The Only Method You Will Ever Need to Achieve Good Mental HealthWhat is good mental health?

It is the ability to be fully in reality as it is, without requiring it to be anything other than it is right now.

Having this ability ensures that you respond appropriately to situations, with the right kind of emotion and at the right level of intensity. Over time, being fully present to reality as it is now generates a stable sense of self that is non-reactive, doesn’t take things personally and greets each day with a calm, clear, light and joyful eagerness.

Contrast this with the frequently chaotic and busy mind that you are probably familiar with during stressful times. A mind that judges the present moment as never good enough. A mind that says: “I shouldn’t be feeling this way” and says “Why?” in an impatient tone, meaning “This present moment isn’t OK and if I try hard enough I can force it to be different.”

This is a cycle that creates suffering — anxiety, misery, anguish, despair and confusion.

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The Only Method You Will Ever Need to Achieve Good Mental Health

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  1. This article is spot on. “Mindfulness is a practice that allows us as individuals to be fully present in the moment. Dialectical Behavior Therapy teaches mindfulness skills so individuals can learn to recognize their emotions, sensations, urges, and thoughts without getting stuck on, or reacting to what they observe. ”

    Thank you for sharing this!

  2. Thank you so much for this article. As one living with ptsd I find this spot-on and so helpful in getting in touch the present moment-even when the moments are sometimes terrifying. Acknowledging how I feel in my body while in a safe place causes me enough cognitive dissonance to challenge fear with reality. It doesn’t go away for good, but does allow me the promise of peace, which is better than the alternative. Hope, it promises hope.

    • I have PTSD and have found this helpful too. Another thing I find helpful is physical exercise like going for a long walk.

  3. I have found that after a long period of abuse the mind is no longer in touch with the body. I am guessing it is a defensive mechanism to avoid noticing pain, noticing the abuse.
    The article is a form of meditation. It allows the mind and body to become one again. I found abuse can now be felt and no reaction is necessary. Purely the act of removing myself from it resolves the sistuation.

  4. Thank You for writing this article. As one living with ptsd and paranoid schizophrenia, I find I was doing some of the things you mention and not realizing it while walking with my dog. I will make an effort to follow everything. Sometimes it is a real struggle to stay in or be in the present time. I will refer to this often.

  5. Thank you Sophie! I’ve noticed that when I focus on the past or future, I follow these painful stories of how I wanted or want things to be. Usually, when I focus on the now, I feel more calm. This certainly will require practice, a lot of patience, and an openness to not always getting the results I want (such as instant peace and calm), but I know the benefits of practicing mindfulness. I finally understand what people mean when they say “centering” yourself, or “grounding” yourself. Now, I understand the importance of those ways of being. I’m printing this article, and will refer to it daily so I can begin this mindfulness journey. Thanks again!

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