When You Don't Get What You WantI don’t do well with “letting go.” Loss is hard. Loss, of any kind, is painful. Loss is especially tough when it gives way to the cruel honesty that you’re just not going to get what you want. I’ve had to face this reality a few times with regard to botched romantic relationships; I’d throw myself into the emotional process of trying to sift through the scattered pieces from all the broken glass.

And then there’s this quote:

“Remember that sometimes not getting what you want is a wonderful stroke of luck.”

Potent words, spoken by the Dalai Lama, that I’ve frequently seen on personal development sites. It’s pretty comforting, right? That stressful period that’s awfully draining and miserable might actually be for the best.

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When You Don’t Get What You Want

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  1. Thank you for this wonderful article! We love the saying, “Find the STRENGTH in letting go” which we know you’ll appreciate (: It is times like those devastating ones described above that make us test our deepest sense of self and how real our faith and courage is. When it feels like we lose everything, what still remains?? We like to remind ourselves to question this and measure how strong we really are. The beauty of loss is that we hold fast to our most humble selves and get in touch with what matters most to us. This is an important reminder we all-too-oftentimes forget.

  2. You know, after reading and reading, and especially just finishing Shirley MacLaines Book “Out on a Limb” I finally realized WHY I DID come for this life on Earth. Because I love to help people. That’s why I became a CNA, and that’s why I help whomever I can, when they come to me for help. So I finally realize that without the knowledge I am getting from this life, as well as the experience, I would not BE able to help others, when I “Get Home,” be it the “Greys” or any other civilization that needs or can benefit from my help. Finally, just this moment, this all became clear, and now, I can cope with why I can’t have it this way or that way, or my way. It is for the better of everyone, and that should be the way for most of us to think. (But not the Russian/Soviet way.) I think my path will be a lot easier now, realizing this. Thanks for all of your wonderful articles. Keep up the good work. geo

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