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Emotional Wellness: The Other Half of Treating Cancer

June 2nd, 2014
Your friend was diagnosed with cancer this morning. She is scared and you are scared. Distraught, you make a beeline to a bookstore, seeking guidance. As you browse through various books, you come across one that you think might help your friend because it provides practical, immediate tips to short-circuit fearful and anxious thoughts. Emotional ...

Lemons into Limoncello: From Loss to Personal Renaissance with the Zest of Italy

BOOK REVIEW.
What should we do when life hands us lemons? According to cognitive psychologist Raeleen Mautner, the answer isn’t to make lemonade, but limoncello, an Italian lemon liqueur that, with its added kick, reminds us to motivate ourselves to make our lives better after loss. But while Mautner’s book dives into the topic of resilience with the ...

Substance Abuse: The Power of Acceptance

The Power of AcceptanceAccepting reality enables us to live in reality. What does this mean? When life pleases us and flows in accordance with our needs and desires, we don’t think about acceptance. But when our will is frustrated or we’re hurt in some way, our displeasure ...

Retelling the Stories of Our Lives: Everyday Narrative Therapy to Draw Inspiration

BOOK REVIEW.
This book began as a project between author David Denborough and the creator of narrative therapy, the late Michael White. Denborough worked alongside White for 15 years, then carried the book to fruition following White’s death in 2008. He has written an excellent work that provides guidance in how to both tell and change your ...

The Trauma of Everyday Life

BOOK REVIEW.
How many times have you heard someone say, That was the straw that broke the camel’s back? We can try to rally to face big obstacles, but sometimes the day-to-day “little things” add up until, finally, one of those small things overcomes us. Then, it turns out, they were not such “little things” after all. In ...

Phantom Pregnancy (Pseudocyesis): The Mind-Body Connection

Phantom Pregnancy (Pseudocyesis): The Mind-Body ConnectionPregnancy is an exciting time for expectant mothers. It’s a high point in women’s lives and one that will bring great changes. It brings many physical and emotional symptoms. A woman may feel complete and fulfilled when she knows that she ...

The Spirit of the Heart: Stories of Family, Hope, Loss & Healing

BOOK REVIEW.
You never forget your first patient who dies. When I entered medical school, I knew death would be part of my education, that not every patient could be saved. I was in my third year of medical school and had recently come back from talking with a patient, assessing him for a possible surgery, when the ...

Understanding & Coping with the Christmas Blues

Understanding & Coping with the Christmas BluesThe stress of the holidays triggers sadness and depression for many people. This time of year is especially difficult because there’s an expectation of feeling merry and generous. People compare their emotions to what they assume others are experiencing or ...

How I Learned To Smile From the Inside

BOOK REVIEW.
“Hope is the only emotion that will keep us going even when all other lights have gone out, even when there is no end in sight, and the world is ending. Hope is what keeps us going each and every day. Never forget that hope is just as powerful as love. … [W]ith love and ...

The Empty Nest: Opportunity or Crisis?

The Empty Nest: Opportunity or Crisis?Feelings of loss and anxiety about change when the last child leaves home are normal. But it often has been pathologized in popular culture as a disorder, disease or condition that needs treatment. Usually it’s not and it doesn’t. In fact, ...

Book Review: Leave of Absence

BOOK REVIEW.
“It’s okay to feel frustrated for having to deal with this illness, but don’t hate yourself because of it. This illness is only a tiny part of you.” Self-hatred is the central battle for characters Oliver and Penelope in Tanya J. Peterson’s heart-wrenching novel Leave of Absence. Peterson gives readers an inside perspective on mental illness and ...

Book Review: Gone: A Novel

BOOK REVIEW.
Cathi Hanauer’s Gone explores life’s pitfalls, changes and second chances, leaving the reader beautifully satisfied and content with the pages before them. The narrative alternates between the protagonists' contrasting viewpoints. Eve Adams must cope with the dawning realization that one night she’s wining and dining with her husband, Eric, and the next day she discovers that ...

Depression Commonly Strikes Seniors & Other Vital Facts About Depressed Seniors

Depression Commonly Strikes Seniors & Other Vital Facts About Depressed SeniorsThere’s a common belief that depression is a normal part of aging. It’s not. But unfortunately, it is prevalent among the elderly. A 2000 study published in the Archives of General Psychiatry ...

How to Wake Up: A Buddhist-Inspired Guide to Navigating Joy & Sorrow

BOOK REVIEW.
“I see you.” These three little words have remarkable power to change how you think, feel, and live. Author Toni Bernhard visited Paris back in 2001 one and came down with a viral illness that has left her chronically ill and at times confined in her home on bed rest. She had been a law professor ...

Summer Island

BOOK REVIEW.
"It was the impurity in her heart that made her successful. She was an ordinary woman who’d made extraordinary mistakes. She understood every nuance of need and loss." ~ Summer Island Given my love for women’s fiction, I’m enthusiastic when I discover a new writer’s collection. Happily, best-selling author Kristin Hannah captured my interest immediately with ...

The Song Remains the Same

BOOK REVIEW.
“I really enjoyed playing with the idea of ‘who are we without our memories’? Do you make the same choices? Do the same things make you happy?” - Allison Winn Scotch Imagine waking up one day without your memory. Your history is depleted, and the only stories that you hear about yourself and your past ...

New Baby Blues or Postpartum Depression?

New Baby Blues or Postpartum Depression?“I don’t know what’s wrong with me. I’m supposed to feel a surge of maternal instinct, right? I’m supposed to love my baby. Why am I so overwhelmed and uninterested?” I’m just getting to know Michelle. She had her first baby ...

Natural Disaster Crisis Management

Natural Disaster Crisis ManagementCrisis intervention in natural disasters is important to look at from many different angles. The points of view of those experiencing the disaster and those of relief workers should be considered when developing models and considerations for interventions and emotional care. Other factors, ...

Book Review: I Apologize

BOOK REVIEW.
Bradley Booth was tormented by survivor's guilt for five years after the leukemia death of his fiancee. When he fell in love again, the emotional upheaval of these life-changing events compelled him to write I Apologize -- a novel based on his own experiences. Booth's protagonist in this roman à clef is Tony Richardson, a workaholic marketing ...

The Divorce Party

BOOK REVIEW.
I enjoy reading anything by Laura Dave; I find that her characters embody a perfect blend of endearment and fault that really make them human. Dave does not disappoint with The Divorce Party, an entertaining novel that provides valuable insight about the nature of relationships. Gwyn and Thomas are toasting to the end of their ...

9 Tips to Cope with Holiday Depression

9 Tips to Cope with Holiday DepressionThe stress of the holidays triggers sadness and depression for many people. This time of year is especially difficult because there’s an expectation of feeling merry and generous. People compare their emotions to what they assume others are experiencing ...

Breath in the Dark: A Childhood Lost

BOOK REVIEW.
When I was 6 years old, my favorite pastime was playing with dolls or playing dress-up. I can remember spending hours in my “princess” dress, dancing around the living room while my mother stood by with the camera, encouraging me. She would fix my hair, sing to me, and let me sit beside her while ...

How to Heal from Infidelity

Consider this surprising statistic: At least one or both parties in 50 percent of all couples, married and living together, straight and gay, will break their vows of sexual or emotional exclusivity during the lifetime of the relationship. ~ Shirley Glass, Not Just ...