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Picking up the Pieces After the Betrayal of Cheating

February 15th, 2014
It must be cellular: Men and women automatically feel humiliated when their partner cheats, even though they themselves have done nothing to be ashamed of. Too often, people feel embarrassed for their partner's behavior, whether it's domestic violence, ...

Fathers Reconnecting with Abandoned Kids

Fathers Reconnecting with Abandoned KidsJesse came to therapy with an important project in mind. Mine was not the first office he’d been to. He’d already been in a rehab program where he kicked a 10-year drug habit that had ruined his health, his marriage and his ...

Book Review: Beautiful Day

BOOK REVIEW.
I call it the wedding book, but really it’s a book about marriage. I hit every point on the possible spectrum of marriages, from the best marriages to the worst marriages, from the worst divorce to the best divorce. -- Elin Hilderbrand Anyone who knows me knows I pine for Elin Hilderbrand’s novels, which are set ...

Committed: A Skeptic Makes Peace with Marriage

BOOK REVIEW.
I saw it (marriage) as oppressive and outdated. And stupid and useless. And possibly very, very destructive. And I came away thinking it’s complex and long-lived. It must be here for a purpose, because it keeps being here. It’s always evolving. — Elizabeth Gilbert Committed is Elizabeth Gilbert’s honest and compelling sequel to ...

A Summer Vacation Guide for Noncustodial Parents

A Summer Vacation Guide for Noncustodial ParentsFor the noncustodial parent who lives far from his or her children, summer vacation often is greeted with a mixture of excitement and anxiety. This may be the only extended time that parent and child are together. A few ...

Summer Island

BOOK REVIEW.
"It was the impurity in her heart that made her successful. She was an ordinary woman who’d made extraordinary mistakes. She understood every nuance of need and loss." ~ Summer Island Given my love for women’s fiction, I’m enthusiastic when I discover a new writer’s collection. Happily, best-selling author Kristin Hannah captured my interest immediately with ...

Are You Trapped & Unhappy in Your Relationship?

Are You Trapped & Unhappy in Your Relationship?Do you feel trapped in a relationship you can’t leave? Of course, feeling trapped is a state of mind. No one needs consent to leave a relationship. Millions of people ...

Issues to Discuss Before You Commit

Issues to Discuss Before You CommitYou’re in love -- deeply, passionately, crazy in love. You want to move in together. You are sure you want to share the rest of your lives. You want to marry. Stop! Before you reserve the moving truck or ...

The Divorce Party

BOOK REVIEW.
I enjoy reading anything by Laura Dave; I find that her characters embody a perfect blend of endearment and fault that really make them human. Dave does not disappoint with The Divorce Party, an entertaining novel that provides valuable insight about the nature of relationships. Gwyn and Thomas are toasting to the end of their ...

Signs You Are Verbally Abused: Part II

Signs You Are Verbally Abused: Part II“Beware of rude and abusive people who love their mouths more than they love you.” ~ J. E. Brown You think you are being verbally abused by your partner. In fact, you suspect that you are ...

Signs You Are Verbally Abused: Part I

Signs You Are Verbally Abused: Part INote: Issues of verbal control can exist in any relationship, heterosexual, gay or lesbian, male towards a female partner or the other way around. Since more is known about verbal abuse in relationships where a ...

6 Tips to Avoid Valentine’s Day Traps

6 Tips to Avoid Valentines Day TrapsValentine’s Day is fraught with landmines and expectations, often unrealized. Whether you’re in or out of a relationship, the grass isn’t always greener. Below are often-occurring situations, and six tips to having a great ...

7 Simple Steps to Improve Your Relationship

7 Simple Steps to Improve Your RelationshipThere are so many books and articles written about how to communicate effectively that it often can be overwhelming knowing what to believe. Below are some of the most important factors ...

9 Tips to Cope with Holiday Depression

9 Tips to Cope with Holiday DepressionThe stress of the holidays triggers sadness and depression for many people. This time of year is especially difficult because there’s an expectation of feeling merry and generous. People compare their emotions to what they assume others are experiencing ...

In Defense of Courtship

In Defense of Courtship“A froggy went a-courtin’ he did ride. . .” ~ From a 16th-century English folk song Courtship. It’s such an old-fashioned word that some might find its use today to be quaint. Over the last few decades, courtship has gone the way of scented love ...

How to Heal from Infidelity

Consider this surprising statistic: At least one or both parties in 50 percent of all couples, married and living together, straight and gay, will break their vows of sexual or emotional exclusivity during the lifetime of the relationship. ~ Shirley Glass, Not Just ...

Finding Love (and Marriage) as a Single Mom

Finding Love (and Marriage) as a Single MomYou may remember the chant from childhood: First comes love, Then comes marriage, Then comes the baby in a baby carriage. It may have once been fun to jump rope to the rhyme, but these days, it’s far, ...

Surviving Your Breakup

Surviving Your BreakupAs a society, we place great emphasis on finding “the one.” We pressure ourselves to find the perfect lifemate for ourselves. Often, this process can be nerve-racking in itself. However, what happens when a relationship ends? We can all think of instances where ...

Red Flags of Love Fraud: 10 Signs You’re Dating a Sociopath

BOOK REVIEW.
Donna Andersen started LoveFraud.com after her former husband drained her of $227,000, cheated on her, fathered a child outside their marriage, and remarried 10 days after their divorce was finalized. The website, which was created to warn others about the dangers of love frauders, was the impetus for Andersen’s book, Red Flags of Love Fraud. The ...

7 Mistaken Assumptions Angry People Make

7 Mistaken Assumptions Angry People Make“I guess I have an anger problem. I lose my temper pretty quick. But it’s not like my wife doesn’t do things to make me mad.” Richard has reluctantly come to treatment because his wife took out ...

Daughters Need Fathers, Too

Daughters Need Fathers, TooFathers, be good to your daughters Daughters will love like you do ~ "Daughters," by John Mayer We hear a lot about the importance of male role models in a boy’s life. It is indeed important. But what’s often missing from the ...

5 Ways to Solve All Your Problems

5 Ways to Solve All Your ProblemsGot a problem? Who doesn’t? It might help to know there are five ways, and only five ways, to solve it. Isn’t that reassuring? Aren’t you glad you’re reading this? Run through these five ...

How to Overcome Obstacles to Positive Change

We all are faced at times with trying to persuade others to make behavioral changes, or needing to do so ourselves. These efforts can leave us feeling frustrated and helpless; our good intentions seem to be in vain. Why is it ...