An Open Letter to Those Defending Woody AllenWhen I read the article by Dylan Farrow, I was shocked by her bravery, honesty and resiliency.

I was surprised by how she was willing to stand up against someone who is revered by our society as a talented artist.

However, I was more shocked by those who are willing to defend Woody Allen, a man who has been accused of child sexual abuse by one adopted daughter and married the other one [Ed. - Allen was never Soon-Yi Previn's father, adopted or otherwise, according to both Allen and Previn.]. The myriad reasons for this defense show a complete lack of understanding for the complex trauma of a child sex abuse victim.

Let’s discuss some of those reasons…

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An Open Letter to Those Defending Woody Allen

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  1. So now those who throw up a red flag that the evidence doesn’t support his woman, are labeled “Defenders of Woody Allen” by the torch-carrying mob.

  2. Soon Yi is not his adopted daughter. She is Andre Previn’s adopted daughter. Perhaps you should open your mind to all the facts before acting as judge and jury. The situation is not resolved yet.

  3. Wow, I don’t really know where have you read those defenses, but I’ve seen none of that.

    You know what I’ve seen? People accusing him with this arguments:

    1. He’s a molester because he’s creepy.
    2. He’s a rapist because she says it.
    3. He fucked his step-daughter/adopted-daughter so he must have molested Dylan.
    4. Everybody saying he’s not a molester is a rape apologist.
    5. My gut tells me he’s guilty as sin so he must be.
    6. Dylan’s letter spoke directly to my heart, so it must mean he’s a rapist.

    And, my favorite, because it was said directly to me:

    7. So, you think Dylan is liar? Who lies?

    Most people thinks that facts are not important. Most people thinks the background is irrelevant (as Bob Weide detractors argue), and the fact is, as much as I don’t wanna accuse an abused woman of lying, I don’t wanna accuse an innocent man of abusing her.

    People also believe no friend of him is supposed to defend him. Then who? Who knows you better than your friends? Who can judge your character if not the people you hang out with? Whose opinion is reliable if not the opinion of the ones who know you?

    Moses Farrow came up front to say: no, this didn’t happen, I was in the house, they were never alone, etc. But he’s not a reliable source? Not even because he was there?

    I can’t say he’s innocent. But I can say this: it looks very convenient to release this letter when no legal course is possible, ’cause the only possible outcome is to damage his image. If they were looking for justice (and, by they, I mean the Farrows), they should have pressed charges when he could have been convicted for his alleged crime.

    • I don’t know if it did or did not happen. But, when you say another person was in the house and didn’t know it was happening, so it didn’t… that’s ignorance.

      My mother-in-law and her sister were molested throughout their childhood by their step-father, beginning at six years old. He would rape them while their mother and brother were both in the house and neither of them ever knew. When my mother-in-law finally got the courage to go to her mom and tell her that she was being raped, her mother responded with jealousy. That’s right, a grown woman jealous of her 10 year old daughter who was being raped.

      This type of situation is extremely horrifying on all counts.

  4. Wow, I don’t really know where have you read those defenses, but I’ve seen none of that.

    You know what I’ve seen? People accusing him with this arguments:

    1. He’s a molester because he’s creepy.
    2. He’s a rapist because she says it.
    3. He f*cked his step-daughter/adopted-daughter so he must have molested Dylan.
    4. Everybody saying he’s not a molester is a rape apologist.
    5. My gut tells me he’s guilty as sin so he must be.
    6. Dylan’s letter spoke directly to my heart, so it must mean he’s a rapist.

    And, my favorite, because it was said directly to me:

    7. So, you think Dylan is liar? Who lies?

    Most people thinks that facts are not important. Most people thinks the background is irrelevant (as Bob Weide detractors argue), and the fact is, as much as I don’t wanna accuse an abused woman of lying, I don’t wanna accuse an innocent man of abusing her.

    People also believe no friend of him is supposed to defend him. Then who? Who knows you better than your friends? Who can judge your character if not the people you hang out with? Whose opinion is reliable if not the opinion of the ones who know you?

