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Studies on this topic have been conducted dating back to 2002 in the American Journal of Psychiatry. Blogging, chatting, support groups among “peers” has been proven time and time again to have a positive effect on the depressed, socially isolated and so on. Why not check out a site such as Yahoo’s Questions & Answers. There are thousands of questions under the topics of mental health, psychology, social science, dating, parenting among countless other topics.
The majority of those writing in questions are teens (12-17) with the exception of occasional adults, thus few would be interested in a subject such as having tea spilt on oneself. Their lives are far more complicated than that (at least in their perception). They are amazingly adept at sniffing out trolls and ignoring them. Most of these kids come on asking questions that need serious answers and there are fortunately enough people with good, common sense, similar experiences in their youth and several professionals that address topics such as “I can’t stop cutting” or “What’s the easiest way to commit suicide” or my father raped me, but my mom will not believe me. What do I do?”
They do not talk to their parents because in many cases – the parents are the problem by not listening, not taking their concerns seriously or being the source of stress.
Too many of their peers can be outright abusive, why professionals can be too technical. I personally find if you reflect back their concerns, show empathy by sharing the same experience (something to ensure they are not alone)talk their talk and offer possible solutions or suggestions about how to cope, they are very grateful.
Most do not trust those with degrees who tend to talk down to them. Just because a person has a plaque on their wall does not insure that they are licensed to practice ( Dr. Phil lost his license 20 years ago, Dr. Laura doesn’t have a degree but calls herself Dr.) or have empathy beyond facts in a textbook. Also I think many discern between those out to make money and those who do this purely out of the goodness of their heart – nothing to gain – everything to give. This could be why only 30% of those with a mental illness (which accounts for 50% of all people) seek professional care.
A new site needs time to build up momentum. It is a poor sampling to use as a model when so few are familiar or comfortable about it. As you mentioned, in chat forums people tend to stick to friends or trusted (listeners or advisors).
Do they work? Look at the numbers of successful site and ask the CEO of this site. He would be making the kind of money he does by running a site with blogs if it did not work.
Hi! I’m new to this page ,I’m going thru some issues that may be disturbing but don’t know what to do . I’ve only been married for a year and a half but I’ve been with the father of my child for about 7 years .I’m not sure if my hasbund has bipolar disorder or scizophrenia ,my husband has alot of highs more than lows,laughs at inapproiate times,has a high sex drive,when he wants things done it’s the second he says and not a minute later ,his way of thinking is bothersome to me.he has been physcialy and sexually voilent but not everyday .He has also been emotionally and verbally voilent but I don’t have anywhere to go,I’ve tried the shelter for abused women but there was phsycial and verbal abuse there too that’s why I left but I lied on the paper work on the reason why I left so soon.I’ve been diagnoised with p.m.d.d. which is just p.m.s. I think I have problems with panic attacks because sometimes during the day I feel very anxious and like I’m going to go completly nuts.It was really bad when I was’nt on meds. I asked to give me more but he refuses. I’m taking a generic form of paxil and some weird little white pill for restless leg sydrom but I know it’s more than that my husband tells me I’m crazy because I refuse to be verbaly abused by him . I fear that he’s going to hurt me sooner or later and I in the past put a restrainting order or was it a protective order but he did’nt care and he would harass me on the phone repetively and would cry and cry outside my window until I gave in.
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Hello, I have an issue My friend and I been on and off for a year and 5months. We knew each other our whole life He’s in the Military(Army) and everything between us was Wonderful, Loving he treated me like a queen until he knew he was on his way to Afghanistan!!. That was June 2010..he started feeling like I wasn’t gonna be there for him because we’re young I’m thinking, but he broke up with me then we got back together. From there on I started showing him I will be there for you no matter what, I went to his farewell ceremony and I even wrote him while he was deployed. He called 3am all hours of the nite because I told him I will be there…basically I’m inlove with a soldier I was there in ft lee when he returned and I’m still here.. the problem his he has this attitude where as though he’s saying forget everything hes drinking more and he’s caring more for the people that never answered his calls while he was deployed never called him or anything I feel like he’s giving me his ass to kiss when I tell him how I feel he say “if I’m hurting you then go do what you wanna do” . He don’t realize how much that hurt me because I’m inlove with him..he’s going out to clubs more we don’t talk on the phone anymore he don’t tell me he love me when I tell him I love him he say,”sure”. God I’m hurt by this like I wanna be with him but how much am I suppose to take? We don’t talk because he says he don’t wanna hear it…I’m frustrated and by the way I have two beautiful kids I have to raise,no theyre not his..but he been in our life since they were 11months and 3months… He’s there for the kids will do anything for them but I feel if he treat me wrong he will treat my kids wrong and one thing you don’t do his mess with my kids!! They know him as Daddy why? Because their biological dad is in and out of prison and they don’t know him…I don’t know if I should leave or should I stay a fight for the guy I love? I proven my loyalty and love that I have for him and I know I was wrong for this but I told him its a military man out there who will love to have me by their side….he was really mad but hey I was telling the truth. God I just want things back to normal with us.. A cry of a 22 old loving a military man.
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