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3 Tips for Bringing Out the Best in Your Relationship


Imagine getting into a cab and when the driver asks you where you’d like to go, you say, “Not here.”

That’s the analogy couples therapist Elliott E. Connie, MA, LPC, used when explaining that the traditional approach of focusing on how to remove problems isn’t helpful. “[I]f you don’t like where you are, the most logical solution is to figure out where you’d like to be, and figure out how to get there.”

When we focus on fixing what’s wrong, we focus on the problem. When we focus on the problem, all we learn about is the problem, he said. “Whatever we focus our attention on will inevitably grow.”

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3 Tips for Bringing Out the Best in Your Relationship

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  1. Me and my wife very much need dare nights these days.

  2. Normal everyday living takes over and you forget what made you love that person. The date night works very well. A vacation, even a weekend, is also helpful.

 

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