One of my depression busters is to “become the expert.”
This means, as I’m peeing my pants about where Eric and I are going to get our next paycheck, I am doling out advice on how to cope with such anxiety. In telling someone else …
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I have used your advice (and dispensed it) many times, on going to the scary place and imagine yourself coping there.
As for the eagle, I’m trying to come up with concrete examples of soaring in the midst of a storm. I suppose it relates to using affirmations as a means of persisting in scary times. Taking deep breaths, telling oneself, “no matter what, we’ll get through this” or, “I’m going to be ok. I’m a smart person who can figure things out. I’ll figure this out, too.” Or, taking risks.
Am I on the right track?
After all, it’s just stuff. Even if the worst DID happen, you’d still be alive to tell about it, right?
i’ve recently lost my lover, my best friend and my home (i know, sounds like a country song). While recuperating in a loony bin after a nearly successful suicide attempt, one of the things that helped pull me out of the funk was to embrace the concept of minimalism, as i always have. If you embrace and accept the fact that it’s just stuff, and it doesn’t really define who and what you are, then the problem seems less important.
I wish you the best of luck.
Rob
Hello Rob,
I just wanted to tell you that I think you’re exhibiting great insight and much wisdom. Thank you for sharing.
Your words actually mimic that of one who has spiritual insight. Have you heard of psychiatrist Viktor Frankl? I would recommend reading his stellar book titled: Man’s Search for Meaning (2006). It has been renewed and offers great insight into his search for meaning while he suffered through a concentration camp.
The ultimate meaning of that story comes from the fact that he learned just how senseless the “material” world had become as a result of his gaining of insight about the world and what truly matters to the human species. Find that book at: http://www.amazon.com/Mans-Search-Meaning-Viktor-Frankl/dp/080701429X/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1251040677&sr=8-1
You are very right when you say that “it is just stuff.” If many more people understand what you understand about that “stuff,” I’m sure they would be more accepting of their lives, less competitive with one another, and more giving of their hearts and the things that truly create differences in this life.
You also mimic a book in the bible called Ecclesiastes (King James Version Bible) where Solomon (a very wise man) wrote about life and all the things that weren’t truly meaningful or made sense to the “spiritualized” and mature man (i.e., man meaning the human race). I would encourage you to seek that book out through the bible; it is Ecclesiastes Chapter 1-12. If you do not have a bible, you can get one online for free at http://christianity.about.com/od/practicaltools/ht/freebible.htm
or online at http://www.ebible.com/.
I hope you will seek it out and embrace the story that tends to mimic the thinking of today’s human beings. It truly is not “religious jargon” from the past, you just have to open your mind to it.
You’re on the right path! Best wishes
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My compliments on a very well thought out post. I love the way you brought the song and it’s interpretation into your post – great idea to give people a vivid visual like that. Meditations and visualizations are definitely a cure for not only financial panic and stress, but any stress that we encounter in life.