Number of Views/Who’s Viewed Me
Match keeps track of the number of people who have viewed your profile. When someone clicks on your profile, the number goes up. However, all the people clicking on your profile aren’t necessarily listed when you look at ‘who’s viewed me’ and each click may not be a unique user.
Only people who are logged into the system will show up in ‘who’s viewed me.’ Even those who are logged in may sometimes not appear. If someone who is logged in clicks on you, but they are far from what you’ve listed you are looking for, they may not show up. The system can be strange as to whom it chooses to show in this listing.
People who are logged in, have their profiles visible, and meet most of your search requirements will always show up in ‘who’s viewed me,’ but only once. If the same person clicks on your profile a dozen times a day, they’ll be at the top of this list, but only listed once.
Keep this all in mind when you click on profiles. If you want to see someone’s profile, but don’t want them to know you looked, log out, then do a username search. I’ll admit that I’ve done this when I want to see if my ex-boyfriend is still active on Match. Sneaky, I know, but I’d be willing to bet hundreds of people pull this stunt every day.
Some people like to talk on the phone before meeting; others just go for it. There’s no set time as to when you should meet someone. Some people are quick to ask about a meeting, some wait a while.
Choose a setting you are familiar with for your first meeting. You’ll probably be a little nervous, so meeting at a place where you are already comfortable may make you feel a little better.
For obvious safety reasons, don’t get a in a car with this person or go to his/her house. You may feel like you know this person, but you don’t. Meeting online, there is also no third party vouching that this person is on the up-and-up.
Match.com: After You Start Dating Someone
Whether or not you continue to log into Match after you’ve started dating someone is a touchy subject. I tend to stop logging in once I’ve started dating someone I am interested in. Other people may not. Keep in mind that the person you’re dating still exists in the Match world and will see your login activity too. This can be interpreted in many ways. If you can, stop yourself from tracking the login activity of whomever you are dating. It doesn’t necessarily mean anything if he/she keeps logging in. I’ve fallen into this tracking trap and it can make you crazy.
Now You’re Set: Go Forth in Match World!
You now can effectively search for people, know more about winking versus emailing, understand ‘who’s viewed me,’ and may or may not have met someone in person. You also know that login activity can be interpreted in many ways and you shouldn’t make too much of it. Good luck with Match world. It can be a strange place, but overall, it’s a good thing.
Goldstein, S. (2006). My Profile is on Match.com: What Do I Do Now?. Psych Central. Retrieved on May 24, 2013, from http://psychcentral.com/lib/2006/my-profile-on-matchcom-what-do-i-do-now/
Last reviewed: By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on 30 Jan 2013
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