10 Secrets Your Therapist Won't Tell YouPsychotherapists are a unique profession in the world because they are paid to listen and help people improve aspects of their lives or combat a mental health issue that’s affecting them. …

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10 Secrets Your Therapist Won’t Tell You

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  1. i have feelt like my theripist dosnt care about me and i just read this artical saying that most of them dont but i have been suffering from depression and she said she has to care about me cuse she sighned a paper saying she would i was so upset and i still am what am i to do??

  2. my therepist after treating me for several months for depression and a suicide attempt. As well as low self esteem.After making remarkable progress I asked her what her oppinion of my character was thus far.She replied”I think that you have a Good Heart ,Are Intellegent,You posses a marvelous sennce of humor,However you are mean and aggressive. Session over! I left her office stunned at her last remarks and bleeding emotionally. I don’t know if its even worth confronting her how awful I felt and confused as to how she came to that conclusion or just move on.

  3. Like many people these days (I believe) I have found the mental healthcare system to be compromised by bureaucracy and ineptitude and also a kind of corporate attitude that makes trusting in treatment very difficult.

    1. I suppose I am lucky to have MassHealth but it makes mental health providers run for the hills. Seems like anyone with quality references and adequate experience won’t deal with Mass Health, they obviously make it too difficult for them to get their $$$.

    2. When I call mental health providers that do take my coverage they tell me they have a wait list that is solely base on a database of patients that already use their primary health services. Shortage of mental health professionals? Why is that?

    3. Until last week I had a full time retail job (that means working over the normal business hours of health professionals and irregular days off). So who was out there who could see me after 7 pm? Nobody. Means working class people can’t get treatment.

    4. Now that I do have time to see a therapist (took me 4 weeks to find a place taking patients) I’ll get to see a counselor but wait up to 4 weeks before getting an appointment with a Psychiatrist who can prescribe meds. If I hear one more time “I think we can’t really expect you to see progress till you get meds” I’m gonna scream at the top of my lungs. Which might get me hospitalized and thus immediately medicated (that’s your only choice folks).

    5. Of course the quickest way of getting treatment would be to get hospitalized, which I’ve already experienced. In this case the treatment is highly impersonal, and I found the professional staff to be condescending. All the treatment is distress tolerance, no therapy, just the same endless series of handouts being read aloud in a circle.

    I’m gonna give these mental health people another chance, since I’ve already spent close to a month trying to get services. But damn if this time I’m gonna make sure they know that I AM THE CLIENT, and hold them accountable for all their practices.

  4. I went to a therapist one time in order to get into the Peace Corps. She gave me a diagnosis of Depression in order to get paid by my insurance company. The problem is that now I have a “history of depression” on my health insurance and it is affecting my ability to get new insurance. I also do not want a fake diagnosis, especially not one with such negative connotations associated with it, following me for the rest of my life. Is there anything I can do?

  5. The vitriolic combativeness from some professionals on this thread only supports the argument that just because a therapist has credentials, doesn’t mean he has act together. No one can be more psychologically nasty than a threatened therapist, and consumers are wise to approach them discernment and skepticism. Scare the public from putting themselves in some of these children’s hands? Absolutely! Therapy would be much healthier if clients and professionals approached it with fewer delusions.

  6. Regarding “advice” or lack therof in the profession….

    In all of my years in and out of therapy (actually, more out lately) the greatest lesson that I have learned is that the best of the lot don’t actually give advice but rather, push the problem right back into your lap while gently prodding/teaching you to hear your own inner voice so that you can solve the problem yourself.

  7. This is great. It’s so true. Number one really hit me because I’ve been in this profession as a social worker for about 2 years and I still doubt myself which is hard for me to deal with. Any advice? I want to help clients badly but at the same time I wonder sometimes if there is anything I can do.

  8. my friends always come from advise from me but hoe can i reject them.i can sometime read their mind and know their suffering nervours breakdown such as sexual feeling, emotional and pysical

  9. If you have bpd and were unilaterally terminated by your therapist, can they still be of help to you if you were to re-enter therapy with them at a later time?

  10. Excellent post – well done.
    My children have been in therapy for years, and all the things that have been listed are right on.
    What I would add is something that I learned from my husband, who used to be a psychotherapist and got out of the field because he wasn’t able to help enough people.

    “There are therapists and there are ‘healers’ Most of us are therapists, in the business for the money more than anything else. We don’t really have the experience nor interpersonal skills to really be of help to all that many people. As to diagnosis, we are ‘guessing’ most of the time.

  11. I don’t get the hemming and hawing about the release of record. I don’t know any other professional field where this would be problematic. There shouldn’t be things in records that therapists have not told clients. Therapists are allowed to keep separate psychotherapy notes that clients cannot access if they want to, but the record is what is passed between clinicians and can have legal/economic implications. How about send a client your notes after each session so that there are no surprises, or just write it together if it is just a very short summary.

    If you are nervous about the “why” someone is asking for their record, then they may rightly sense that you are keeping something important from them and that your relationship together does not allow for more open communication.

  12. “Despite the rights of patients to be able to view and have a copy of their own medical records and data, most mental health professionals still resist attempts for a patient to view their own mental health chart.”

    Calling BS on this. HIPPA rights to see your records do NOT extent to psychotherapy notes. It is a psychiatrist/therapists JOB to try to manipulate your mind in the right direction, and this can be compromised if you’re aware of what he’s doing.

  13. Thought provoking article. I practice in the UK and it was interesting to reflect on the differences in routine practice. In my experience, in the UK points 1 to 6 are openly communicated to clients within the first few sessions. I find that it helps to form realistic expectations of therapy, to be informed of what it involves and to form a collaborative relationship. Points 7-10 are not relevant within a national health system, where health care (including mental health) is provided free for all.

  14. Psychologists, Psychiatrists, MFC’s, LSW,well, they’ll all human. I have had violent crime victim therapy, rape victim therapy, been unlawfully committed so someone could take my extra role-in LA, CA my doctor told me “believing” I had an extra gig was Delusional, my actress land lord and co worker raided my apartment during my confinement. I was told to break up with a wealthy guy because it appeared, ” I was too destructive and read too much, and he was “rushing things” and she said I was a gold digger and needed to stick to my class. I was guided by a MFC to place my child for adoption because, as he said, the fact that I was raped would absolutely possibly contribute to creating a child who was a psychopathic killer and trying to be a mom was a fatal risk. I was consulted to drop out of college even though I was doing well at school. I was concerned about my weight as it increased when I got my medication and was screamed at and sent home by my psychologist, he Screamed, ” I don’t care about your weight”. As my son, far away in his adopted home approached college, I was worried and concerned he get the bet opportunity. When I told my Psychiatrist I worried about my son, who was adopted, he said, “forget it, it was a long time ago” I worked ata psych out patient clinic. I saw a homophobic nurse elbow a gay client in the face and later tried to get said patient to take a large handful of Depakote.

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