Are You Living Authentically or According to Others’ Expectations?

by Sarah Newman, MA

Are You Living Authentically or According to Others' Expectations? Ever feel like you’re just not getting enough done? You’re not heading in the right direction or being productive enough with your time? There may be a general malaise that creeps over you at the end of the day because you still haven’t gotten that raise or started working out or cut back on watching TV. You feel generally discontent because life isn’t looking the way you thought it would and you’re certain you should be doing more.

But what should your life look like and why? Where do these expectations come from and are they even what you want?

 

6 Eye-Opening Ways to Get to Know Yourself

by Margarita Tartakovsky, M.S.

6 Eye-Opening Ways to Get to Know Yourself When you know yourself on a deeper level, you can create a life that is meaningful and joyous for you, according to psychotherapist Joyce Marter, LCPC. Art therapist Lisa Mitchell, MFT, calls this deeper level our “essence.” This is you at your center or core.

Knowing yourself also helps you distinguish your issues from someone else’s. “The better you know yourself and your psychology — your triggers, your relational themes and patterns, your biases, your tendencies — the better able you will be to both take responsibility for yourself as well as let go of that which is not yours to contain,” Marter said.

 

Mindfully Sitting with Shame

by Laura C. Meyer

Mindfully Sitting with ShameShame surfaced during my sitting meditation. When it first arrived, I wasn’t sure what to do. I wanted it to leave. It was going to ruin my calm meditation! And I was in a group meditation, which increased my discomfort, so I sat, hoping for something else to surface quickly.

Nothing else surfaced. We all sat silent. Shame was determined to stay, and in that moment, I was reminded of the poem, Guest House, by Rumi:

This being human is a guest house. Every morning a new arrival. A joy, a depression, a meanness, some momentary awareness comes as an unexpected visitor. Be grateful for whoever comes, because each has been sent as a guide from beyond.

 

People Share What ADHD Really Feels Like

by Margarita Tartakovsky, M.S.

People Share What ADHD Really Feels LikeMany people misunderstand what it means to have attention deficit hyperactivity disorder. “ADHD is not like pregnancy,” said Roberto Olivardia, Ph.D, a clinical psychologist and clinical instructor in the department of psychiatry at Harvard Medical School. “It is not an either you have it or you don’t phenomenon.” Each of us has some ADHD traits some of the time, he said.

“When diagnoses exist on a spectrum like that, it can lead people who have a trait, but not ADHD, to think that they know what the latter part of the spectrum feels like, when they don’t.”

We asked people who have ADHD to share what ADHD feels like. You might notice both similarities and differences in their descriptions, because as writer Kelly Babcock said, “ADHD is never exactly the same for any two people.”

 

7 Habits of Highly Defective People

by Daniel Tomasulo, Ph.D.

The Seven Habits of Highly Defective PeopleAfter you have known people for a while, you realize they are defective. They’re cheap, crude, pushy, ignorant, loud, and unattractive. How did this happen? How did people who seemed so elegant and gregarious become the varmint-like creatures you want to avoid? What made them change into the dirty froth of humanity right before your eyes? Believe it or not, science has done some research on this phenomenon.

Highly defective people (HDP) have several common characteristics that reveal themselves over time. Their habits astound and mystify us. They might look different on the outside, but on the inside they are very much alike. They share common attributes that make them a kindred clan. One or two of these traits alone wouldn’t qualify them, but with a cluster of seven, you are in the presence of a HDP. In no particular order, here’s what to look for:

 

Introducing Stress Better

by John M. Grohol, Psy.D.
Introducing Stress Better

We all hear that we should get rid of stress in our lives. But like so many things in life, that advice is actually too generalized to be of much help. Instead, we should seek ways to get rid of the bad stress and be alright with the good stress.

That’s why I’m pleased to introduce our latest blog, Stress Better with Renee Jain, MAPP. Renee is going to help us better understand that some stress is actually a good thing in your life.

 
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Best of Our Blogs: November 11, 2014

by Alicia Sparks
Best of Our Blogs

Today’s Best of Our Blogs is all about me you!

Over the past few days, our bloggers have been hard at it explaining how to spiritually nourish yourself, what not to do when dealing with heartbreak, and even when and why to be stubborn.

Do you know why you should dedicate time to spiritual growth? How being stubborn can actually help you love yourself more? What about your emotional intelligence — where do you stand on that scale?

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The San Francisco Giants Model Winning Relationships

by Marcia Naomi Berger, MSW, LCSW

The San Francisco Giants Model Winning RelationshipsWhy would a marriage maven be writing about a baseball team? Living near San Francisco, how could I not get caught up in the hoopla? The Giants beat the odds again on October 29th, claiming their third World Series title in five years.

“How do they do it?” the pundits ask about this so-called team of misfits. And what does it have to do with marriage?

Actually, just about everything.

The Giants’ post-game interviews are enlightening.

 

5 Ways to Boost Optimism

by Leslie Ralph, PhD

5 Ways to Boost Optimism

Choose to be optimistic, it feels better. – Dalai Lama XIV

Is your glass half empty or full? Are your glasses rosy or is your future shadowed by a dark cloud?

Whether you live in the best or worst of all possible worlds depends on your point of view. What we pay attention to and how we interpret it is essentially up to us. This is especially true when we think of the future.

 

Top 10 Depression Blogs of 2014

by Kim Lyon
Top 10 Depression Blogs of 2014

While depression is one of the most common mental health concerns that people suffer from, it is not a condition that takes a single form. It affects each person uniquely and can look very different from one to another. In addition, the different types of depression are diverse, ranging from clinical depression and seasonal affective disorder, to postpartum depression and dysthymia (chronic depression).

This compilation of the best depression blogs for 2014 reflects that diversity, and does not assume that a person with depression wants to spend his or her time comparing notes with someone else with the condition. Below is a series of real-life accounts, practical advice and sound wisdom.

 

10 Ways Families Can Cultivate Their Connection

by Margarita Tartakovsky, M.S.

10 Ways Families Can Cultivate their ConnectionPsychotherapist Jenifer Hope, LCPC, has worked with many families whose biggest concern is detachment. They feel as though they’re forgetting who their loved ones really are. They don’t have time to get to know their children. “They feel isolated within their own family because everyone is so busy, that there is no actual family time,” she said.

Jennifer Kogan, LICSW, a psychotherapist in Washington, D.C., also sees a shortage of time as the biggest obstacle for families in connecting.

 

When Depression Sneaks Up, Remember the Law of Opposites

by Sarah Newman, MA

When Depression Sneaks Up, Remember the Law of OppositesYou go to get something for lunch you always enjoy, but as soon as you look at the menu you’re just not hungry. You get on the treadmill and just can’t find the energy all of a sudden. You quit almost before you even begin.

Sometimes it’s not easy to spot changes in mood. Depression can creep up and just start taking things from you.

One morning I can’t get out of bed even though I went to sleep early the night before. Now I’m getting seconds and thirds of spaghetti and meatballs, and I feel like a bottomless pit. Soon I’m skipping all the activities or hobbies that used to bring me joy. I have no interest in anything.

 

 
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