Even worse, agreement and consensus between partners might be viewed as a conspiracy or an alliance. Close interaction may be met with distrust and resentment by coworkers, even when that partnership is positive for the company. “I try to have more interaction with my other coworkers [over my boyfriend] so we aren’t viewed as a tag team,” the accountant says.
Relationships between subordinates and superiors can be especially damaging. Other workers often misconstrue promotions and raises as favoritism or power plays. And when people feel they are being treated unfairly, their morale and dedication plummet.
And if such a relationship goes bad, its power inequities can be fuel for a sexual harassment lawsuit.
Even when a workplace relationship is on a stable course, the sheer amount of time that a pair spends together can cause them to become easily annoyed or bored with one another. It becomes especially important to maintain other outside interests and friendships to guard against a quick demise.
And what does happen when a relationship crumbles? It’s unreasonable to think that the hurt, anger and resentment associated with a breakup will always be left at the door. It’s inevitable that emotion will sometimes seep into interactions between former flames.
Think before you leap
Workplace romance has its perks and its pitfalls, so use caution when deciding whether to get involved with a coworker. Ask yourself: Are love and companionship more important than the possibility of damaging your career and your future?
For some people, the desire for a relationship is overwhelming, and they will do almost anything to attain it. For others, stability and consistency rule, and they’re willing to commit themselves to searching for love and fulfillment outside of the workplace. Do what’s right for you—just be prepared for the consequences.
Last reviewed: By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on 9 Feb 2006
