Powers of Two: The Creative and Healing Energy of a Pair

by Therese J. Borchard

powers of twoOne autumn morning in 2005, I dropped my kids off at preschool and immediately broke down in tears.

Pushing an empty double stroller down a few houses to avoid the other preschool moms, I dialed up the number of my writing (and life) mentor and dear friend, Mike Leach.

I stayed there, on the sidewalk, as he talked me through this panic attack as he had so many others.

 

Snap Out of It

by Linda Sapadin, Ph.D

Snap Out of itWhat is the matter with you? Why can’t you just snap out of it? What good does it do you to be so negative? So depressed? So worried? Why can’t you enjoy life? You have much to be grateful for. You have much to live for. And there you are complaining once again about what’s wrong.

Yes, people can be hard on you, and expect you to change, just like that. Snap out of it. Don’t feel the way you feel.

They don’t understand. Do they think you like feeling this way? Do they think you like to be miserable? You wish you could just snap out of it. But that’s ludicrous. It just doesn’t work that way.

 

Take Advantage of the Good Days

by Michael Hedrick

How Gratitude and Kindness Go Together for Brain-Changing HappinessWith the rollercoaster that is life with schizophrenia, you come to know not only the bad, tough periods where your symptoms are on fire but also the days where things are calm and you can sit still and listen to the breeze through the trees.

The bad days are hell and you feel it innately but when the good days roll around it’s incredibly easy to take them for granted. If nothing’s bothering you and your worries have dissipated it’s hard to find a reason to overthink.

I’m more than familiar with what it’s like to be so oppressed by paranoia and delusions that it’s hard to even think about leaving your bed.

 

Psychology Around the Net: November 22, 2014

by Alicia Sparks

Young Woman Sleeping With Eyeshades..

This week’s Psychology Around the Net is jampacked with everything (OK, some things!) you need to know about sleep habits, disclosing mental illness in the workplace, trying to achieve happiness, and more.

There’s More to Sleep Cycles Than Being a Morning or Night Person: “In a small study being published in Personality and Individual Difference, research from the Siberian Branch of the Russian Academy of Sciences found that in addition to the traditional night owl or lark, people tend to have different energetic times of the day that might counter their sleep patterns.”

 

What Habits Are Best for Creativity?

by Gretchen Rubin

What Habits Are Best for Creativity?When I tell people that I’ve been working on Better Than Before, my book about habit change, many people ask, “What habits are best for creativity? What habits help people think creatively — and also, actually produce?“

Often, people make the case for adopting a particular habit by pointing to a renowned figure who practiced that habit, with great success.

 

How to Determine Whether It’s ‘Love’ Or ‘Lust’

by Aaron Kaplan

the-pill-dampen-sexualityNot sure about your feelings? Here’s how to know if what you are feeling is really love.

Moving from “like” to “love” is one of the most important transitions a couple can make. Unfortunately, it’s also one of the most misunderstood ones. Too many couples think that love is the same as lust. This equates love with the ooey-gooey excitement and breathless anticipation that usually occurs at the beginning of a relationship.

Defining love this way makes it into a feeling and the down side is that feelings come and go. If you don’t want your love to wax and wane with your emotions, you probably don’t want to define love solely as something you feel. Our culture doesn’t give us a lot of other options for a definition of true love, though. If it’s not just a feeling, then what else is it?

 

30 More Journaling Prompts for Self-Reflection and Self-Discovery

by Margarita Tartakovsky, M.S.

30 More Journaling Prompts for Self-Reflection and Self-Discovery	In September I shared 30 prompts, questions and ideas to help you get to know yourself better.

This month I’m sharing 30 more.

When we get to know ourselves better, we know what we need. That means we can respond to those needs and make better, kinder decisions.

 

How to Degrade a Human Being at JRC

by John M. Grohol, Psy.D.

How to Degrade a Human Being at JRC: Part 1In Massachusetts — supposedly one of the most enlightened and liberal states you can live in in our fine United States — a facility is engaged in a horrifying business. Some have even call it state-sanctioned torture on American soil.

They degrade human beings daily, calling it a form of “treatment.”

They do this regardless of the lack of scientific evidence on the treatment (outside a few flimsy studies published by the facility’s former disgraced director, Matthew Israel). They do it even when important safeguards were lacking for years.

Yes, I’m talking about the Judge Rotenberg Educational Center (JRC) in Canton, Massachusetts. And yet another survivor from that institute is speaking out.

 

Best of Our Blogs: November 21, 2014

by Brandi-Ann Uyemura, M.A.
Best of Our Blogs

How to Get Through a Difficult Situation

When you’re fumbling your way through a challenging experience, there are multiple roads you can take. Some courses are hazardous and dangerous. Others will bring you toward a greater sense of meaning and healing. Therapy, meditation, and medication for example could be part of the latter. Connection is another important route that can lift you from a feeling of isolation and being misunderstood to reminding you that you’re not alone.

Finding your tribe, whether it be a group of supportive friends, or a support group (online ones like these and alternative ones) can be the difference between sinking and soaring.

While sometimes the best thing we can do to remedy a situation is to spend time alone, other times we need the shoulder of a caring person to help us cope. If you’re grieving over a loss, need help with helping your child, or searching for advice on relationships or cultivating more meaning in your life, these top posts will help you get started. For an added bonus, use them to start a conversation with loved ones to foster more connection in your own life.

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Navigating Love in a Relationcanoe

by Cedric Speyer

Navigating Love in a Relationcanoe

What sets a canoeing expedition apart is that it purifies you more rapidly and inescapably than any other travel. - Pierre Elliott Trudeau

If we’re going to travel lighter toward each other in love, it’s time to change a heavy-duty word. If ever there was a tired, stodgy, lifeless word, it’s “relationship.” Who decided it was a ship in the first place? A ship is a huge, weighty vessel with lots of cargo and a big responsibility to its passengers; not easy to turn around.

 

Suffering From Jealousy? Try These 10 Tips to Overcome It

by Bianca Alexander

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We’ve all been there. Maybe it was the popular cheerleader in high school who seemed to have it all: perfect hair, teeth, and her hunky boyfriend made you wonder if you’d ever outgrow your awkward stage. Or maybe it was the rising star at work who beat you out for the plum promotion you wanted without seeming to break a sweat. Perhaps it’s your Facebook “friend” who is chased by a never-ending stream of “Amazing!” selfie-narrated experiences.

Whatever your source of envy, the green monster is no fun companion. Jealousy can not only debilitate your relationships with others, it can also wreak serious havoc on your health. According to Donna Fremon-Powell , certified Guided Imagery Therapist in La Habra, California, emotions like anger, jealousy, hate and resentment produce a chemical that’s very similar to arsenic. “Simply put, your negative emotions are poisonous.”

 

What I Wish You Understood About My Depression

by Margarita Tartakovsky, M.S.

What I Wish You Understood About My DepressionThere are many persistent misconceptions about depression. For instance, people assume depression is synonymous with sadness. (It’s not.)

They also assume that individuals with depression can simply snap out of it. (They can’t. Mild depression may abate with exercise, meditation and other self-help strategies. But most people’s clinical depression usually requires treatment.)

Such misconceptions can lead us to misinterpret what people need. It can lead us to make insensitive comments — “are you sure you want to get better?” — and to be dismissive of a disease that is actually devastating and really hard.

We asked people who have or had depression to share what they wish others knew and understood about the illness.

 

 
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