    Moses Farrow came up front to say: no, this didn’t happen, I was in the house, they were never alone, etc. But he’s not a reliable source? Not even because he was there?

    I can’t say he’s innocent. But I can say this: it looks very convenient to release this letter when no legal course is possible, ’cause the only possible outcome is to damage his image. If they were looking for justice (and, by they, I mean the Farrows), they should have pressed charges when he could have been convicted for his alleged crime.

  5. Let’s face it, when abusers have power, money, control, and an adoring audience behind them, why ask the foolish question of the behaviors and actions of apologists and defenders.

    We see it every day with our politicians alone who are equally abusing and ruining us, just not directly nor overtly heinously like in sexual or physical abuse. Their lynch mob, especially in the media, are so efficient!

    As long as people stay silent and complicit, evil will thrive. And what is amazing is how the abuser can mobilize such inappropriateness.

    Am I wrong?

  6. I’ve no idea if Allen is guilty or not – how can i know

    but

    1. i am the child of a mother who was raped as a child (so too her sister) and other than me urinating on the man’s grave never knew any support by family or friends for the damage done that not only effected her whole life but also mine

    2. A close relative’s spouse was repeatedly molested and raped by her father and grandfather while her mother, in fear of losing her comfortable financial position, did nothing

    3. i worked with troubled teenagers – lawbreakers, drug takers and generally aggressive and messed up – all of them – boys as well as girls – the victims of sexual abuse as children

    4. my best friend’s wife is a counselor at a woman’s refuge – it hasn’t hardened her over all the years but she’s an alcoholic now

    i’m a man

    i know what men feel and are capable of

    Woody Allen is totally capable of having been a child molesting scum pedophile

    the opinion of anyone who leaps to defend him who is not a female victim of sexual abuse

    is utterly worthless and very telling

    Liz – absolutely support your feelings and words on this issue

    pop

  7. Good article….it is a terrible crime and men get away with it in this society. I really wish each state should legislate for a longer statute of limitations on sex abuse crimes, because so many happen in childhood. The shame is on the abuser and they will be judged.

  8. Thanks for the article, I have found it quite upsetting that so many people have responded to Dylan Farrow with denial.

    A denialist reaction to child sexual abuse is almost always the same. It usually includes:
    1. It didn’t happen,
    2. if it did then it wasn’t a big deal,
    3. anyhow the victim is faulty or unlikable,
    4. we should pity the accused as this will impact on their life.

    I am a survivor of childhood sexual abuse and I’m very glad that some people are brave enough to say: it did happen, it was a big deal, whether I am your idea of a perfect human or not is irrelevant to the fact of the abuse, and abusing a child should impact negatively on an abusers life.

    I have no evidence of the abuse I was subjected to. My mother said first it didn’t happen and then that she knew but that it’s not a big deal. There is no way my siblings or my mum would support me if I brought charges.

    The biggest hurdle to healing for me has been that I wasn’t believed as a child. And every time these denials are repeated in the public sphere it hurts.

    It is perhaps, understandable that some people react to sexual abuse with denial. It’s a horrible thing and it can be far more comfortable to believe that people are making things up.

    Especially when its a person that is lauded by the society we live in.

  9. I have not read or heard one single defense you have listed. The defense you personally listed are horrible defenses and should be refuted.

    However, here are some thing omitted from your blog that are REASONABLE defenses of Woody Allen:

    1. Dylan never made this accusation 20 years ago. Mia Farrow did. All in the wake and betrayal of the Soon Yi affair.

    2. Dylan was seen by child abuse experts from Yale New Haven who concluded there was no evidence of vaginal or anal molestation.

    3. Dylan was seen by psychiatrists who believed the story was coerced, implanted and coached.

    4. Dylan grew up in a house being told every day of her life that Woody Allen did this to her.

    5. Mia first took Dylan to her pediatrician who concluded there was no evidence of molestation and would not testify that there was so Mia Farrow hand picked another physician who also wouldn’t say there was evidence of molestation but would say there could be further investigation.

