Emotional Infidelity: A Surprising Issue In Lesbian RelationshipsThis guest article from YourTango was written by Christine Dunn-Cunningham.

Beth thought her girlfriend Sue had been acting differently. Ever since Sue started spending more time with her friend Amanda, Beth had noticed a change in her behavior.

“At first, I was happy for Sue,” Beth confessed. “She doesn’t have a lot of close friends, and I thought her friendship with Amanda would bring her out of her shell.”

“But then they started calling and texting each other constantly. I had the nagging feeling that Sue was pulling away from me and our relationship. I know nothing physical was happening between the two of them. It just didn’t feel right.”

What Beth was experiencing in her relationship was something called emotional infidelity( or emotional cheating) and it happens all too often in lesbian relationships.

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Emotional Infidelity: A Surprising Issue In Lesbian Relationships

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  1. …happened to me, watched it happen too, wish i’d read this article then…might have dealt with the situation better and saved the relationship. But then again, in retrospect – meh! ;)

  2. Hi Mooch,

    That’s not what a marriage consists of. One man and one woman, not cheating and saying ‘meh’ in retrospect.

    Your lesbian lifestyle / lovestyle is disgusting and unnatural that’s why most of them don’t last.

    But then again, in retrospect – meh ;)

    • Wow. As a heterosexual [which really shouldn't matter], I can say that you do not speak for all heterosexual people. An a more intelligent person than you [which is probably due to the fact that my path along the evolutionary trail is much more advanced than your dead-end turn], I am aware [obviously you aren't] that homosexuality is not deviant and occurs frequently throughout the animal kingdom. You are also probably not aware that humans are members of the animal kingdom.

      I should also point out that the premise upon which you have predicated your argument is void due to a large number of reasons, of which I have listed two below:

      -The is no such thing as a “god” and any religious excuses are based on superstitious vestiges formed by ancient ancestors who had a lack of understanding of the world around them and the science that explains our interactions with same.

      -You have not done any research on the matter as all fact-based statistics clearly indicate that heterosexual relationships are far more likely to fail. Your opinion is exactly that – an opinion and as we all know: opinions are like assholes – everyone has one. The thing is, that while many opinions are valid [whether they are right or wrong], yours is covered in shit and not worth anything.

      You should probably seek help by presenting yourself by committing yourself to the nearest psychiatric ward and allowing experts to address the delusions that you have built your life upon.

      Have a nice day.

      • Wow. Why don’t you stick to the topic and content.

        The topic is not about who the commenter is. That’s simple character assassination.

        1) You claim “The is no such thing as a ‘god”’.

        Where did Bobby mention “god”?
        Why did you feel the need to spew out your beliefs?

        2) You wrote: “You have not done any research on the matter as all fact-based statistics clearly indicate that heterosexual relationships are far more likely to fail.”

        Do you have a source for this?

        3) “The thing is, that while many opinions are valid [whether they are right or wrong], yours is covered in shit and not worth anything.”

        Wow. Many opinions are valid – so long they conform with yours?

  3. Great post. Important to point out (like you did) that the line between friendship and emotional infidelity can be blurry!

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