Previous psychological research has demonstrated that the mere presence of a loved one — a partner, family member or friend — can help …
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hello dr. grohol,
i’ve enjoyed your work for several years. this is ironic, for my therapist and i have recently been involved in debate about this very issue. i was previously involved in a 4 and one half year enmeshed and deeply intimate alliance with my former therapist. there was no sexual acting out, but it was eventually too volitile and we terminated and i was referred to another therapist (currently seeing). i am devestated, and have been calling her office, simply listening to her voicemail to self soothe and regulate my emotions as one would utilize a picture of a deceased loved one. my present therapist expresses concern, as she feels it is outside the bounds of “normalcy”, and something about my behavior feels “not right ” to her. my arguement is, that if i possessed a pic, as others do when grieving a loss, then that would not warrent concern, but since it is the recording that i utilize, then it is viewed as something pathological. i argue that it serves the same function for me in this awful time of loss and broken heartedness.what say you? i value your insight. thanks.
This reminds me to take some pics of my wofe and put one in my wallet. Thanks!
Andrew
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“So next time you go in for surgery or some other medical procedure, you might want to consider dumping your partner and bringing only their photo with you instead.(…)And, unlike your partner or family member, a photo can’t be in a bad mood” I like your humour!
I carry and use a photo/photos of my daughter and some words written by her when in a good mood. Now I know how to keep her away when I shall be in trouble
Photos of pets are also helpful. I hate admitting this because it might seem silly to some people, but when I travel (or am hospitalized) I like to have their pictures with me. Looking at them makes me feel better. I’ve found that other pet people usually have pictures on the cell phones too.