    6. The nannies and other eye witnesses in the house at the time of the alleged event (now turned into events) including her brother Moses say the child was never out of their site and they are appalled that Farrow would do this to Allen. (http://articles.latimes.com/1993-02-02/news/mn-952_1_woody-allen)

    7. Dylan herself said in a statement yesterday ‘I can’t stay silent when my family needs me and I will not abandon them’. Why does her family need her to make these accusations? Why doesn’t her family need her to heal? If this event is true, why doesn’t her family need her to find peace and love and healing?

    8. What kind of mother can Mia Farrow be when her daughter is clearly still in a rage after 21 years?

    9. This is not a case of either Dylan Farrow is lying or Woody Allen is lying. This is a case of Either Dylan Farrow is lying, or Woody Allen is lying, Yale child abuse experts are lying, Dylan’s pediatrician is lying, the CT Police are lying, the nannies are lying, Dylan’s brother Moses is lying and the state and Government officials are lying.

    10. Pedophilia is a sickness and compulsion usually ranging over many years and victims. There has never been another instance of such a horrendous act in Allen’s case before or since this single incident.

    You have a lot of facts wrong in your article. Soon Yi is not Woody Allen’s adopted daughter. Her father is Andre Previn. According to Mia Farrow’s own memoir, Allen had nothing to do with the Previn children, the least of all Soon Yi. This bothered Farrow who encouraged Allen to get to know Soon Yi better.

    Soon YI may have been as old as 21 when they got together (not condoning the age difference, but it is almost the same age difference as a 19 Mia Farrow and a 50 year old Frank Sinatra) but her true age is unknown because her Korean birth records are lost.

    The examples you gave as defenses to Woody Allen are horrible defenses, and all of them presume Allen is guilty but are willing to defend him anyway. There are reasonable defenses to the Woody Allen situation. I listed ten. You did not come up with one.

    Child abuse happens and happens more than we know. It is repugnant. I don’t know anyone who would defend it.

  10. With the Dylan Farrow/Woody Allen situation I am reminded of Michael Jackson when almost everyone turned viciously against him because he was accused of being a child molester. MJ was demonized, vilified. I’m quite sure that the public hatred of him very nearly ruined his life, and probably hastened his death. WELL. Turns out the kid who accused MJ of molesting him was set up by his wacko parents who were trying to get money from MJ. And…it turned out that MJ was NOT a child molester; furthermore, he was a devoted and very loving father. SO. I’m not ready to join the “evil Woody” tribe yet. None of us really know what the story is. Seriously: we don’t know.

  11. Well, you gave no proof Woody Allen is guilty. He has been accused, all right. Everybody can be accused of anything. In some countries, where there is law and justice, if your accusation is false, or even if you cannot prove what you say is true, you go to jail. Nowadays it is clear that “poor little victims” need only accusation to destroy the reputation of other people. They deserve to be accused, say, of murder, or something equally horrible. It will serve them right.

  12. I feel that Dylan did experience what she claims. The child who is molested might repress memories of her/his experience for many years. The fact that she can come out in the open and state her claim is an example of growth and need to clear the pain she has suffered.
    It takes great courage to face an accuser especially someone who has operated under cover and has surrounded himself with naysayers to defend his reprehensible behavior.
    I have known men who were very clever at hiding their sickness and I admit to being shocked when they were “outed”, but did not for one minute feel that a child was making up their claims.
    People view children with such suspicion, because they see them as mini adults and with this suspicion they immediately judge them.
    How many children have to suffer because society just can’t get it into their heads that “good men” do very bad things.
    Woody Allen has the protection of fame & money and a group of people who are seduced themselves into believing he is innocent.
    Read “Protecting the Gift”, any of you that just cannot believe this man could do what he is accused of.
    One small child at a time can be saved if you just know what to look for and believe when told, or see behaviors that give you that seed of doubt.

