The Theory of Opposites "The best way not to be lost is to be your own map."
~ Theory Of Opposites
Have you ever questioned your choices? Have you ever wondered if there was a ‘life plan’ doled out by the ...
Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder Michelle was terrorized for much of her childhood. Her father was an inconsistent presence and her mother expressed outright disdain for her. Often when Michelle went to her mother for comfort, she was accused of exaggerating or being a "crybaby" and sent away.
Starting at age 4 until she was out of the house at 16, Michelle was molested by several family members -- including her brother, her uncle and a couple of cousins. As she grew up, different men in the neighborhood also sexually assaulted her.
At 19, she began dating Carl, who initially was very affectionate. However, he then began to be suspicious of different friends of hers and concerned about how she spent her time. This escalated into more and more controlling behavior and occasionally he was physically violent.
Rethink Those Failed New Year’s Resolutions It’s not even the middle of January and those New Year’s resolutions are already history. You’ve fallen off the diet, started smoking again or given up on the exercise routine. You feel bad about yourself for not being able to put your good intentions into action for even two weeks.
Two weeks! You scold yourself for having no willpower or for failing yet once again. You sigh and give up, perhaps rationalizing away the project. You can always claim no time, too much stress, or peer pressure, right? Wrong. You know you’re rationalizing but oh well.
You can take some comfort in knowing that you are not alone. Almost 90 percent of New Year’s resolutions dissolve within a month. The enthusiasm about a new year and a new beginning quickly fades. Life takes over. All the reasons you developed whatever bad habit you wanted to fix are still there.
But all is not lost. You can still make that important change, whatever it was. You may just have to rethink how to go about it.
A New Year’s Resolution for Generosity Isn’t it wonderful? Every January 1, we get to have a fresh start. Ring out the old. Ring in the new. We can change something significant about our lives.
New Year’s resolutions are a statement of hope. We make them, not to scold ourselves, but to hold out the possibility that we can change something. So we swear we’ll finally lose that 10 (or more) pounds, that we’ll quit bad habits we enjoy, or we’ll hit the gym more often. Never mind that studies show that almost 90 percent of such resolutions are broken within two weeks of New Year’s. Our intentions were good. Oh well.
I think we break those self-promises almost as soon as they’re made because they are too ambitious. We ask ourselves to take on something that has been a long-term issue and then feel too discouraged or overwhelmed by the idea to really take it on. Then we feel even worse about ourselves because once again, we didn’t do it. So we have another piece of chocolate or another cigarette and promise that maybe we’ll go the gym tomorrow.
Our Superheroes, Ourselves What does Lex Luthor have to do with gossip? According to two of the psychologists in Our Superheroes, Ourselves, our penchant to dish about people and our delight in hating supervillains are very much connected. ...
The Human Spark: The Science of Human Development Few writers have made me feel this lucky for being a book reviewer, but Jerome Kagan has done it with The Human Spark.
In his survey of human development that includes conception and first years, mental ...
Fire Your Shrink & Read This Book Instead Stop whining, repeating harmful behaviors, making excuses. Pick one that fits and get busy. That’s what our author would tell us.
When I began David M. Klein’s Fire Your Shrink and Read This Book Instead, my reaction ...
Obsessed: America’s Food Addiction — and My Own Have you ever heard a skinny, super successful, professional woman spouting the horrors of obesity? We all have, and the widespread reaction from anyone who has ever struggled with their weight is along the lines ...