I am a 26-year-old female who masturbates regularly. I have great orgasms quite easily by simply rubbing my clitoris. When I am having intercourse, however, I almost never have an orgasm. Could this be because of the way I masturbate?
It is highly unlikely that your manner of masturbating is the reason you find it difficult to have orgasms during intercourse. Most women masturbate by stimulating their clitoris in some way.
The clitoris is the center of sexual pleasure for most women, which is why so few women can have orgasms from intercourse alone. However, you should count yourself lucky. Because you can have orgasms easily by yourself, it should be possible to teach your partner. Simply show him how you like to be stimulated, and incorporate that into your sexual activities, whether it be before, during, after or instead of intercourse!
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On June 13, 2007
By John M. Grohol, Psy.D.
