Why You Shouldn't Text Your ArgumentTexting — or textese, as some call it — is a wonderful shorthand method for communicating with others, especially your partner or special someone. What better way to let them know you’re thinking of them, that you love them, that they are the highlight of your day?

Which is a great thing you should be doing (if you’re not).

What texting is absolutely horrible for, however, is an argument or an in-depth discussion about any kind of serious issue. You shouldn’t do it — here’s why.

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Why You Shouldn’t Text Your Argument

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  1. Does this count for the “old fashioned” emailing? There had been times of arguing or talking about something serious that’s been sent to me by email. I agree that it’s not cool. Because things seem more serious when expressed in text. I do not do well in arguing by texting. It very often goes back and fourth, whereas in face to face, the arguing gets settled quicker or it just desolves.

    It’s much easier to bring something up that’s sensitive by texting than it is to confront someone face to face. But to me it’s much harder to be confronted by text than by face to face. So if you send something out, expect to get the same back.

  2. I usually do very well with difficult conversations and wouldn’t want to have them by text. Both people say what the issues are, things may get heated but never out-of-control, and eventually, we each hear what the other is trying to say. Resolution is consistently amicable. However, one person in my life isn’t willing to have an equitable conversation without emotionally reacting at the first sign of disagreement. I’m unable to finish a sentence, tolerate a barrage of accusations and misrepresentations, and honestly, can’t get a word in to help the person understand where I’m coming from. When I try to say my point of view, I’m called names and accused of being mean. The ONLY way I’ve been able to complete a sentence with this person when things get tense is by either emailing or texting. She ridicules me for writing things out, but doesn’t hesitate to blast me with long emotional texts. When I write things out, she claims willingness to sit ‘like adults’ to talk, but when we try this, she uses power plays and interruptions to prevent me from talking. When the raging starts, I leave the room. Occasionally, after time passes, she comes back to me to apologize…but my fear of another conflict is constant. Texting in this case is the only way I can at least FEEL like I’ve been heard. This person is a close relative, so leaving is not an option. My point is, saying NEVER to text during a conflict may be unfair to those of us with limited options.

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