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7 Persistent Myths about Introverts & Extroverts


Myths and misunderstandings about both introverts and extroverts abound. Introverts don’t like people. Extroverts are shallow. Introverts are snobby. Extroverts are awful listeners.

These are just some of the fictions surrounding these types. So what are the facts?

“The introvert gets their energy from within, while the extrovert is charged up by people, places and stimuli outside of them,” according to Jennifer B. Kahnweiler, Ph.D, a certified speaking professional, executive coach and author.

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7 Persistent Myths about Introverts & Extroverts

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  1. I am 71 and have had two evaluations. Both show I am a severe introvert; however, I have many associates but, probably not confidants. I know that as you come into middle age your introvert size attempts to gravitate to the extrovert. I think this is true to some extent but, I do maintain my private traits. Some people are surprised that I am so friendly. If required I can stand up and speak about a subject that is being discussed.

  2. Margarita, you managed to summarize this very complex issue into bite sized pieces that make sense! And it invites me to look at the TED talks and read the research. Thank you, Cynthia

  3. Great article explaining both preferences – Bravo!

  4. Discovering the different between introverts and extroverts a few years ago changed everything in terms of the way I saw myself and others. I’m not sure who taught the common stereotypes that introverts are shy and not out going and extroverts are the opposite. This article provides great insight into this! I’m definitely posting this on my blog. As a musician and public speaker, people tend to think I’m extroverted, and I thought so too. Then I realized that I’m an introvert because I do require time to myself to recharge. Then I can go out and make great music! :) Thank you for affirming this.

  5. I disagree on you saying one can not be an introvert or an extavert. Myself being an extreme introvert can not genuinely relate to an extravert in anyway, but I have some friends who are extraverts. Extraverts are thought of as more articulate on a general basis. Being a blithering outspoken ignoramus does not make you articulate. I can be somewhat extraverted in some cases although I don’t enjoy it and it wears me down. I choose to not speak excessively because your words become less valuable. I also only talk when proving or disproving a point. It’s pointless to talk about pointless stuff.

  6. Thanks for mentioning happiness in your post. As an introvert one thing that I’ve noticed is that I have to remind myself to smile. It’s not that I’m not happy, in fact I am a very happy, positive person, but when I am preoccupied and thinking about something and I often forget to smile. And so on the outside I don’t look very happy.

  7. Hi Margarita,
    I have a balance of introversion and extraversion. Like an introvert, I’m selectively social and I am picky about my friends. I’m deeply drawn to eccentric people particularly people who love theater. I am highly intimidated by argumentative and aggressive people.

  8. The myth I always hear is that extroverts “take their energy from those around them.” I’m a total extrovert, but people tell me all the time that they feel more energized after being with me. The view that extroverts are energy vampires is just weird. I think it’s more a case of introverts expending their own energy in social settings. The fact that it required a lot of energy for an introvert to be at a party doesn’t mean it was stolen from them.
    That is the belief I find to be most odd.

 

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