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  • Why and How to Teach Grandma to Access the Internet
    The Internet offers promising new ways to end isolation and loneliness among the senior citizens we love. ...
  • How to Manage a Critical Mom
    Casey’s mother is coming to visit next weekend. She doesn’t feel she can say no. After all, her mom and dad ...
  • February is Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month
    Ah, February: The month of love. Sadly, though, all love isn’t loving. February has been designated Teen Dating Violence Awareness ...
  • The Pressure of Valentine’s Day
    It started as soon as the Christmas decorations came down. Valentines and those heart-shaped boxes of chocolates appeared in stores, and ads ...
  • Boys Need Help with Self-Esteem, Too
    I’ve been writing an advice column for years. Lately, I’ve been receiving more and more letters from boys who feel bad ...
  • 9 Tips for Destressing Getting the Kids to Bed
    One of the sweet pleasures of parenting can be the nightly ritual of tucking a child into bed. ...
  • Rethink Those Failed New Year’s Resolutions
    It’s not even the middle of January and those New Year’s resolutions are already history. You’ve fallen off the diet, started smoking again or given up on the exercise routine. You feel bad about yourself for not being able to put your good intentions into action for even two weeks. Two weeks! You scold yourself for having no willpower or for failing yet once again. You sigh and give up, perhaps rationalizing away the project. You can always claim no time, too much stress, or peer pressure, right? Wrong. You know you’re rationalizing but oh well. You can take some comfort in knowing that you are not alone. Almost 90 percent of New Year’s resolutions dissolve within a month. The enthusiasm about a new year and a new beginning quickly fades. Life takes over. All the reasons you developed whatever bad habit you wanted to fix are still there. But all is not lost. You can still make that important change, whatever it was. You may just have to rethink how to go about it.
  • A New Year’s Resolution for Generosity
    Isn’t it wonderful? Every January 1, we get to have a fresh start. Ring out the old. Ring in the new. We can change something significant about our lives. New Year’s resolutions are a statement of hope. We make them, not to scold ourselves, but to hold out the possibility that we can change something. So we swear we’ll finally lose that 10 (or more) pounds, that we’ll quit bad habits we enjoy, or we’ll hit the gym more often. Never mind that studies show that almost 90 percent of such resolutions are broken within two weeks of New Year’s. Our intentions were good. Oh well. I think we break those self-promises almost as soon as they’re made because they are too ambitious. We ask ourselves to take on something that has been a long-term issue and then feel too discouraged or overwhelmed by the idea to really take it on. Then we feel even worse about ourselves because once again, we didn’t do it. So we have another piece of chocolate or another cigarette and promise that maybe we’ll go the gym tomorrow.
  • Fathers Reconnecting with Abandoned Kids
    Jesse came to therapy with an important project in mind. Mine was not the first office he’d been to. He’d already been ...
  • Making Happy Changes in Your Holidays
    The holiday season has started and I’m often reminded of an elderly friend of mine. Whenever someone said “Have a happy ...
  • The Secret of What Makes a Winner
    “Quitters never win and winners never quit.” That was a playground cheer when I was growing up. It turns out ...
  • Meet the Parents: Navigating the Holiday Dinner without the Stress
    With holidays approaching, my son-in-law reminisced about the first time he came for a holiday meal. He and ...
  • Family-to-Family Visits When the Kids Don’t Get Along
    When children are very young, the best toy you can give them is another child – almost any other ...
  • Talking to Your Teen About Alcohol
    Partying. Everyone is doing it. Drinking on weekends and getting a buzz on is what being young is all about, right? Wrong. ...
  • The Empty Nest: Opportunity or Crisis?
    Feelings of loss and anxiety about change when the last child leaves home are normal. But it often has been pathologized ...
  • Becoming a Nontraditional Student
    Neisha, a divorced mom who lives with her 5-year-old son and her new boyfriend, came into my office and flopped into a chair. ...
  • Are You Ready to Be a Parent?
    From the moment you know you are pregnant or are part of a pregnant partnership, you are a parent. Even if ...
  • When You Don’t Approve of Your Adult Child’s Relationship
    "What does she see in that guy?" The woman talking with me is more than a little upset. In fact, ...
  • Together Alone: Computers, Technology & Kids
    What’s happening in the ad world these days? One TV ad running in my area is of a mother who, the narrator ...
  • A Summer Vacation Guide for Noncustodial Parents
    For the noncustodial parent who lives far from his or her children, summer vacation often is greeted with a ...
  • Vacationing Together Can Put a Friendship at Risk
    It seemed like a good idea at the time. Mary and Del had been friends for ...
  • Is Parenting Drowning Your Marriage? 6 Tips to Help Reconnect with Your Partner
    It’s a too-familiar story. James and Cindy have come in for ...
  • Thinking of Inking? The Possible Impact of Tattoos on Your Job Search
    Amanda has a lotus blossom tattoo at the nape of her neck, under her ...
  • Prevent the Summer Academic Backslide
    It's a fact. Kids lose academic ground during the summer months. Come September, even the best students are several weeks behind ...
  • Happy Mother’s Day to Moms with Kids with Special Needs
    A recent TV ad says it all. It follows a mom ...

 

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