Got Dating Fatigue? It Might Be Time For A BreakThis guest article from YourTango was written by Dave Elliot

Everyone can understand why it’s a mistake to do your grocery shopping when you’re starving. It’s common sense: not only are you guaranteed to make poor and impulsive choices that don’t serve you well, you’ll also probably blow your budget and literally “pay the price later” for your indiscretions. Any time you combine foggy thinking and weakness with the strong pull of your baser instincts, you are setting yourself up for a painful “learning experience.”

Sounds logical, but let’s take it a step further. These are also the same reasons why you shouldn’t be dating if you’re not feeling nourished, satiated and grateful about yourself and your life. It’s easy to have a snack before hitting the supermarket, but why do we find it so difficult to take a step back from the dating pool when we’re feeling exhausted?

And how do you know when you’re really ready? In order to help you confirm that you are indeed ready to date, I’ve created six simple check-in questions for you to ask yourself.

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Got Dating Fatigue? It Might Be Time for a Break

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  1. Really great post!
    I totally agree!

  2. Thank you for this insightful article. It’s just what I needed at this time. I’m nearing 50 and have been out of the dating circle for many years for assorted reasons; mainly I took myself out of it because my experiences with it were not good and only added to a list of issues I had to deal with at the time. I’ve recently got to know a man with who I think I could have a good relationship but needed to settle my mind about it first. This helped me a great deal…so thank you!

  3. Great site. I like all your informative post about dating. I keep visiting your blog very often. It is great to see how you verbalize from the heart and your clarity on this important subject can be easily observed. Thank you for information you been putting on making your site such an interesting. I gave something for my information. I’ll be visiting your site again.Thank you very much.

  4. I have to say, while this blog has some really valid points, as a single woman, I am so tired of reading things that basically tell me I still have work to do and I’m not really ready for “the One” because things haven’t lined up yet. Online dating is a numbers game and people bring plenty of baggage to that dating world. Whether it’s real-time dating or online dating, I have been open, honest, loving and ready (and able to give) the real thing. It’s rather offensive to always get advice that I’m not ready or sabotaging relationships when things don’t work out. Dating is a gamble and becomes more difficult as we get older. If anything, I’m learning to tune out all the “advice” that people give and just trust my instincts on how I want to show up in a relationship as well as how I want my partner to show up.

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