by Jillayna Adamson
It’s not the first time I have pushed it. This time, it was my (new) son.
After being on a number of different medications for different diagnoses for the past 10 years, I went off my medicine two months into my first pregnancy.
I haven’t known life without medication in 10 years. Except that one time. And let’s just say I was put on a medical leave from university, sent 4,000 miles back to my parents — and it wasn’t pretty. And that’s putting it lightly.
by Margarita Tartakovsky, M.S.
“Relationships are hard. Relationships where one or both people have ADHD are even harder,” said Beth Main, a certified attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) coach who helps individuals with ADHD develop the skills, systems, and strategies they need to overcome their challenges and achieve success.
Partners with ADHD often feel misunderstood by their spouses, who interpret their behavior as lazy or willful. (In fact, that’s one of the most common concerns Main hears from her clients.)
Partners without ADHD become increasingly frustrated when their spouses unintentionally break commitments, forget or misplace things, run late and act impulsively, she said.
by Cindy Nichols
In many ways, recovery is an individual experience. Moving through recovery means becoming well-acquainted with your own thought processes and tendencies.
It is a time when you become highly attuned to why you are abusing drugs and alcohol, and a time to find ways to become the person you want to be.
Although much of recovery involves your own individual journey, the value of support systems cannot be underestimated. There are several reasons they are vital to recovery.
by Therese J. Borchard
How do you learn to go gentle on yourself? Where do you begin to teach self-love?
I asked a favorite blogger of mine, Margarita Tartakovsky, who is an Associate Editor at Psych Central, and the author of the blog Weightless. Margarita writes often on this topic, so I thought I’d pick her brain and dispense her wisdom to my readers.
How do you begin to be kind to yourself?
I think taking small steps is key. When you’ve spent years bashing yourself, the idea of kindness not only seems foreign. It seems utterly daunting. So start slow.
For instance, when you wake up tomorrow, ask yourself: What’s the kindest thing I can do for myself right now?
by Brandi-Ann Uyemura, M.A.
In a few days, we will be celebrating Thanksgiving here in the US. The upcoming holiday brings about a lot of things: rest, fun, momentous memories, and a delicious gathering of love, laughter and good food.
At the same time, Thanksgiving also brings about fear, sadness, temptation and disappointment. For many, the holidays are just as much an opportunity for dysfunction, below-the-belt fighting and reminder of a painful past.
Added to that is the fact that no one can live up to the picture perfect images of smiling faces, Iron Chef worthy turkeys and loving friends and family often shown in TV and movies. It can leave us all feeling less than, stressed out, isolated and even depressed.
What you should know is that you’re not alone. In fact, our bloggers are all addressing it this week with tips on how to survive and cope. Now is the time to rest, read up, try new ways of celebrating the season and above all this, be kind to yourself. Happy Thanksgiving!
The Importance of Recognizing Your Resiliency: Strategies
(Healing Together for Couples) – Resilience is the skill you need to cope with tragedy, loss, and the upcoming holiday. Find out how you can strengthen your resilience muscle here.
What’s in a Mindful Moment?
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by Graeme Cowan
Want to treat your depression quickly, safely and for free? Exercise!
It works, has no side effects (unless you really overexert yourself) and is great for your mental and physical well-being in every respect. In fact, a recent review of over 26 years of research shows that moderate physical activity each day — even something as simple as gardening — can prevent depression in all age groups, not just treat it. So exercise as part of a depression treatment strategy really is a no-brainer!
But let’s face it, you don’t really want to exercise, do you? I know that feeling. Maybe you’re reading this article as part of a desperate effort not to do any physical activity!
by Lauren Suval
Welcome to the world of online medical sites and diagnostics — WebMD, Mayo Clinic, MedicineNet, take your pick. While it’s tempting to easily type in symptoms and research potential illnesses when feeling under the weather, I advocate that these sites do more harm than good and only propel worries further.
I’ll be the first to admit that I’m prone to anxiety as it is when sick, so it’s not exactly mentally healthy to Google “headaches” and then proceed to read that I have a brain tumor. Or I’ll type in “back tightness,” where I’m led to a page that speaks of muscle cramping (okay, fair enough), but then look on to see the mention of tetanus. Oh, great. No thanks.
There’s even a term for it now: “cyberchondria.”
by Jonice Webb, PhD
Recently I was out to dinner with some friends. The restaurant was packed, and clearly the wait staff was missing a person or two. Our server was taking care of a huge section of the restaurant and was quite frazzled. His stress came across as frustration.
“What can I get for you?” he said in a rushed, distracted, agitated tone which communicated that he was viewing our party as an imposition at the moment.
I felt immediately a bit put-off. But then I looked around, noticed his situation, and felt a wave of empathy for this young man who was in over his head.
by YourTango Experts
It’s not insane to believe that once you lose weight, life gets better.
For years, I’ve heard stories from those who have shed pounds, recharged their lives, never felt better, and speak so confidently that once the weight was gone, they became the person they were meant to be: a thin and happy one. I do not doubt their happiness when they share their story but I also don’t believe that by losing weight, they have some superior knowledge about happiness that us heavier folk don’t.
How do I know this? Because I’ve been fat and I’ve been thinner. And I’ve been at my happiest, heavier.
by Margarita Tartakovsky, M.S.
When stress strikes, self-care often takes a backseat. “The ability to care for oneself is predicated on the ability to consistently go inward and listen to what is there with open, compassionate ears,” said Amy Pershing, LMSW, ACSW, a clinical director at The Center for Eating Disorders in Ann Arbor, Mich.
However, during stressful periods in our lives, we tend to focus outward. We diminish or disregard our inner life, ignoring our needs and limits, she said.
And yet, it’s during hectic or difficult times when we need to care for ourselves the most.
by Alexandra Katehakis, MFT, CST, CSAT
In my work with partners of sex addicts, I always want to look at the role that anger has played for the partner.
Anger is a normal response to the traumatic experience of having been betrayed by your mate.
But it can also be a feeling that is difficult to tolerate. Some people dive into anger fully, while others avoid experiencing feelings of rage, and sometimes, people are afraid of their own angry feelings.
As a force, anger can be put to positive and constructive uses, and it can also be very destructive.
by YourTango Experts
Sitcoms, as well as movies, poke fun at PMS (Premenstrual Syndrome) and female moodiness, but PMDD is not a laughing matter.
PMDD (Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder) is a major depressive disorder gaining more attention since its official inclusion in the latest version of the Diagnostic and Statistic Manual of Mental Disorders (it had previously been listed as a disorder needing further research).
PMDD is a mental illness that involves mood changes occurring exclusively during the two weeks prior to menses.