7 Reasons to Move In TogetherThis guest article from YourTango was written by Kim Olver.

Should you go from boyfriend and girlfriend to roommates?

According to the CDC, more and more couples are cohabiting. About 30 percent of these living arrangements will result in marriage, 27 percent of couples will break up and 32 percent will stay living together.

This tells me that some couples are using it as a test run for marriage, while others are not necessarily “practicing” marriage, but are thinking about marriage as a possibility. So how do you know if it’s the right decision for you?

Here are seven things to consider.

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7 Reasons to Move In Together

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  1. This article breaks my heart in so many ways. Most of these reasons are very self-centered and not couple focused. Living together with someone to “test drive” them, robs that person of their human dignity. All persons, men and women, deserve respect and care. True love respects the other, and is not so focused on the self that it becomes blind to the others needs. I felt that the way this article was approached lacked emotion, accurate statistics and made relationships akin to shopping for a car. Human beings are not so replaceable. True love within marriage is meant to last a lifetime, not something to drop carelessly when it stops making you perfectly happy. Relationships are hard, that’s true, but the solution is not more lax ideas about dating/commitment.

  2. This is a very sad article and certainly does not help men and women live to their full potential.

  3. I personally believe you should only move in with someone if your ultimate goal is marriage or to be life-partners. If it doesn’t work out, then it doesn’t work. I do personally believe living together for 1-2 years before marriage is helpful, but a couple shouldn’t move in together until they’ve decided that they are interested in potentially marrying.

    I think if your goal is because it’s less expensive to live with someone else, there’s such a thing as “roommates.” And having a roommate also teaches you what it’s like to live with antoher person without having to be romantically involved.

  4. I will not live with my boyfriend without marrying that is no security. Thats just the way I see it

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