Dating can bring joy and passion or make you feel lonely and misunderstood. When you add a mental illness into the mix, things can get even more complicated — if you let them. But you’re hardly alone in your confusion.
According to the National Alliance on Mental Illness, in any given year, roughly one in four adults experiences mental illness. Of these, many are enjoying loving, stable relationships. Many others don’t even know they have a mental disorder.
Mental illness is a medical condition that can be treated with medication and therapy. It doesn’t have to limit your social life, and it certainly doesn’t mean that you can’t look for a partner.
It’s cold and flu season again — make sure you get plenty of sleep, take some extra vitamin C and … hug each other a little more. Yes, that’s right. A new study reveals that frequent hugging lowers your chances of becoming ill during times of stress.
Prior research has found that high levels of stress can weaken the immune system, making us more susceptible to illness and infection. On the other hand, science has also shown that individuals with a strong social support system tend to enjoy a protective “buffer” against greater levels of stress.
Consider these statistics:
One person dies from suicide every 40 seconds.
Every year, over 800,000 people die from suicide, exceeding the number of deaths due to homicide and war combined.
Suicide is the second leading cause of death (globally) for people ages 15 to 29, the fifth leading cause of death among persons aged 30 to 49.
For each adult who died of suicide in 2012, there were over 20 others who made suicide attempts.
Psych Central is the Internet’s leading mental health self-help resource, and this year marks our 20th year online.
Join me, Psych Central’s founder, to learn how Psych Central has evolved since 1995 from an online index of support groups and resources to today: an award-winning resource serving over 7 million visitors a month, globally, with a wide array of offerings including support groups, psychology and mental health information, bloggers from wide and diverse backgrounds, and much, much more.
Due to technical difficulties, this webinar has been rescheduled for Monday, Feb. 2, 2015. The new registration link is here and below.
We often feel like we’re sitting in the shadows of someone’s light when we haven’t attained their fame, success or glory.
We see the reward speeches.
We hear the applause. But instead of feel inspired by it, their feat puts a spotlight on our own inadequacies-our fears, weaknesses and insecurities.
We forget about the hard work that was necessary.
We forget that confronting our demons is integral to transformation.
We forget that we don’t know the whole story. In viewing just a sliver of someone else’s success, we’re also neglecting our own story and in doing so, neglect ourselves.
I love what former Drew Carey Show actress Kathy Kinney who played Mimi said on Oprah: Where Are They Now?
“Women have a tendency to compare their insides to someone else’s outsides. And when you do that, you’re always going to lose that game.”
Stop comparing someone else’s perfect life with your own self-worth. Let this week’s post jumpstart your own journey towards a more powerful, meaningful and healthier you. They require just a few surprisingly easy, and quick steps to help you refocus your attention from everyone else’s achievements to all the amazing things you’re going to do!
While thinking outside the box and transcending fear has long been praised, I recently read a book excerpt arguing against getting out of your “comfort zone.” Instead of pushing your limits, author Meghan Daum suggests embracing our limitations.
“I am convinced that excellence comes not from overcoming limitations but from embracing them,” she writes in her book The Unspeakable: And Other Subjects of Discussion.
It seems interesting, but it brings up another important question: Is your comfort zone even what you think it is? Are we embracing a lifestyle where we are both satisfied and competent? Or underneath do we feel we are missing out on something?
Some of us think that writing is only for writers. But writing is for all of us. As Julia Cameron notes in her book The Right to Write: An Invitation and Initiation into the Writing Life, “I believe we all come into life as writers.”
Writing can be beneficial for all of us, because it can be therapeutic. One of the most powerful parts of therapy is cultivating the ability to observe our thoughts and feelings, said Elizabeth Sullivan, a licensed marriage and family therapist in San Francisco. And that’s what writing helps us do.
“Most of us do not think in complete sentences but in self-interrupted, looping, impressionistic cacophony,” she said. Writing helps us track our spinning thoughts and feelings, which can lead to key insights (e.g., I don’t want to go to that party; I think I’m falling for this person; I’m no longer passionate about my job; I realize how I can solve that problem; I’m really scared about that situation.)
I’m sorry. I know these words will be of empty comfort to you as you look for answers to a loved one’s suicide. But nonetheless, these words are all that I have.
I’ve trod a mile in the shoes you’re wearing. My childhood best took his own life when he was only 21. I spent many months with my grief, and still carry a small part of it around to this very day. Grief never forgets… it only mellows with time.
And I know you’ve come here to read this seeking answers. I’ll try, but I’m not sure the answers I’ll provide will be the same as the ones you want to hear.
In my writing about habits and happiness, I keep coming back to the same idea: to shape our habits, to build our happiness, we have to start with a knowledge of ourselves — our own nature, our own interest, our own temperament.
It sounds so easy to know yourself — after all, you hang out with yourself all day! But it’s very, very challenging. We’re so distracted by how we wish we were, or by what think we ought to be, or by what other people expect from us … we lose touch with what’s actually true.
It is said that money is one of the No. 1 challenges in relationships; however, it is not just the lack of money that causes problems. The pursuit of money and the use of money are also capable of challenging, if not destroying, our relationships.
As we put a firm step into the New Year, here are some reminders for maintaining healthy relationships with your loved ones, business associates, and with yourself. These golden rules can take you farther than simple riches can.
Most New Year’s resolutions sound wonderful. But you know what happens: they’re out the window before February. The best way to keep your promise is to start small.
Although I’m about to suggest some resolutions to enrich your relationship, I recommend that you commit to just one, after first selecting carefully. You want to promise to do something that is doable now.
I don’t know if you have noticed, but ever since Robin Williams died, I have removed the filter from my writing that keeps me safe of jaw dropping, disappointing head gestures, and all kinds of judgments that authentic writing invites. I just really don’t care anymore what people think because lives are at stake.
If this brutal beast of an illness is strong enough to kill someone with the passion, determination, and genius of Robin Williams, than we must do everything we can to protect those who are more fragile. That means being brave and writing as honestly as I can, on a taboo subject so few people understand, even if it means getting disapproving stares from other parents at my kids’ school.