Healing My Inner Child

by Elisabeth Corey

Healing My Inner ChildDear Inner Child,

You’ve been through so much and I am not sure how you coped. Your strength inspires me with every memory I recover. I know you are the reason we are alive today. And I thank you for all you did to keep going. Sometimes, others ask me how I lived through it and I don’t know the answer.

You carried that burden. And to some extent, you still do.


Best of Our Blogs: December 12, 2014

by Brandi-Ann Uyemura, M.A.
Best of Our Blogs

In a culture that applauds fame and favors accomplishment and external success, it’s understandable that those that live quiet, humble lives might feel less than. A mom friend told me recently she stopped using Facebook because her life seemed dull in comparison to everyone else’s.

How many of us can relate? I can. It’s difficult not to succumb to the pressure of perfectionism and so we do too much. All the activities that should bring us joy during the holidays end up filling us up with resentment because we’re comparing ourselves to others. And when we feel our lives don’t measure up, instead of feeling grateful for our own contributions, our self-worth is shot.

But know this. Every thing you do, whether worthy of a tweet or Facebook post, is valuable. What matters is your intention. It doesn’t matter how many likes you get, the number on that scale or who you know. Sometimes the most honorable people are the ones that live ordinary lives.

If you’re struggling with anxiety, forgiveness, negative thoughts, or your relationships, know that your efforts are worthy of recognition, compassion and validation. Your desire to continue to get and be better is an amazing feat. Be proud of that accomplishment.

{Flickr photo by Princess Productions}

{Flickr photo by Princess Productions}


Study: Reversing Alzheimer’s Memory Decline With Holistic Therapy

by Traci Pedersen

Old Couple

A new UCLA study has found that when individuals with Alzheimer’s disease (AD) switched to a healthy diet and exercise program, their memory and cognitive function began to return in a dramatic way. In fact, six out of the 10 patients who had been struggling in their jobs, or had even quit due to cognitive dysfunction, were able to return to work.

The results are both fascinating and hopeful for the millions of people suffering with AD and for those who have yet to develop symptoms.

Alzheimer’s is now the third leading cause of death in the U.S., after cardiovascular disease and cancer. Currently, there is no cure for AD, and medications only temporarily lessen symptoms.


6 Common Obstacles in Couples Therapy

by Margarita Tartakovsky, M.S.

6 Common Obstacles in Couples TherapyCouples therapy can help couples improve their relationship in many ways. For instance, it helps couples resolve conflict, learn how to communicate effectively, better understand each other, enhance their emotional connection and strengthen their bond.

Naturally, couples may face obstacles in therapy that stall their progress. They may have inaccurate assumptions about how therapy works, which can keep them stuck. Or they may delay seeing a therapist in the first place, which only deepens their problems.

We asked two relationship experts to share the most common obstacles along with what couples can do to overcome them.


CIA Torture Report: A Sad Day for Psychologists

by John M. Grohol, Psy.D.

CIA Torture Report: A Sad Day for PsychologistsThis week marks a low point for U.S. psychologists. Two psychologists were responsible for devising the CIA program that uses “enhanced interrogation techniques” — what the rest of the world calls torture — on certain detainees after 9/11.

It also took the American Psychological Association years to clarify its ethical policies on how psychologists could be involved in the torture of suspects. (In contrast, the American Psychiatric Association — representing U.S. psychiatrists — simply invoked an outright ban for its members from being a part of any torture interrogation.)

One of the two psychologists — who were paid handsomely ($81 million) for their program development — even had the audacity to defend his work to the Associated Press yesterday.


The Surprising Facts about Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)

by Jesse Viner, MD

The Surprising Facts about Seasonal Affective DisorderA cup of hot chocolate. A funny movie. A snowball fight. These are all things that can cure the winter blues. It’s easy to feel gloomy or un-energetic on dark and windy winter days. But it’s often equally as easy to pick yourself with a little physical exercise or a happy movie.

But what if the things that normally make you feel better don’t help?

If you find yourself feeling unhappy for days at a time or losing interest in the activities you once took pleasure in, you may be one of the millions of Americans who suffer from Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD).


Some Surprising Observations about How to Fight Clutter

by Gretchen Rubin

cluttered room bigstOne of the things about happiness that continually surprises me is the degree to which, for most people, outer order contributes to inner calm and inner self-command.

In the context of a happy life, a crowded coat closet or an overflowing inbox is trivial, and yet such things weigh us down more than they should.


Give Hope this Holiday: Working to End the Stigma of Depression

by John M. Grohol, Psy.D.

Give Hope this Holiday: Working to End the Stigma of Depression

This is the season of giving. There is no greater charity than I can recommend than the International Foundation for Research and Education on Depression (iFred). They are running an Indiegogo campaign this year that will help fund a handful of great non-profit projects already doing good work.

The iFred campaign asks that you “Help us end the stigma of depression and give hope worldwide.” I couldn’t agree more.

Click to learn more about the campaign and donate something today (even $1 helps!).


Designated Caregiver: Holiday Drinks and Mental Illness

by Sarah Newman, MA

holiday stress man bigstAlcohol is a staple at the holiday table despite widespread tales of family dysfunction. The truth is social lubrication makes it a lot easier to deal with some of the more difficult people in our families. But when you add mental illness to the mix, you run bigger risks than a shouting match about politics or someone going home wearing the stuffing.

My older brother Pat was diagnosed with schizophrenia eight years ago this December. Drinking alcohol is not advisable on his medication. It makes him extremely drowsy. A few beers after taking his medication in 2007 and he passed out in the bathroom, slamming into the toilet and sliding it clean off the floor — and he’s not a big guy.


4 Reasons to Forgive but Not Forget

by Kurt Smith, LMFT, LPCC, AFC

4 Reasons to Forgive but not ForgetWe’ve all heard the admonition “you need to forgive and forget.” Many of us heard this as a child from our parents when we had been wronged by a sibling or friend. We were told to turn the other cheek and give our pals another chance.

Some of us learned the idea behind this was the golden rule — do to others what we would have them do to us. As parents can be quick to point out, we’ve certainly been guilty of committing our own transgressions and needing forgiveness.


Do You Connect or Control?

by Homaira Kabir

Do You Connect or Control? My youngest always fought with me over the littlest of things. Lately I had even resorted to bribing her in return for the peace it brought.

“Put away your plate,” I reminded her after dinner the other night, “otherwise no iPad.”

“I don’t care,” she retorted. “And you can’t stop me.”


Introducing Commitment Strategies

by John M. Grohol, Psy.D.

Introducing Commitment StrategiesMost of us try and take personal responsibility for the decisions we make in our life. But sometimes our commitments get the better of us, despite our best efforts. How do we employ new or different strategies to get back on track and prevent a failure?

Well, good news — we have just the blog for you!

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