In my 20 years as a psychologist, I have seen that self-blame is a major obstacle to change. Itâ€™s paralyzing and damaging and the enemy of growth.
Often, before I can help a patient address a problem, we have to first climb this mountain of self-blame, and then find our way down to the other side.
I have seen that the people most prone to self-blame are people who grew up with childhood emotional neglect (CEN). This is because CEN is invisible and unmemorable, yet leaves people with significant struggles in adulthood.