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Best of Our Blogs: June 21, 2013

By Brandi-Ann Uyemura, M.A.
Associate Editor

Ever wish you were someone else, said something else or did something else? As someone who has stuck their foot in their mouth more times than necessary, I understand the suffering that comes with the territory. Envisioning what could be instead of what is can be a painful experience. Recreating scenes in your head with a different, better, more positive outcome, however, is like a prison.

It’s often not what really happens that hurts us. It’s usually the anticipation of something or the desire to make reality what it’s not that causes us the most suffering in life.

To truly be happy, we need to free ourselves from the fantasy of how we want things to be and learn to find the beauty in the ugly truth of what is. This may mean accepting that a loved one has a serious illness, being more mindful of your current experience, understanding that you can’t do everything and help everyone or realizing who’s truly responsible for your happiness. Our top posts this week will address each of them.

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