Flickr Creative Commons / Global PanoramaSadly, it’s nothing new — a celebrity either directly or indirectly ends their own life. It was Philip Seymour Hoffman, most recently; Heath Ledger, previously; and the list continues.

Now, Robin Williams is gone. Removed from the world directly by his own hand.

As much as I was moved by deaths of other celebrities who hold a place within me, there is something noticeably more difficult to accept with Robin Williams’ suicide.

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Why the Death of Robin Williams Is So Hard to Accept

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  1. Thank you for this article. I can’t understand why I am having such a difficult time getting over this. Your thoughts help.

    • I’m also struggling with this. Two nights after the world found out, I sat sobbing. Then I wrestled the more painful thought of not having the opportunity to ever meet him. Worse, could someone have stopped him by telling him he would cause so much sadness, something that he reportedly didn’t want to cause. But countering what he wanted to do, to spread laughter, he might have realized (waning stardom and “gigs”) the possibility people didn’t like him. That is what a depressed person usually feels, that people are not glad, pretty much the same as the depressed person feels. Perhaps it all culminated: his anti-depressants, his age and the way he saw his future really saddened him, but what drove him over the edge was possibly side-effects of the particular pharmaceutical drug for Parkinson’s. All of this is only speculation. Speculation is the only thing the millions of fans had. Now they don’t have him.

  2. Yes, I was struck hard by the news. The only thing I could say was “heartbreak”. Thank you for the article. It says many of the things I have been feeling. I suppose, for me anyhow, it comes down to fear. Mr. Williams most inner thoughts were never ours to be known. But I can only imagine my worst, as it completely sets in as my reality. That would be my nightmare. The fear I would experience would be uniquely mine, but I think it may be what happened with Mr. Williams. I pray that I and others like me, never experience the reality that Mr. Williams experienced. I am hoping that I and others can somehow avert that reality. If not, I will face the same hopelessness, fear and despair that overtook Robin Williams.

  3. I understand Robin Williams had early stages of Parkinson’s Disease and suffered from serious depression. I wonder if his afflictions were becoming too severe for him to get beyond and be the witty, hilarious clown we all loved and he himself loved. It seems likely to me, though I didn’t know the private man at all, that as you have speculated, he was happiest when he was performing, and maybe that was the most important drug for him. And with the ability to get it slipping away, he chose to end his own suffering before it became even more painful.

    I’m hoping that someone who knew him very well will share publicly what was going on–Robin Williams’ struggle. Or better yet, if his own writing or recordings are found and made public, so we can learn from the struggling man himself.

    Rest in peace, Brother Robin.

  4. I’m having a really tough time with this too because I do what Robin did….. I make people laugh in a desperate attempt to keep my real self hidden. Thank you for this eloquent article. It helped me.

  5. Rest in peace Mr. Williams. You will always be well loved.

  6. this article reminded me of why i never thought that robin williams was funny: i saw the pain in his eyes. to me, it was very obviously always there, and laughing at his standup felt more like laughing at him rather than with him. at least now there’s no more pain. i hope his family finds strength and forgiveness in their difficult journey ahead.

    • Caligirl: I told my daughter the same thing. I was stunned by his death as a suicide but at the same time, I was not surprised. His eyes always looked sad to me too.

    • Caligirl, may be you are blessed with an insight. But, for the most of us, the roles he chose to play were always inspiring & uplifting; perhaps that’s where the problem lies, in accepting the reason/s why he would do that.

      However, in the role of Teddy Roosevelt, Night at the Museum-2, there are scenes where his pain is visible behind the smile – or maybe again this was his acting prowess. He skilfully shut-out his real feelings.

  7. One of the morning shows here in Los Angeles, the host was recalling how Robin came in to the set and sat on the couch, hands under his legs, looking down.
    The host asked if he needed anything, Robin said no.
    He said Robin sat like that, waiting to go on. When it was his turn, a flip switched and he ran on stage, smiling and joking. Two different people.

  8. thank you, thank you for explaining what has been a very difficult event to accept. I have been wondering myself the what , how and why’s and you have done a superb job of describing what a remarkable man Mr. Willams was and how much he contributed to making the world a brighter place. in the end, we are all searching for a place to call home. you should be commended on your brilliant choice of words at such a sad time for millions plus one.

  9. This article makes the mistake of treating RW’s suicide as a result of his ongoing problems rather than an acute reaction that might have been prevented. Depression is not just a mood, but a specific affliction that can escalate suddenly. Sure, he had psychological problems and performing was partly a coping mechanism. But this is true in many fields, and true of many comedians, without invalidating people’s work. It’s clear that Robin went into a sudden tailspin that was not a necessary result of his work or of his motives in that work.

    • yyy

      My take on the article is that it is explaining to other readers why “we” feel it is so hard to accept what happened. The majority of us felt sad about it. Out of the ones who felt horrible, most of us never met the guy face to face. Is there one living person right now who could explain the reason why?

