as I was holding myself and crying, and told me I had a lot of courage to let myself feel so bad. At the time ...
  • Tips for Talking to Students About a School Shooting
    During the tragedy of a school shooting, many times people are uncertain what to say or how to react to teens and young adults when faced with the enormity of the situation. People are dead. ...
  • Preparing for Grief
    The death of someone close to us is the most severe stressor imaginable. Bereavement brings a high risk of mental and physical health problems for a long time afterward. Grieving is a completely natural process, but ...
  • Tips for Coping with Organizational Change
    Downsizing. Reinventing. Reorganizing. Merging. Acquiring. Joint venturing. Relocating. Restructuring. Many of these have become euphemisms for removing significant numbers of employees from a company's payroll. Whether you are among those laid off or those who remain ...