The Ultimate PainRecovery work is painful. It is the hardest thing I have ever done. It is no wonder that I spent two decades avoiding it.

Deep down in my unconscious where the memories were stored, I had determined that the pain of the emotional memories was far worse than spending my life defending against them. And my overactive cortex was happy to oblige.

I could come up with almost anything to justify my feelings or an image that may have flashed in my head. On the bad days, I could keep myself so insanely busy that there was no time to examine anything.

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The Ultimate Pain: Recovering from Trauma

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  1. I agree with this. I’ve always believed that in any situation where there is a perpetrator and a victim, the perpetrator is always in pain to begin with. It is not after all, in our nature to want to harm others. Although I don’t believe this is in any way, an excuse to give lenience to the perpetrator, since the perpetrator has a choice, but the victim doesn’t most of the time. But you are correct, if we were willing to help more compassionately instead of judging and hating, then there would be less pedophiles, less rapists, less murderers and thieves.

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