  10. </33 . im only 20 years old and im devastated . I absolutely loved robin Williams , he was so funny my favorite Disney film ''aladdin'' and I loved genie . I loved robin Williams in jumanji! jumanji is my favorite movie ever !!! I wish he didn't have to go ,the nanny OMGG .. so funny . and left such a beautiful moral . a lot of women take care of their children on their own , however in this movie he played a father who loved his children so dearly that he put himself through all that just to see them . such a wonderful movie .such a beautiful person with outstanding personality and great acting . we love you robin willaims <33333 . heaven now has another beautiful angel . rest in peace and my condolences to your family . a wonderful man . one day we'll all be together , and we'll feel so much better . <33

  11. I appreciate you sharing your thoughts on Robin Williams. It’s been difficult to accept his passing. It has affected me deeply. I struggle to understand these emotions and can only wonder how his family must be coping with his absence.

    I hope this brings an awareness to our society that many people suffer from mental illnesses. I would like to see more funding going into research and cures for those who are challenged daily with depression, bipolar disorder, anxiety and many more conditions that deal with the mind.

    We need to find solutions to help those afflicted live a much happier life.

  12. This is the best piece I’ve read on RW’s passing. Well said.

    • I completely agree.

  13. Wow. Your article was both well-written and completely encompasses how I, myself, am feeling. I have been having the hardest time with this. Of course, there’s the usual watching of all his movies and waiting anxiously for more news and/or tributes to emerge. This has been different though. I feel like I’ve lost a member of my family. I’m angry. I’m sad. I want to know how he could possibly feel such pain when so many people loved him. He was awesome and it’s just plain sad that future generations will not get the opportunity to treasure him like we have. Thank you for your honest article and pinpointing what the multitude of us have been dealing with. Rest in peace, O Captain My Captain!

  14. For part of (our) healing process, and not his, we get to see the tribute on the Emmy’s tonight. I will probably need a tissue.

  15. Robin Williams did NOT seem “happy”. He seemed manic. People suffering from mania or bi-polar disease are generally not happy. They are people who are suffering from such a sad difficult problem. Sufferers of bi-polar disease who commit suicide tend to end their lives during a manic upswing…not a depressive episode. Happiness and mania are two completely different things. People who suffer from this disease have my absolute total sympathy.

  16. Watching all the old Mork & Mindy episodes I am struck by how he changed over the past 33 years. I loved him in thT show when I was a teenager. Another part of my childhood died with his passing. He had very soulfilled eyes even in his 20’s but was so full of life. When he played T.S. Garp I thought he was playing himself in yhat role. He was an amazing actor. Loved him and will never forget him.

  17. I, too, am havig such a difficult, difficualt time with this. I’m heartbroken and I, like millions that loved him, never actually met the man. The world without him just seems a tad dimmer now.

    It amazed me to hear Billy Crystal liken Robin Williams brilliance to a star’s light shining down on us because that’s exactly how I pictured him just after I found out. But stars are so, so far away. Can’t touch them, can’t hug them, they just glow on – but their light is a reflection of a thing that’s passed. And I want a world where his brilliance is here, present, alive and among us – within arms reach.

    Thank you for your post – it helped put in to words a lot of what I’ve been thinking and feeling.

    Rest in Peace you brilliant, gentle, wonderful comedic genius. You are so very, very, very missed. Do you know how much we all loved you? I hope, at least, that wherever you are, that you do now.

  18. Well written! We will never know what was going through Robin Williams’ mind during those last days/moments but I doubt that he was aware of how deeply his passing would touch lives the world over.

    Unfortunately, we cannot bring Robin back but we can surely learn from him! Long story short, life is not about $, glamour or fame. It’s about having inner peace and how we live this precious gift called life.

  19. I agree you have written a beatiful piece . I think if we all think deeper and consider the many people we have known or read about who are so different than they portray we can at least understand there was Robin Wiilliams and then there was the real robin Williams. I don’t think we will ever know how he truly suffered because he was such a loving caring man he would not share that with even his closest friends and family because he knew it would cause too much pain and hurt. He understand what people thought of him and publicly and privatel tried to live up to that. In the end the fight was too hard. Sometimes people get just too tired of the struggle physically as well as emotionally. I don’t seek the real truth because robin did not want to share that. Thank you for the memories and let the grief of losing you to all of us Round the world let someone else know that nothing can ever be so dreadful that love and understanding and forgiveness cannot help get you through. We love you and will always love you and we forgive you .

  20. Yes, very sad. An acclaimed, award winning hero, runaway success, who influenced a whole generation of people around the world, could himself be so down in the dumps to take his own life….

    Thanks to this article & the author Nathan, some of the grief can be shared & put in perspective.

    I also read an inspiring thought on a spiritual guru’s blog & i quote, “Robin Williams, though he made millions of people laugh, could not end the deep seated loneliness inside him. This shows clearly that only spiritual solace can take you out of despair and misery. External pomp and show, wealth, admiration and adulation are not helpful in dealing with inner discontent. While alive, he made people laugh and in his death, he gave people a message to lift their eyes above the mundane towards something higher.”
    May Almighty keep his soul in peace & give courage to his family to bear the loss.

  21. Thank you for helping us to cope with this tragedy. Every time I see his face my heart is heavy and breaks all over again. He made us all feel like we were a part of him, drawing us closer and loving every minute and leaving us wanting more. I miss you like a part of me died. I wish his kids peace and love, for they lost more than we did. I loved you Robin and do did millions of people. I wish someone could have reached you and see the passion you inspired. You were amazing. Love to his kids…

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