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6 Ways to Show You Care

By John M. Grohol, Psy.D.

5 Ways to Show You CareWondering how you can show someone in your life that you care about them? Here’s a few suggestions that may help you do just that.

1. Do It, Don’t Say It.

You know that …

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6 Ways to Show You Care

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  1. Hi John.

    Excellent advice particularly at this time of year. Spending time with our loved ones can at the best of times become quite stressful. Trying to keep people happy and non-confrontational depletes our energies.

    No: 2. Gives rise to a popular phrase by ‘Edward De Bono’ “You’re right, I’m wrong. This can help to stop conflict before it starts.

    No: 6. An attitude of Gratitude.
    “Being grateful for the people and things in our lives is one of the simplest ways to achieve a sense of daily happiness.”

    Happy Christmas!

    Dawn Pugh (MBACP)

  2. Doc John
    Still, there are times when SAYING it is the best thing. For the actions to be seen as caring, you will still need to express the words:
    I care about you SO MUCH!
    You are SO special to me!
    Don’t leave me wondering – gee, he told me he made a donation to the charity that helped me, does that mean he cares or does that mean he likes the charity?
    Yes, this is great reading for my husband, esp. the part about doing things without being asked or reminded (ha!). Express those feelings and also do the actions that show the love.

  3. True. I was thinking of some of the less obvious ways, and left out the most obvious way to show you care — find a way to tell the person. Regularly.

  4. Good points for a peaceful relationship. It takes a decision to have a good relationship instead of having someone to worship you or recognize you have power in the relationship. It takes a lot of work to get in the habit to follow these ideas but once it is a habit then it becomes easy.

  5. please try the web site – it’s a great place to go to “light” a candle, “walk” a maze, or just to read the daily quotes and try to appreciate all the good things you have.

    Being fundamentally grateful for your life, and the other person, lowers your blood pressure, and makes everyday irritations FAR easier to take!

  6. Great ideas — all true. In my relationship, though – the actions aren’t enough. She needs to hear it, too. I try to do surprises – little things she might not notice right away – but then she’ll get mad because I didn’t tell her.

    Ideally, relationships work best when both people are doing things like this. When both people are trying to out-love and out-do the other person.

  7. Great information John I found your article on google and am going to use this subject on my blog. You have some really innovative ideas on how to show appreciation.


  8. Doc John

    I always try to keep her happy but all my effort
    are valid for some time only.I alway try to avoid arguements.some of my behaviour what she liked early
    are worthless some points of time.what should I do sir.I really need ur help sir.

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