  13. I love your article. I believe Dylan and I consider her a hero. She gives courage to many aabused children. Some people have no shame. They rather pick on a child rather than face the abuser. Woody got away because he has money. He used his money to harass and destroy the prosecutor after he agreed with Dylan in 1992. The individuals that were investigating the case were in Woody’s payroll. Woody won and Dylan lost of course. Money talks!

  14. Woody Allen was not the adoptive father of SoonYi. But he was in a long standing relationship with Mia, the father and adoptive father of several children in the home-including Dylan Farrow -and an obvious paternal figure in the household.

    The fact that Woody Allen would marry his accusing daughter’s sister is inappropriate and telling. I want to read Woody and SoonYi’s children’s memoirs in twenty years.

    Moses says that he did not see the abuse. Most of us know that perpetrators do not commit the abuse in a room full of people. Further, I do not believe Dylan’s abuse happened on just one occasion. Abusers are known to groom their victims and increase their infractions over time after previous successful undiscovered incidents. Abusers normally do not abuse just one time. I believe the accusation of Woody putting his thumb in Dylan’s mouth occurred on a different occasion than when she is abused laying on her stomach next to the train, for instance. It is not believable that Moses was by Dylan’s side at all times. Moses did not see the abuse happen because the abuser worked it that way.

    Dylan did not bring charges against Woody Allen at the time because she was a child and had no say in the matter. Now she is an adult and is entitled to have her voice. I find it absolutely plausible that she would choose now to speak-especially after most recently witnessing her abuser once again receiving accolades at the Oscars. Not only was her abuser her father, making her more vulnerable at the time due the power differential between parent as an authority figure vs. child, but he is a famous, powerful, rich authority figure. Imagine all the years she has had to see her abusers face and hear his name.

    We need to stop rewarding abusers. We need to stop giving famous, powerful and well off abusers a pass.

    My hope is that Dylan Farrow can find some measure of peace, justice and validation after finally being able to have her say. My hope is that Woody Allen reaches out to Dylan Farrow to express remorse.

    Elisabeth Corey, I’m sorry that you were so horrendously abused. Thank you for this article. Thank you for speaking up for those of us who do not have the words, the means or the talent to do so.

  15. Woody Allen passed a lie detector about this. Mia Farrow refused to take one. The fact that he was willing and she was not speaks volumes to me sbout who is telling the truth.

  16. Woody had his day in court – family court. The judge ruled abuse HAD taken place and Woody lost custody. Woody appealed to the Supreme Court and lost that one, too, but his supporters don’t want you to know that.

  17. The people that point to Moses saying it never happened because he was there as proof of her lying are showing ignorance of how sexual abuse can happen.

    I was raped by one brother while two others were in the same room with us and never knew that it was happening. I was sexually abused by my mother and my siblings never knew even though I shared a bedroom with two of them.

    Just because someone didn’t notice/realize it doesn’t mean it didn’t happen.

  18. Read the article by Samantha Geimer (Roman Polanski’s victim) in Slate – the only helpful piece of writing on this I’ve seen.

    http://www.slate.com/articles/double_x/doublex/2014/02/samantha_geimer_to_dylan_farrow_and_other_victims_the_only_thing_you_have.html

  19. I have always said that we never know anybody. Everyone is capable of Anything.

    I never saw his movies, because I thought he was weird and creepy. I always believe anyone w ho said they were m olested or raped and it always amazes me when anyone questions it.

  20. These posts illustrate that those who believe that Mia and Dylan Farrow are telling the truth are far to the left on the bell curve, rely only on emotions to guide their thinking, and are incapable of intelligent reasoning.

  21. I feel deeply for all you went through and well done for becoming who you are, staying who you’ve always been and speaking out for others like Dylan. Those who support Woody Allen have absolutely no idea of the issues of child sexual abuse. If they had half an ounce of an idea they would never say the things they do and the fact they claim to be experts in something they know nothing personally about is unbelievable. The powerful are always protected and people think they can change the reality of a fact with their personal dogma. Wrong. Abuse of the weak and less powerful does occur in this world. Reality. Thanks for fighting back against them Elizabeth.

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