Marie Hartwell-Walker, Ed.D.

Marie Hartwell-WalkerDr. Marie Hartwell-Walker is licensed as both a psychologist and marriage and family counselor. She specializes in couples and family therapy and parent education. She writes regularly for Psych Central as well as Psych Central's Ask the Therapist feature. She is author of the insightful parenting e-book, Tending the Family Heart.

Check out her new book, Unlocking the Secrets of Self-Esteem in early 2015!

Articles by Marie Hartwell-Walker, Ed.D.:

  • While Trump Leered, the Other Men Laughed
    16 Oct 2016

    Presidential candidate Donald Trump on the stump has sneered at and objectified women to shouts of approval from much of the crowd. On a hot microphone during a bus tour […]

  • 7 Reasons to Smile
    13 Oct 2016

    “Now, when you are in New York, walk purposefully. Keep your head down and don’t smile at anyone.” It was kindly meant advice. A friend was coaching me about how […]

  • When Your Parents Won’t Accept Your Divorce
    06 Oct 2016

    James is struggling. “My parents are being impossible!” he said. “It’s hard enough to go through separating from my wife without my folks giving me a hard time about it. […]

  • 6 Reasons to Spread the Love
    02 Oct 2016

    Cause nothing ever gonna make this world better If we don’t start believin’, That love really really really is the answer, . . . Spread the love ~ Kenny Chesney […]

  • Making Room for the Kids When Parents Live Apart
    15 Sep 2016

    About three-quarters of a million children witness their parents’ divorce each year. Three-fourths of them live primarily with their mothers, with dads granted what is unfortunately called “visitation.” For divorced […]

  • The New School Year and the Divorced Parent
    10 Sep 2016

    It’s September. For kids, it’s the month of new teachers, new subjects, even, for some, a new school. For divorced parents, it often means the start of new confusion about […]

  • 10 New School Year Resolutions
    24 Aug 2016

    Happy New School Year! I’ve been either in school, teaching school, sending kids to school or consulting with schools for over 65 years. The result? I see September 1 as […]

  • 8 Ways to Ensure Remarriage Success
    17 Aug 2016

    A Pew Research study that draws on the 2013 U.S. Census shows that 4 in 10 new marriages include one partner who has been married before. More than 40 million […]

  • 6 Reasons to Let Your Kids Do Dangerous Things
    15 Aug 2016

    I recently heard an NPR interview with Gever Tully, the founder of the Tinkering School. He advocates letting kids do dangerous things! Oh, he’s not telling us to let our […]

  • 10 Ways to Increase Marital Intimacy
    13 Aug 2016

    The couple sitting in front of me could barely look at each other. Therapy, she told me, was her last-ditch effort to get through to her husband. She couldn’t get […]

  • A Good Marriage is a Safe Marriage
    07 Aug 2016

    A healthy marriage is one in which both members of the couple feel safe. It is only when there is a foundation of safety that the individuals as well as […]

  • Staying Involved as a Non-Custodial Parent
    10 Jul 2016

    It is often difficult for non-custodial parents to have regular, meaningful contact with their kids following the divorce. It is so difficult that there are many non-custodial parents who gradually […]

  • Summer, Teens and Alcohol
    23 Jun 2016

    A teen I talked to recently was surprisingly candid about her summertime fun at the beach. “My friends and I have a special spot far from where families go and […]

  • What Only a Father Can Do
    15 Jun 2016

    If you believe the sitcoms of the 1950s and ’60s, all children at that time were raised in a family with a mom and a dad. The reality didn’t match […]

  • Parenting for Positive Identity
    05 Jun 2016

    Identity. It’s a complicated concept that defies easy definition. Yet it is at the heart of the lifelong question, “Who am I?” How we answer includes how much we value […]

  • Mental Health Month: Normal Teen Angst or Adolescent Mental Illness?
    20 May 2016

    May is Mental Health Month. Mental illness is not an adults-only issue. Almost half of all chronic mental illness begins by age 14; three-quarters by age 24. Yet the stigma […]

  • Narcissistic Personality Disorder vs. Normal Narcissism
    17 May 2016

    In Greek mythology, Narcissus was a proud young man who fell in love with his own reflection in a pool of water. He was so enchanted by his image that […]

  • Success in School Begins at Home
    17 May 2016

    Homework — work a student does at home without the monitoring of the teacher — is an important part of the school day. Homework is about learning to be self-disciplined. […]

  • School Phobia: ‘I’m Not Stupid, I’m Scared’
    17 May 2016

    The most important thing to understand about phobias is that they are not rational. A child who is afraid of dogs isn’t going to be talked out of it, scolded […]

  • Preparing Children To Leave Home
    17 May 2016

    Leaving home. Every healthy child eventually does it. Every healthy parent wants it to happen. But the actual leaving (and being left) can be extraordinarily painful for everyone involved. Parents […]

  • Parenting Well Through the Teen Years
    17 May 2016

    Any parent who has shepherded a child through early adolescence knows this scene: My 12-year-old had a meltdown over the weekend. Tearfully, she crawled into my lap. “Everything is changing […]

  • Parenting Angry Teens
    17 May 2016

    Some teens seem to walk around assuming that their parents are in a fight with them. The king-sized chip on the kid’s shoulder invites the older folks to try to […]

  • New Year’s Resolutions: Role-Modeling the ‘How’ of Making Change
    17 May 2016

    There’s something in the human condition that likes new beginnings. Diets always start after the holidays. Birthdays are a great time to quit smoking. Every week gives us a Monday […]

  • Money Matters
    17 May 2016

    “She’s my expensive one.” The mother sitting beside me at the local community pool points to one of her three teenaged daughters. “She’s the one who just has to have […]

