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When You Are the Partner of a Sex Addict, Part 2


Grief and addiction share a common trait: denial. Denial is a very normal stage of the grief process; denying the loss of a person, place or thing is a typical first reaction when a person loses something valuable in his or her life.

However, with addiction, denial also plays a key role. In addictive behaviors, there is usually global denial regarding the addictive behaviors, and the impact of the behavior on others.

As a partner of an addict, denial can appear as overlooking your intuitions in the relationship that something doesn’t feel right. Underneath this denial, there is usually a lot of rationalizing, that is, talking yourself out of the gut feeling that something is very wrong.

This can be a survival mechanism that stems from your family of origin.

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When You Are the Partner of a Sex Addict, Part 2

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  1. Hi Alexandra, I have A Christian 45year sex addict for a soon to be X. He tells me he is totally heal of sex addiction now. He is not a sex addict anymore. He has only been in counseling for 8 months. He told me Pure Desire has him on a fast track to overcoming this addiction. After 40 years of his unfaithfulness, control, manipulation, and spiritual abuse. His polygraph showed he never had sex with another women, just porn and masturbating. Plus the controlling and so on.
    Can you tell me if it’s possible to be totally cured after 8 months?

    Thank you

 

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