by Margarita Tartakovsky, M.S.
Boundaries are vital for healthy relationships.
They also give “us room and safety to live the beautiful, loving lives — and world — we came to create,” according to Jan Black, author of Better Boundaries: Owning and Treasuring Your Life.
But you might be so used to saying yes and focusing on other people’s needs and happiness that you’re unsure about the boundaries you’d actually like to set.
by John M. Grohol, Psy.D.
As long-time readers of World of Psychology know, there’s no easy fix to the convoluted, second-class mental health care system in the United States. People with mental disorders — like depression, anxiety, ADHD or bipolar disorder — are shunted away from the mainstream healthcare system into a patchwork quilt of “care” that varies greatly depending upon where you live, what kind of insurance you have (if you have any), and whether you want to pay cash for treatment instead of using your insurance.
It shouldn’t be this way. It shouldn’t be so hard to find a good treatment provider. It shouldn’t be so complicated to get integrated care from a single practice.
Why is it so hard to get good mental health treatment in the U.S.?
by Marissa Maldonado
When someone is under chronic stress, it begins to negatively affect his or her physical and mental health. The body’s stress response was not made to be continuously engaged. Many people encounter stress from multiple sources, including work; money, health, and relationship worries; and media overload.
With so many sources of stress, it is difficult to find time to relax and disengage. This is why stress is one of the biggest health problems facing people today.
by Brandi-Ann Uyemura, M.A.
I’ve been guilty of it many times. In my desire to want things the way I want them to be, I forget to see things as they truly are.
Although I’m unaware of it at the time, it’s most obvious when I’m disappointed. When I catch myself upset over a friend’s comment, a relative’s disapproval, or a misunderstanding. Instead of meeting this person where they are, I treat them the way I wish they would be.
What I should be doing instead is give them the compassion and nonjudgmental response that I crave. By griping over their critical behavior, their negativity, I’m only becoming the very thing I despise.
To truly change our external world, we need to turn inward and look at ourself.
This week instead of meeting the day with wants, what-ifs and wishes, try doing what our bloggers say. Meet your present circumstance as it is. Treat it with kindness. Love your body (big and small), your mind (anxiety, depression and all), and to meet whatever you’re going through (bad situation, challenging marriage, etc.) where you are right now with as much compassion you can muster up.
by John M. Grohol, Psy.D.
Why do people who have cats also seem to be more likely to have depression? Is it because cats are more likely to bite a depressed person? Or is it because of some sort of toxic parasite?
Perhaps because depressed people like cats. Or cats and dogs. Or maybe, really, there’s no link there at all.
But don’t worry… We researchers will describe data and make suppositions that don’t take into account the most obvious of explanation of them all.
by Sophie Henshaw, DPsych
If you are looking for a new job, or have just started one, it pays to read the signs of a bully-prone workplace early so that you can take adequate steps to protect yourself against bullying before it happens.
Conservatively, one in three workers have experienced bullying and one in two have witnessed it. You are likely either to be on the receiving end of bullying, or watch a colleague being bullied at some point.
So what are some of the common signs of a bully-prone workplace?
by Margarita Tartakovsky, M.S.
Many well-meaning families and friends make mistakes when trying to support a loved one with ADHD because they misunderstand the disorder, said Terry Matlen, MSW, ACSW, a psychotherapist and ADHD coach.
For instance, some people think that ADHD is an academic problem or an issue with focusing, said Roberto Olivardia, Ph.D, a clinical psychologist and clinical instructor in the department of psychiatry at Harvard Medical School.
In actuality, ADHD is a disorder of executive functioning, which “refers to many cognitive processes that we use to move us toward a goal.” This includes everything from prioritizing to decision-making to organizing to time management, he said.
by Gretchen Rubin
My current writing project is a book that will be called Before and After, about the most fascinating subject ever, the subject of habits. How do we make and break habits?
It was my interest in happiness that led me to the subject of habits, and of course, the study of habits is really the study of happiness. Habits are the invisible architecture of everyday life, and a significant element of happiness.
by Jesse Viner, MD
When children, teens, and young adults experience trauma, life feels different for them. Seeing someone get injured, or being the target of violence, can be a life-altering experience, even for adults.
It’s no wonder then that a threatening event or overwhelming experience may greatly affect how a child perceives the world around them. It may also impact their development and personality.
There are several ways parents can learn to help children heal after trauma. Here are four tips parents can try that should help.
by Drew Coster
A friend of mine recently told me about her experience of starting psychotherapy. She said she would have liked a list of pointers to help her understand what she was getting into before she started. That sounded like a good idea to me.
It’s not uncommon to want a few signposts when we start a journey. Inspired by her, here are 10 things I think might be helpful to you if you’re new to, or thinking about, therapy.
by Alexandra Katehakis, MFT, CST, CSAT
For love addicts, finding balance in life can be a struggle. Understanding and respecting their own boundaries requires that they have a knowledge of themselves and their limits and, as well, an honesty regarding the unmanageability that love addiction and toxic relationships can cause.
Entering a 12-step program such as Sex & Love Addicts Anonymous (SLAA) can be a very important part of the recovery work from love addiction. Modeled after the 12 steps of Alcoholics Anonymous, the 12 steps for recovery from love addiction look similar, with a few differences that address the addiction specifically.
by Therese J. Borchard
For most of my life I aspired to do just one thing: write and publish my memoir.
I had spent more than 15 years networking among editors and literary agents to make this happen. I invested more than a few hours designing a publicity campaign comprised of the media connections that I had virtually stalked over the years. I tried to climb aboard the speaking circuit.
And yet despite all of my hopes and expectations, a few months after hardcopies hit the bookshelves, I felt the familiar pangs of depression. What was going on?