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The Proof’s in the Positive Thinking

By Daniel Tomasulo, Ph.D.
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The Proof's in the Positive Thinking

When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us. –Helen Keller

While Dr. Martin Seligman is considered the founding father of positive psychology, Barbara Fredrickson might be considered the founding mother. She has determined a ration for determining what it will take to turn around our negative thinking. I never thought of myself as a negative thinker, but maybe I need to get a second opinion.

My best friend, Joel, is both a psychologist and photographer. He is warm, sensitive and caring. He is a professor at the local college and is thoughtful and caring with his students. He and I are cyclists and have ridden perhaps thousands of miles together. So why does he occasionally bother me? What character flaw of his gets under my skin?

He is too damn nice.

I mean it. He is way beyond my limited way of being in this world. It was Joel who introduced me to positive psychology and dragged me, kicking and screaming to the first international positive psychology conference. Geesh, how low can a guy go?

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The Proof’s in the Positive Thinking

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  1. This reminds me of when i first started experimenting with positive thinking. It immediately changed my whole view on life. Giving things away helped me love more easily. Also become more positive, believing and knowing that there is plenty out there for everyone. Great post enjoy your travels down the road of positive thinking

  2. If you tend to have a negative outlook, don’t expect to become an optimist overnight. But with practice, and focus you will encourage less self-criticism and more self-acceptance. In addition, you will also be less critical of the world around you.

    Practicing positive thinking will improve your outlook. When your state of mind is generally optimistic, you’re able to handle everyday stress in a constructive way. Then you too will know that there really are benefits to positive thinking.

    Ben Tien

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  4. yeah, I can’t stand too much positivity too. My ratio was under 2 and I’ve had a good week. Don’t you think its possible that much of this stuff could be sugar coating. Accepting life in its fullness, including anger, fear, sadness is the name of the game in my book. Hope is good, but avoiding negative emotions is clearly harmful, because they just don’t go away. If there is nothing going on in the world that makes you angry, you are either living in a bubble or brain dead, because many, many are suffering needlessly out there thanks to stupidity, greed, and prejudice. By all means, do your best to create your own heaven on earth, but stay aware of the human tragedy happening before your eyes as well. Yes, we can effect positive change, yes we need hope, yes we must believe in the good and the positive, but evil and suffering still exist in the world and if that doesn’t give you pause and evoke compassion, empathy and anger towards those who cause such things needlessly, you are not engaged.

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