Why Withdrawing Doesn't Always WorkBefore Busy Philipps moved to “Cougar Town” or James Franco was partying with his buddies at the end of the world, they were Kim Kelly and Daniel Desario of Judd Apatow and Paul Feig’s beloved-yet-short-lived series, “Freaks and Geeks.”

Despite having their heartfelt moments throughout the series, Daniel and Kelly were generally either arguing, breaking up or making up.

At the beginning of episode 12, “The Garage Door,” Daniel thinks he has it figured out: withdraw. But does such a strategy actually work?

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Why Withdrawing Doesn’t Always Work

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  1. I know this scenerio. I live in it for over 20 yrs. My ex-husband was emotionally unavailable much of the time. When we argued he knew spoke he side and then wanted to end the discussion or would tell me I was wrong when I told him how I felt or what I was thinking. We went in circles without any progress. So, to end the tension, I would be the one to say I’m sorry and try my best to avoid conflict. I is a very unhealthy cycle and does not help the relationship. If you don’t have both people willing to participate in open communication the relationship will definitely suffer.

  2. Well, it’s true in some cases but not in others. I guess it depends on whether the non-withdrawer is a pursuer or not. When I withdraw, my husband is content with having won the discussion (not argument, since we never argue), he doesn’t pursue because there would be no point, and peace is restored. So withdrawing works _extremely_ well in the case of our marriage.

    So it all depends on the people involved.

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