On Being a Student Therapist: Week FourOne of the “fun” parts of being a Master’s student (fun in quotes because it depends on how you take it) is that you get to be a guinea pig. Not just in your own experience as a learner, but at the mercy of professors doing research, doctoral students conducting experiments, and random investigators from other universities sending out electronic surveys via email for you to fill out regarding all aspects of your counseling life. All of them say participation is completely optional and there’s no compensation, but would be very much appreciated.

Last semester, I pretty much agreed to participate in everything. My helping nature made me think, “You might be asking others to do this someday yourself, and good karma comes around.”

This semester, I am way more protective of my free time and available brain cells.

However, a survey landed in my inbox on Thursday morning, and since the caffeine hadn’t connected with my brain just yet, I decided to fill it out.

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On Being a Student Therapist: Week Four

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  1. I love this blog. I love your honesty and I am very much looking forward to learning more from you.

    I too bring up new explosive stuff with my therapist five minutes before the bell goes off. I think I do it so that she will remember me in between sessions. The worst part for me is if I am not in my therapist’s head. Call it provocatively regressed if you will.

    Another reason I drop therapy bombs late in the session is because we won’t have time to talk about it, rather than in spite of. I want her to know what the issue is but at that particular point in time it is not up for further discussion. However, the agenda has been set for the next session with enough time in between to lessen the anxiety a sudden confession of a shameful event can bring about.

    Sometimes there are two therapies happening in the same room at the same time. One is the “adult” therapy of resolving issues and the other is the unconscious regressed transference issues where the client treats the therapist as a figure from the past, usually but not always the parent.

    This is not obvious to the client most times, let alone the therapist. This is where confusion abounds.

    Separating the two is difficult, but if the therapy is getting incongruent, this could be the reason why. Sometimes the “child” is in the room and at other times the “adult” is present.

    Client’s are also notorious therapist pleasers and will agree because that is their repeat pattern of behaviour in response to wanting the therapist to like them. Then they go home and wonder why they could not be more assertive.

    Freud got it right when he said the conscious part of ourselves is but the tip of the iceberg.

  2. This is great. Where is the link to the rest of the series?

  3. Down below.

    Click on other posts by Katie Thieda and it will give you links to all her other posts.

  4. I often times wonder why the clearing house question do you have anything else you’d like to talk about is often times used in therapy and so late into it. I feel like asked 15 minutes before allows some time but that it doesn’t seem the best way unless the client is aware of the time and aware that it will be discussed at a later time.

    I know in my therapy experience I didn’t know why they asked this question and if there was something I wanted to talk about i’d mention it. Now after learning more about opening and closings in my beginning interviewing class as an undergrad i’ve realized that it is more a question not to be answered but to signal time is running low and you want the person to feel heard.

    I just question its effectiveness. . .

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