Disease and trauma do not take a holiday. Many of us have loved ones in the hospital for all kinds of reasons. We want to do …
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Don’t believe the Doctors if they tell you your family member/s will die unless it is clear and demonstrable. Grief is an uncomfortable feeling and most people want to get through it and move on. Very often people who are very ill, when they recover, may not regain their health. I you start grieving early and your loved one lives for years, even decades, after the crisis you will need that strength for the future and so will they.
Also, people who enter the hospital with special needs may face old rules that prevent the patient from getting help with basic hygiene. You can pay someone to help, but agencies are notorious for skimming more than the fat from the soup.
Friends and family members make better caregivers and can be paid to give a disabled relative routine care to prevent truly fatal complications
that result from hospital-bred infections.
Here’s a 8 Minute Holiday Treat!
One of my new favorite Christmas movies, “The Gift Wrapper”, I saw in a film festival this year and it was just posted on youtube for the holidays!
Apparently they are only screening it for the holidays and then it goes back into the vaults till next year.
Enjoy!!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AZWdjrTmSCs
Kathleen, It sounds like you are speaking from experience. Caring for someone who is sick can indeed be a full time job. Your advice to take advantage of resources that are available to help is appreciated. I advise all care givers, whether family or not, to be aware that no one person can do the job well and all deserve to have a life beyond care-giving.
Ty, Thank you for sharing the Christmas movie short. It is very sweet.
Merry Christmas to all!
All that is fine with the health issues and the hospital rules, but I can’t believe that your 2 year old son had to spend Christmas worrying about his mother and not being able to see you. Something needs to be done in this area, talking about compassion, why couldn’t they transport you and your bed to another area of the hospital for an hour so your son could see you. They wouldn’t allow him on that floor, that just doesn’t do it for me. Its all about the bottom line. Where’s their compassion and their holiday spirit. That kid needed to see his mother.
Dear John,
Thank you for your compassion but truly, I don’t fault the hospital or their rules as much as I hated being separated from my son and he from me. There are two things to keep in mind: One, this was fifteen years ago. It could be that today the rules are more flexible and hospitals more accommodating. Secondly, it was chicken pox and flu season and again, this was before the vaccine was available for chicken pox.
My husband and I were lucky. John’s parents, my son’s beloved grandparents, flew in from where they lived 400 miles away, to take care of my son for as long as they were needed. So I knew he was in loving hands.
Yours,
Dr. Aletta
It’s great to have a close family especially when you need them, I know I do. I’m glad that everything worked out for everybody. I knew that there had to be more to this story and I was missing something. I know that being in the hospital has a way of rubbing some people the wrong way, but you definitely seem to have it together. Happy New Year
Thanks for posting, I very much enjoyed your newest post. I think you should post more often, you obviously have talent for blogging!