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Turning Guilt Into Good

By Therese J. Borchard
Associate Editor

200px-Kite_runner.jpgThe most powerful line in Khaled Hosseini’s “The Kite Runner” is this: “And that, I believe, is what true redemption is, Amir jan, when guilt leads to good.”

My regrets are different from the narrator of “The Kite …

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Turning Guilt Into Good

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  1. Beautifully said, Therese. A very moving post.

  2. yes u are right, if guilt was left without being dealt with then it will surely turn into depression
    really useful post thanks

  3. My only son died last year and for all the years he lived I always hugged, kissed him and told him I loved him when we had to part. I may not have liked many of the things he did, but I never, not for a moment lost the love I had for him. That love still fills my heart with joy.
    I also, years ago, decided I would do my best to make sure I didn’t stand in front of a coffin and say I wished I would have. I feel good that everyone knows how imporant they are to me because I tell them every chance I get.

  4. I have learned that sometimes guilt is inappropriate; that I am not the one who did harm. This is not meant to deny your statements, only to warn that not all guilt we feel is earned.

  5. Unfortunately, sometimes there is too much damage done from one’s mistakes that can never be undone. One could spend the rest of their life bending over backwards to assuage their guilt, but it will never be enough.

  6. A nice feelgood post. I feel though that guilt is a rather ‘irresponsible’ emotion/response. It is rather ‘convenient’ that we do not do the right thing and then try to get brownie points because one is nice enough to feel guilty about it. Redeeming ourselves in our own eyes is definitely a very strong drive for us as humans and credit needs to be given for those who realize that there are things they should not have done and make an effort to make amends but as said earlier it may not be enough. It is very possible and easy somehow find cop out by merely acknowledging one’s guilt.
    The best way is to live mindfully.

  7. I love that quote too and now I cannot find it in the book. I am trying to set the context for my daughter.

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