  • How To Drive with Kids without Driving Yourself Crazy
    17 May 2016

    Like many parents in the 1950s, mine were in love with their automobile. Their idea of the perfect way to top off a weekend was to take the children on […]

  • I Have Teenagers — Pray For Me
    17 May 2016

    The bumper sticker on the car ahead of me this morning read, “I have teenagers. Pray for me.” I laughed. But then I got to thinking about the sentiment and […]

  • Let’s Talk about Picky Eaters
    17 May 2016

    A friend of mine tells a story about her family when she was small. Her sister refused to eat green beans. Her father got very angry and said something like, […]

  • Let’s Talk about Homework
    17 May 2016

    For those of us with kids in school, the start of the new school year is a mixed blessing. On the one hand, the stress of making sure the kids […]

  • Lessons in Fairness from Salt Lake
    17 May 2016

    Millions of us watched the Olympic Games for two wonderful weeks in February 2002. Millions of us watched beautiful young people compete for glory, strive for their personal bests, and […]

  • Investing in Yourself: Financing a Career Change
    17 May 2016

    “The hurrieder I go, the behinder I get.” Do you remember this poster phrase? It was supposed to be funny! And yet, for more and more working people, it’s no […]

  • Taking Charge of Your Own Healthcare
    17 May 2016

    It’s a common complaint. A new client comes to my office for help with pain management for recurrent and severe headaches. Although she has been diagnosed and treated for migraine, […]

  • Organizing for Illness
    17 May 2016

    My grandmother once told me, “Getting older is not for sissies.” As the health of her friends declined, she found it sad and painful not to be able to help […]

  • Caregiving Is a Two-Way Relationship
    17 May 2016

    Helpers and elders are, of course, male as well as female. But for purposes of clarity, I am using the feminine pronoun, since most people in caregiving relationships are female. […]

  • Aging is a Time for Letting Go
    17 May 2016

    So much of young adult life is about acquiring. Throughout our twenties and thirties, most people look for a mate, a good job, financial security, a good car, a fit […]

  • Graduation Day: A Primer for Badly Divorced Parents
    17 May 2016

    Graduation day has finally arrived, and families are coming together to wish their young people well as they mark an important milestone in their lives. For some families, hopefully most […]

  • Talking Turkey: Managing Unhappy Relatives at Holiday Time
    17 May 2016

    Almost all families seem to have at least one member who has made a career of being unhappy. In their distress, these people accuse, complain, sigh, and make it difficult […]

  • Shedding Light on Winter Depression
    17 May 2016

    Thirty days hath September, April, June and November, All the rest have thirty-one Except for February— Which has 258! We extend our apologies to the writer of this clever children’s […]

  • Understanding Anxiety Disorders, Part 2
    17 May 2016

    Anxiety disorders come in many varieties. Descriptions of some of the most common disorders follow: Generalized Anxiety Disorder: GAD is characterized by persistent anxiety unrelated to a specific event. People […]

  • Understanding Anxiety Disorders: Part One
    17 May 2016

    Anxiety is a normal feeling of uneasiness, concern and apprehension that, when carried to an extreme, can become worry or outright terror. Some amount of anxiety and worrying is a […]

  • Too Many Cats: A Call for Compassion
    17 May 2016

    From my files: When the Board of Health went into the home, they discovered 38 cats and three dogs living in squalor with an elderly brother and sister. Feces and […]

  • Taking Care of the “Other Kids:” A Friendly Reminder for Parents of Disabled and Non-disabled Kids
    17 May 2016

    Lately — finally — stories about the challenges of being a sibling to a child with mental retardation or mental illness are emerging in the press. With that increased visibility […]

  • The Two-Paycheck Family: Balancing Jobs, Kids, and Household Tasks
    17 May 2016

    It’s been over a decade since the publication of Arlie Hochschild’s book Second Shift: Working Parents and the Revolution at Home (Avon Books, Reprinted 2003). A well-researched book on the […]

  • Embracing the Challenge of Life with Epilepsy
    17 May 2016

    This article is not about epilepsy per se. It is instead about the challenges that people with epilepsy and their families successfully manage each and every day. For the record, […]

  • When the New Baby Has Special Needs
    17 May 2016

    “It was the silence that told me,” reports one young mother. “We were in the delivery room in the final stage. My husband was holding me and I was pushing […]

  • Brain Injury: Prevention Is the Only Cure
    17 May 2016

    “Ah, Ma-a.” How many times have I heard that phrase? With a downswing of tone on the final “a,” it’s my kids’ exasperated reply to any of the dozens of […]

  • The College Drop-off and the Long Drive Home
    17 May 2016

    As Oscar Hammerstein wrote in Showboat (1927), “Fish gotta swim, birds gotta fly.” And kids gotta leave. Somewhere around a child’s 18th or 19th birthday, there is a monumental shift […]

  • Getting Along with Your College Roommate
    17 May 2016

    She was a nightmare! My first roommate and I could not have been more different had some sort of incompatibility test matched us. To her, the floor was a substitute […]

  • College Activities: Not-So-Incidental Learning
    17 May 2016

    So, you’re in college or off to college soon. Big question: Are you having fun yet? If the answer is “no,” what I say is this — get yourself out […]

  • Are You Ready for College? Alternatives for the Unsure
    17 May 2016

    It’s all set. For three and a half years of high school, you’ve made the grades, been on teams, sung in the chorus or played in the band. You’ve taken […]

  • When Women Earn More Than Men
    17 May 2016

    Almost a third of working women nationwide now out-earn their husbands. It was inevitable, really. With more women than men going to college, with women taking less time out from […]